ATF Drama With Her GF

You feel like you might be in love with her?

I think that may be too much drama for you to get in the way off.

If I read it correctly; the problem is b/w two female lovers – talk about drama and estrogen overload – no place for you to stick your nose in IMO.

Why pry?

H4D, I have strong feelings for my ATF, but have no illusions of becoming her BF at any time. I just hope she steers away from this drama.

She is going to do what she is going to anyway. If you get in the middle of it, you lose. Just let it unfold and be there when its all over

Take a walk dude,trust me on this one.I'm back in the civvie world.

Hmmmm....mighty precarious territory to get into there, 3LM. Tread cautiously and I'd suggest be there to listen if she wants to vent, but don't bring it up or question her about it.

I would take Lopaw's advice. The best thing for you is to listen if she needs you to but don't try to solve anything.

tumblingdice - Did you get kicked out again? If you are back in the civvie world, why are you posting on here?

“… I DO NOT want to talk about my love life …”

“… I have strong feelings for my ATF …”

Having “feelings” for a dancer can be hazardous for your wallet and state of mind IMO.

You fave’s statement about not wanting to talk about her love life makes me think you are not part of her “love life” – she probably keeps you, her revenue stream, and her personal life, separate. She probably sees you as her revenue stream; not as someone she wants to get personally involved with – so you may not want to get personally involved with someone whom does not want to get involved with you.

Many of these dancers have issues that most likely you will not be able to resolve – getting involved in her personal life/issues will most likely mean they may become your issues.

At the end of the day; you can likely end up lighter in the wallet and having been taken for an emotional rollercoaster ride – i.e. if you get involved in her biz/personal-life; often times many of a dancer’s personal problems are financial; and guess who she will turn to with her financial issues; yes “Mr. Helper”.

It’s her life and she is going to live it her way.

You have mentioned b4 about a fave whom I think is black and lives in a housing project; and then on top of this she is a lesbian also? – if I got the person correct. I don’t know your bio; but if you are not black; live or have lived in housing projects; and know about lesbian relationships; I don’t think you know what you may be in for.

But this is just my opinion - I actually got involved with a dancer about 10 years ago trying to be “Mr. Helper” and it was a fiasco. This was way b4 my TUSCL education and I was younger then.

Also – most of the accounts that have been posted on TUSCL over the years of involvements with dancers seemed to not have ended well in particular those dealing w/ dancers’ issues.

leave it alone

Moments like this are a cold reminder of just what you are to your favorite - a customer who pays her for [inset services here]. Your advice may very well have been good, but she doesn't want to hear it coming from you. She doesn't view you as friend, at least in the classic sense, and as soon as the money is gone then so is she.

I'm stating what many here would consider the obvious, but since you have developed "strong feelings" for her, I suspect that you might be getting a little too caught up in her. As should be clear from her response, she does not reciprocate.

During most of my clubbing years, I have been lucky in a weird sense as I have (1) been something of a club gypsy; and (2) almost never been without a serious SO. These factors have really helped to keep me grounded, but even so I've had periods of time with certain exceptional girls where I felt drawn to their plights. I can only imagine how much more I might have been sucked into their worlds had those factors not been at play.

This may be a wake-up call for you 3legged. Maybe it's time to spread it out a bit? In any event, good luck.

You should reconcile your CF and her girlfriend by suggesting a 3-way.

If you're fucking her OTC and not paying her then you can pry. If it's p4p then you need to respect her boundaries because you are a customer, not a friend/family.

I NEVER post anything on my dancer's FB pages that has anything to do with anything personal. They aren't 'dancer' pages; they are mom, sister, daughter, friends pages if you get my drift. It would be inappropriate for me to get involved in their personal lives beyond a 'casual friend' who swaps jokes or offers compliments.

Well, boys and girls, I've taken your advice and made apologies for my meddling and I'm now stepping far back from anything that concerns the GF. Hoping for all to go well at the next OTC in a few weeks.

Smart move 3 Legged Man.

Gotta say that I'm not completely a RIL, but from a quick look at the GF's FB page, it was obvious to me that 6-7 other lovely young ladies have varying degrees of devotion to her, including one that refers to her as "wifey". My ATF correctly determined this is not my business. She didn't want to hear that there are sharks in the water where she chooses to swim. She'll be learning without any more advice from me.

Some of life's best lessons are taught by making stupid mistakes after not heeding good advice. I suspect that this ATF might learn things the hard way.

Do what I do.When my whatever has hotflashes with her GF I just disappear for a week or two.

Oh wait Shodow,the door bell just rang.

You piss stripper shit.

Fuckin Wombats.

You're no Alucard but my backhand is cocked.

Tonite she posts about a phone call that make her question the value of falling in love. A bunch of friends are taking her out for drinks. I'm thinking the GF has opted for one of her other ladies.

Hey,you pay your admission fee,go for a ride and get off when you see cracks and rust on the rails.

@3LeggedMan: "I have strong feelings for my ATF"

Run. Trust me on this one.

Looks like the drama is over. ATF is back to going out with her old set of friends and her sisters. For the time being I think life will be a little more stable.