For me, it's a combination* of
Looks (duh) - Cute, slim, brunette, natural C-cups
Dancing style - slow, sensual, intimate, hands-on
Personality - Fun, flirty, chatty, sassy
So how about you?
*Goes without saying that she's not a ROB, bonus points if she seems to enjoy her job (or at least fakes it well)
@moto - I'm probably most flexible in the looks department - 2 long time favs were dirty blondes with fake tits, but had all the other qualities
Asian and personable, then the rest I can deal with.
One who takes pride in giving "the best blowjob I ever had".
Went to the club to watch the Bruins get their ass kicked. Fav. sat down and I told her I was just going to watch the game and drink and that as she needed money she should find others. She replied I'd rather watch the game with you, which she did. Great CR after.
Latina with long, jet black hair who has a good attitude
Being treated the way I like to be treated.
Blonde hair, big boobs, no morals.
Personality first and foremost. The rest will fall into place.
Various things that add up for me:
-Long hair (preferably without extensions) -No/few tattoos -Not too skinny, not too fat -C cup at least -A brain and education -Stimulating conversation -Maturity, yet an open-mindedness about all things sex -Flexibility (do the splits across me and I'm yours) -Sensitivity (get goosebumps if I blow in your ear) -Eye contact and a great connection with me
Knows how to grind (slow and sensual), has silky skin, and gives me the GFE vibe--That will make her to my favorite list (i.e. repeated business).
Sweet and genuine smile, interesting life beside stripping--That would push her to my candidates of ATF.
Great sex--Forget what I said above.
Looks. Pretty face and a cute ass as openers.
Personality. Cute, fun, funny, interesting, doesn't drop too much stripper drama on me.
She's willing to overdeliver: she gives me extra time, even if she's low touch she allows lots of touching for me
She will eventually meet me OTC for a low price, which includes very long OTC dates and possibly overnights
She's willing to drink with me
That's what every one of my faves has in common, otherwise she only rises to "second tier". I broke up with my latest ATF of 1.5 years and am drifting among some second-tier contenders at the moment.
Basically, everybody's nailed it.
18-21
D or bigger breasts
Tattoos
Black hair
Gets fucked up with me
Likes rough sex
It just struck me that there are common themes running through all of our comments, yet there are few dancers that actually do these things. Hell, there have been dancers that really looked pretty plain but carried themselves well and were flirty and smart and sensual and graceful and became favorites of mine. Is it really all that tough? Girls just need to talk to customers and other dancers and notice what works, then keep doing it and they will make bank. How many dancers are wildly off the mark, walking around in a self-contained daze. I have seen bucket guys at the car wash with more enthusiasm for their jobs than a lot of these dancers.
Most of the previous comments apply to me, except all natural. No fake boobs. That's a deal killer.
I have preferences in other areas (no tattoos, no piercings, slim, etc.) but all of those I've found exceptions to. But surgical enhancement is one I can't get past.
Athletic curvy, most dancers that I usually get dances are these types.
Gemma of Spearmint Rhino could be a fav, she has some of the qualities, tho. Tall, very young, blond, perfect body. I remember her asking me for a dance and told her I have only this money left, not enough, and she still went for it. Next time, I will just say "no money" and simply watch her dance on stage.
3)Britney Amber ( bit.ly ), the porn actress, she is something definitely could be a favorite. She has curves in the right places. Not tall enough for me, but she would be perfect for a lap dance, because her boobs would align right to my mouth. I was able to get a chat, asked her how much for the grind, she was charging $100 per song. Etc, etc, etc. I did have a good convo with her, which is really nice. Hope she remembers me.
The CF I'm seeing, she has nice smooth athletic body with some curves. She's very entertaining to the point of overwhelming, she just keeps on going, and going, and going. And she is sexually active as well.
The stripper I met in Tucson AR, she's top shelf in that club, I still think about her up this day. Even wrote the review about the experience with her. Athletic body type with little curves, awesome cute face, I can see a little of Liv Tyler in her face though.
There is a dancer I met at a Portland OR dive. Very very long black hair, about 5'6" tall (no shoes on). She just knows how to turn me on. I don't know how she gets it done, but I end pretty high with her grinding moves, how she covers the side of my face so that no one can see her (french) kissing me. I'm still seeing her ITC.
This black dancer in Houston TX, she is also top shelf, but the one thing she did to me was how she grinded me. Her labia somehow had this huge feel on my dick, like the labia became a vice grip and man, I just lost it, spent more than I could afford.
Met Amelia in Vegas, she is one perfect specimen, probably the best the SC has. And we just had a sexual attraction which led to interesting sexual moments. She looks like Paulina Porizkova ( bit.ly ). I'll have to write a review about this encounter later.
Another mixed latina-black, met her in San Antonio TX. Man, she is just another top shelf in that SC. Perfect 36-24-36 body, braided black hair, awesome package. We had good connection, gave a super hard slow deliberate grind, same labia tight grip on my dick, as well, almost came but had to lower down the knob a bit. She was a pleaser.
There's so much I could write, so many chicks I met and had awesome dances from, but I'll stop here.
Notice the pattern, I think it's not about the looks or awesome attributes that make her stand out. To me, it's about her skillz and the connection we have. Thing though all of these girls are awesome looking.
above average looks (doesn't need to be a 10ish)
personality
pretty much any cup size is fine as long as they're natural and not 'deflated'
@looneylarry: You hit on something pretty solid.
Now granted, I'll quote a legendary rock band when I say "I want it all," by which I mean I want a girl with both looks and personality. But I think it's fair to say that personality is more of a rarity than looks.
I've seen all four:
If I had to rank them, from most to least:
Supply (quantity of dancers in my club experience): 1,3,2,4
Demand (my preference): 4,2,3,1
The 4s are the ATF material. Hard to find, though, because they're less apt to do this sort of thing for a living.
I have to find her attractive/desirable – for me this usually means nice curves (nice ass and tits or at least one of the two and the bigger the better) – I’m fine w/ an avg face
consistency – treats me well every time – does not take me for granted – is happy to see me or is at least smart enough to make me fully believe she is happy to see me (and many women are good at faking this if they want/have to)
does not deny me her body – i.e. tit and ass groping and some titty sucking is accepted and better if it’s encouraged
GFE would def be a plus but not a requirement
non-smoker (smoker is not necessarily a deal breaker but I’ve never had a “fave†dancer be a smoker and I’ve never had a GF that smoked)
natural breasts – can’t stand fake boobs and pass on fake-boobed dancers 95% of the time
no tats or one or two at most and not too big – but not a dancer that looks like a biker chick
black ethnicity
not too young (prefer them over 25)
All dancers who have been my ATF's have had the following in common.
Fit firm body - Two were fitness models.
Very hot at least a 9 body and face.
A great personality.
Very smooth lap dances, and especially good at grinding with her ass.
Would not let up at all during the dance, no pauses or posing.
Pushed the boundaries way past what the club allowed, and past any other dancer in the club.
Not afraid to get a guy off in her dance, and could get me off anytime I had a dance with her.
Knew what I liked, but always added something new to our dances.
Additionally the majority had one or more of the following in common: Large nipples that she liked having played with. Would sit me with me and talk for a while after our dance. Lots of seductive or even outright dirty talk during the dance.
Two of my ATF's even introduced me to my next ATF.
I'll go with steve229's base description, but I like 'em taller than me (over 5'7") and with an accent of some sort, if possible.
Substitute "blonde" for "brunette" and you nailed it bro.