Situational Virtue
chandler
Blue Ridge Foothills
Are strippers who work in high contact clubs in cities where that is the norm any "looser" than strippers in cities where less touching is accepted? My observations lead me to believe that strippers are by and large the same from one community to another, and they adapt their standards of virtue (to put it quaintly) to what the situation demands. In other words, when I'm in a club and city where touching the dancer's tits is allowed, a typical stripper I meet will remind me most of a typical stripper in a club and city where touching is allowed, but not the tits. She has less in common with the girl there who breaks the rules and lets guys feel her nipples. In fact, if she were transplanted to the stricter club, she might badmouth the rule-breaker. Obviously, it is questionable how broadly this applies, and everyone has their own limits. Do you think there is an underlying consistency to what may appear to be shifting morals?
(Forgive me if this has been discussed here before. It would surprise me if it hasn't. Also, this is one topic where it's too bad there aren't strippers to join in.)
(Forgive me if this has been discussed here before. It would surprise me if it hasn't. Also, this is one topic where it's too bad there aren't strippers to join in.)
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And, lest we think this "cattiness" is limited to strippers, or to women, it is a very common human trait for which Freud coined the phrase "narcissism of small differences". I think "myopia of small differences" might be a more understandable way to put it. We reserve our greatest scorn for others who resemble us most closely except for one small point of departure. That point defines our boundaries and taboos more clearly than more obvious differences between ourselves and total outsiders. So, you don't hear dancers talk much trash about streetwalkers, but the other dancer who does an occasional extra is made out to be some kind of Hitler in a G-string.
Several years ago I had two favs at the same club who where friends. As time went by one of the ladies started aging a little less gracefully than the other. As the uglier dancer started losing business to the pretier one she started spreading false rumors about the pretty girl doing extras in the champagne room. The rumors where false, in fact, the uglier dancer was the one who had actually resorted to offering extras to try and get back her lost business. Never underestimate the effect that money and jelousy can have on a woman.