why do guys come into club deliberately sit next to you and start asking tons of questions when they have no intention of buying a drink a dance or even tipping a single dollar onstage? and then act surprised when you do not continue to sit with them?
Follow you to the bathroom, jestie? That's a new one. I guess, like many here, they aren't sure if you are actually a girl or a boy, so they want to see if you use the men's room or the ladies.
So you're a dancer named "baron"? Are you a male dancer? That'd be a first for here I think.
The simple answer is cause they're stupid, or have mental issues that put them out of touch with reality. But it doesn't help that a lot of dancers get up and walk away without a word. Before leaving, say that the manager doesn't like it for dancers to sit too long with customers who aren't buying dances. Probably not a lie, at least not entirely.
"Breaking down gender barriers..." Now I understand why some dancers congregate in the mens room at Ace of Spades in Detroit. Not for me. I'm too old school to accept that as a new norm.
Because that's our job! We are there to be who ever you want, an talk about watever you want but at the end of the day we are just trying to make money. So quite being greedy an buy at least one dance for the girl u like. An try to tip the girls on stage expecially if you notice no one has gone to her stage?
There are some guys in SCs (and people IRW) who'll do whatever they can to milk the "free" portion of a business for all they can. Why do people abuse the free samples at Costco? Or buy one movie ticket and then hit multiple flicks in a cineplex? Or share/take home food from an AYCE buffet? Just because they can, I guess, but it's still a form of stealing.
The idea seems to be that honestly for something is like a last resort, instead of willingly exchanging value for value. It's not how I like to interact with my fellow human (especially an attractive naked woman at my side), but there you go.
As with other businesses, I'd advise just to recognize there's a tendency toward freeloading with any complimentary marketing offer (which is what the introductory sit-down/chat is for you). Then as soon as you realize your investment won't pay off, politely terminate the interaction. You can even add upon your exit, that you need to circulate so you can make some money, which amounts to a tip for your friend that if he wants company, it's not free (at least for very long).
I make it a habit to seat myself on pervert row when I first get to a club that way I can tip the ladies dancing and not look like a cheap ass. It's also a good strategy when telling dancers that you're not interested in a dance. I'm busy watching the show.
Club I go to now, stayed at the rail and it did not stop them for asking for dances, it was day time and slow but I was trying to avoid that, oh well I am getting better at saying no.
Old-school etiquette was that when a patron was tipping the dancer on stage, a dancer would wait until the break in between dancers before she'd hit you up for a dance.
There are lots of dancers that also like to chill with you while your tipping at the stage. They understand the deal.
Many clubs the dancers get into trouble for approaching the rail while the stage is occupied unless invited by a patron and are only allowed to stay if the club is not crowded. I sometimes got to the rail to get away from a dancer that won't leave or I will go to the bathroom. I would rather pay the bathroom troll for a paper towel to dry my hands than a dancer for a dance I do not want.
As long as no club rules are being broken; if the custie pays his cover and buys his drink; he is not obligated in any way, shape, or form, to spend money on the dancers – that is 100% voluntary.
It is up to the dancer to sell herself per se w/ her looks and/or personality. If the custie is not interested, he/lopaw is not interested – end of discussion.
rite, so if ur not interested in me do not come over and sit with me. that's my feeling. said gentleman didn't tip or dance with any one else either. its happened twice in one week though, with second man actually waving me over, said he had to leave in 5 minutes, but he had to talk to me and give me his number first. he didn't offer a dollar or drink and said he must c me again. then after 5 minutes he left. I called the next time I worked just to c what he'd say and he asked me to date him. to me bizarre behavior even in a regular bar. to not offer someone a drink but then ask them out? thanks for the input
If you don’t like a particular customer; then don’t spend any time w/ him. There isn’t a rule that says you *have to* speak to him and listen to his shit.
Just like custies turn down dancers; a dancer can turn down a custie if she wants to.
There are definitely wacko people – but this goes for both customers and dancers – i.e. there are rude and out-of-line customers just and there are rude and out-of-line dancers – it’s a people thing – not a man/custie thing.
For every asshole customer story; we have our own bitch-dancer story – it goes both ways – just part of the territory.
Some people just don't understand how strip clubs work. Those are the people that say things like, "If you were my girl, you wouldn't NEED to dance here because I'd give you all the attention you want!" (What?) or "Do you ever meet guys from here? Like, do you work here to meet guys? To date?" (...What?) or my personal fave "I don't do dances, but I'd love to take you out to dinner!" Somewhere, there's a contingency of girls in their early-to-mid 20s that are apparently hermits and have to resort to working at strip clubs to meet men in middle management to take them to Applebees.
Mean Mister Mustard sleeps in the park
Shaves in the dark trying to save paper
Sleeps in a hole in the road
Saving up to buy some clothes
Keeps a ten bob note up his nose
Such a mean old man
Such a mean old man
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The simple answer is cause they're stupid, or have mental issues that put them out of touch with reality. But it doesn't help that a lot of dancers get up and walk away without a word. Before leaving, say that the manager doesn't like it for dancers to sit too long with customers who aren't buying dances. Probably not a lie, at least not entirely.
The idea seems to be that honestly for something is like a last resort, instead of willingly exchanging value for value. It's not how I like to interact with my fellow human (especially an attractive naked woman at my side), but there you go.
As with other businesses, I'd advise just to recognize there's a tendency toward freeloading with any complimentary marketing offer (which is what the introductory sit-down/chat is for you). Then as soon as you realize your investment won't pay off, politely terminate the interaction. You can even add upon your exit, that you need to circulate so you can make some money, which amounts to a tip for your friend that if he wants company, it's not free (at least for very long).
There are lots of dancers that also like to chill with you while your tipping at the stage. They understand the deal.
I agree. I hate it when dancers take all my $$$ and then are to “greedy†to even give me a free dance when I’ve ran out of $$$.
It is up to the dancer to sell herself per se w/ her looks and/or personality. If the custie is not interested, he/lopaw is not interested – end of discussion.
Just like custies turn down dancers; a dancer can turn down a custie if she wants to.
There are definitely wacko people – but this goes for both customers and dancers – i.e. there are rude and out-of-line customers just and there are rude and out-of-line dancers – it’s a people thing – not a man/custie thing.
For every asshole customer story; we have our own bitch-dancer story – it goes both ways – just part of the territory.
Shaves in the dark trying to save paper
Sleeps in a hole in the road
Saving up to buy some clothes
Keeps a ten bob note up his nose
Such a mean old man
Such a mean old man