Homosexuality
SlickSpic
About 10 years ago, a younger cousin of mine who was in high school came out of the closet to me. I was the first family member he ever confessed his true sexuality to. I know why he chose me. I'm a misfit, a trouble maker, a law breaker, and someone who marches to the beat of his own drummer. My cousin coming out changed not just his life but mine.
I was brought up in a very Catholic, very machismo oriented family. Homosexuality was taboo. Now, here is my cousin baring his soul to me. He's vulnerable. He's alone. He needs more than tolerance. He needs acceptance. Would I be able to do that? Yes, I could.
Was it easy? No. Did I not have second thoughts? Yes, I did. But my cousin needed me. I was there for him. I learned a lot about myself because of him. I went beyond merely tolerating something that I was brought up to hate to accepting him, his lifestyle, and his boyfriend.
Not too long after he came out of the closet, I got a promotion but it was in the Hollywood area. If you're not from California then you might not know the difference between San Bernardino and Hollywood but my Cali peeps and ex-pats know.
I spent a year and a half working in homosexual households. Once again, this experience taught me a lot about myself. I also learned that when homosexuals move into shitty neighborhoods, they make them better. Property values increase. The aesthetic of the neighborhood increases. Places like Echo Park, Silverlake, and Los Feliz become hip and happening places to stay at.
I also spent many Saturdays working in Palm Springs(another well known homosexual haven). I've had more conversations, been in closer proximity, and have been in more homosexual homes than most non-homosexuals ever have been.
I don't have shit to prove to you, Alucard. If you wanna get mad at me, so be it. While you were getting your pretty, pink panties in a bunch over one F-Bomb on Sunday morning, my homosexual cousin and his boyfriend were helping me clean up my place after Saturday nights dinner party. Oh yeah, I told my cousin that he washes dishes like a fag. His reply-Do you still need a booster seat to look over the steering wheel(I'm short). I laughed, I didn't whine.
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The Uptown area on the northside of Chicago used to be a bad area with cheap rent and I moved there shortly out of college. Then the gay community started moving in and crime went way down, more businesses opened and by the time I had the means to buy my house in the burbs, it had become a very upscale area.
Of course, this is a very minor point when talking about homophobia in general...but I will say as a segment of the population I'd rather be in a gay community than a misogynist working class heterosexual community.
If the reports are true that half of the military sexual assault victims are men, then who is attacking them? Is homosexual assault a problem in the U.S. military, but it is polictically incorrect to ask questions about it because it would cloud the abililty of gays to serve openly? Being gay does not entitle a person to some cloak of nobility and special status, rendering them protected from being questioned about criminal behavior, assaulting children or exploiting positions of supervisory authority. Gays, like staights, have and will engage in behavior that violates others rights to privacy, safety and job security.
Heterosexual men have long exploited supervisory authority to coerce sexual favors from women. Are we to pretend that gay men won't demand sexual favors from straight men in exchange for promotions in the military or the workplace?
Marriage equality is fine, but what happens to the children in the divorce. The law holds that child custody is determined by weighing the best interests of the child. There is no longer a presumption in the law that prefers a mother having custody, but it's in the heads of most judges. Now what. Two men divorce. Who gets custody of the children?
We are facing a whole new set of issues and problems without much debate.
Some of this homophobia has to do with a generalized fear that you will be hit upon, pursued, objectified, corn holed. If that makes you queasy or weak at the knees, drives you crazy, or creates a bubbling resentment--how do you think women feel? Do you think they like the construction worker cat calls, the groping in the elevator, the undressing with the eyes, the lecherous look and the stalking? Oh, it's okay when you are the predator and not the prey. Every gay guy doesn't want to come onto you, so get over yourself. Just the same as every civvie 10 doesn't want to fuck you in the alley. And just to be clear, because of this site: I am NOT talking about the SC, because that is theater, that is a fantasy that you are purchasing.
Everybody thinks that mainline religion condones discrimination against gays and lesbians because of some overarching concept of sin. And those who are the most self-righteous are the first to reach for the stone. But not so fast. If we spent just a little more time trying to find the lonely, the dispossessed, the forgotten, the weary, the hungry, the mentally ill, the people who are tired of just hanging on, maybe we can make the world a bit better. There is way too much suffering. And no, it's not because they all deserve it.
And about this lifestyle thing. If I want to live like a Rastafarian, that is my choice. If I want to live like a hermit in the woods, that's my choice. If I want to live like a callous, pompous bastard with my own talk radio show, that is my choice to live that way. But when did you make the conscious choice to live a heterosexual lifestyle? Was it something that just happened, as a core part of your being? So heterosexuals are born but homosexuals just choose it? I think a powerful argument is that if homosexuality was a choice, do you really think people would choose the layers of unremitting day-to-day shit they have to put up with?
I really dont see the point of this uselessnessssss
@alabegonz - wtf are you talking about?
No, you don't think this thread is "ridiculous" at all. You find it angers you to even discuss the subject. You might want to either figure out why that is and deal with it, or pretend it doesn't anger you and just ignore posting here. The fact you DID post speaks volumes on how far we still need to go to live up to Christian ideals (and I'm a pagan, not a Christian).
One of our denomination's adopted tenets says a person who lives a chaste life or is partnered in a married relationship with one other person can be ordained. I can live with that.
Doug Stanhope has it right.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pmat0Vay…
Is it okay for gay people to call each other the word fag? I've seen it done in the same way by gay people, as it's done between straight people. Like I said the intent of how it's used is a big thing.