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Increase in Services, odd development

Book Guy

I write it like I mean it, but mostly they just want my money.

At a few of my favorite clubs, the level of "service" available has increased recently and I want to ask y'all's opinions about this development.

The price for a lap-dance has not gone up. The girls who give more service are the most attractive girls, not the least desirable ones. The new girls still give the same level of not-particularly-high service, whereas the long-standing girls are increasing their service. I don't get it. It seems to contradict all the economic models I can imagine. It's backwards.

A little background on my clubbing habits. I have attended some clubs (and I don't need to name specifics for this discussion) regularly for about 5 years. I am not there all the time -- I attend probably twice, to four times, per month, usually on an "off night" because I don't like the crowds during the weekend. (Actually, I enjoy crowd-scenes well enough, they don't totally put me off, but I find that access to the girls becomes more limited when either low-paying frat-boy types or long-duration talk-to-the-girls-forever types congregate at clubs on weekends.) My clubs are more like "locals" joints, places that are not part of national chains, and not in mainstream clubbing or touristing districts. I enjoy them because the gals know my (fake) name, the bartenders are starting to remember my drinks and shake my hand, and basically I am not being taken advantage of by an up-sell. For example, if I have drunk three high-balls through the course of a long evening, and then I ask for a cup of water to hydrate and delay me and help sober up before my drive home, they'll give me a free bottle of water and even initially push my tip for the water back across the bar ("refusing" to accept it until I "insist").

In these clubs, there are women who have been working there for 5, 10 years. And I know them by their (fake) names, their schedules, whether they have tattoos in the secret parts of their bodies, whether they have kids, etc.. I have always gotten lap-dances at these clubs. I often would only get dances from one girl on a given night, often just three or four songs' worth, but it's an odd night when I leave without getting any dances at all. Girls are (rightly?) frustrated with me, because I don't buy a lot of drinks for them, because I don't buy a lot dances from a wide range of girls, and because I don't usually go back to the same girl more than once or twice before I "get the itch" to move on to a different girl. So, you can't say that any one girl has established me as "regular" customer, because once she starts to set her hooks into me, I lose interest and start to have wander-lust. In fact, one of the main reasons I attend strip clubs is because of my own instinctive wander-lust. I like the variety that I can't have in civilian life.

Anyway, that's some background. Now, into this mix, comes a change in atmosphere. Suddenly for me, the best girls are getting very gropey. I am NOT complaining! The amount of money and time that used to net for me a duration of three lap dances, of standard Tampa-straddle style, now nets for me much higher levels of service. In specific, there is now strong likelihood of unsolicited immediate start, by the girl, of reaching underneath my belt and underwear, for example. There is discussion and offer of release, finish, engagement for the whole nine yards, doing so in the back room (where I have never been), etc. etc.. My outlay of money and time has, for no apparent reason, suddenly begun to yield much more result, in terms of availability and cost of sexual services above and beyond the mere lap-dancing experience.

What surprises me, is that I can't explain it. If it were the case that the poor economy were motivating this phenomenon, then I would be getting greater service from girls who do NOT know me, either because they were new to dancing (and perhaps less aware of their club's official and unofficial rules; or more willing to break the rules because they're more desperate for the money even if they are aware of the rules). But I'm getting upped service from girls who DO know me. If, as another theory, it were the case that the girls' level of comfort with me had finally upped to the point that they felt they knew I wasn't a cop, knew I wasn't going to blab about it on the internet (doh! doing that right NOW!), or knew that I was "approved" by management somehow, then I would be getting this extra service in slow increments, first one girl then another, and there would be a feeling-out period during which the "old" girls with whom I had interacted for a long time, would slowly be increasing what they let me access -- and probably for a heightened price! Or, if it was the case, that the whole level of service in the whole industry was simply on the incline (maybe because of the economy) then, the girls I've known the longest, and am most familiar with, would not necessarily be giving more service (since they would know they didn't need to, in order to keep my business) even if there were competition among the newer girls who were importing higher levels of service due to their money needs. So, I would not be getting better higher service from the most princessy girls, the ones who are the hottest, the sweetest, the most girl-next-door in appearance, the ones who play the "innocent" card. Rather, it would be more likely that the haggard older women, the "dirty" girls, perhaps some of the screwed-up overly tattooed drug-addicted younger women, would be the ones who felt that increasing service was their best route to income and customer satisfaction from me. Finally, a last confusing point, it's nearly all ITC activity. Very little has been offered in terms of OTC solicitation -- there's always the odd girl who is doing that, whether a new one or a long-standing experienced one, but in general the amount of offers of "here are my phone digits, call me so we can get together and do more" is about the same as it always has been, and it's NOT coming from the girls who are increasing their lapper services.

All that put together, it would suggest to me, that if service were increasing for some understandable reason, then one of the following would happen. I'd be getting a gradual increase in service from some of the women with whom I was familiar, as they began to compete with incomers who were offering higher levels of service; and/or, I'd be getting a less gradual, more immediate increase in service from some of the women with whom I was not familiar, who are those very incomers; and/or, my increased level of service would likely not be from the most desirable, in-demand women among those who had been around for a long time, but rather would be from (a) the incomers, and (b) the less desirable of the old guard; and/or I would be getting more solicitations to go outside the club, via offers of phone numbers or other rendezvous, perhaps gradually from the long-standing dancers or immediately from the newcomers.

Yet none of that is happening. Instead, I'm getting just the opposite. The hottest women, especially those who've been around a longer time and who know me best, are stick-shiftin' it as though they've always been doin' it and as though it's not much skin off their back to be doin' it, and the price is the same as the non-shiftin' of a few months ago for the same number of songs. Six months ago I couldn't have gotten any of 'em to break that barrier with me, but now it's performed as though it's the norm. Furthermore, the new women incoming dancers, those whom I have not met, are not necessarily any more or less licentious than was any group of new dancers at any time in the past. The influx of new dancers remains at the same level of service. And, furthermore again, there doesn't seem to be an economic competition model going on, in which the more difficult circumstances due to the overall economy are what is motivating the women to increase their service since (as noted) it's the most desirable and not the least desirable women upping their service first, and it's the women most familiar with my predilections and buying history, not the women least familiar with me.

So, it doesn't make sense. I am certainly not complaining -- women whom I used to have a hard time corralling at all, since they had their sugar-daddies over in a corner and were simply going to sit in those guys' laps and just chitty-chat forever -- now those women are hunting me out, taking me to the back room, getting the same amount of money they used to get, but doing two or four times as much as I used to expect. And yet it's not outside-the-club activity that's increased, it's only inside-the-club activity.

I have two theories.

One is, that I have gained approval. Why? Maybe management has (finally!) given me the secret wink-and-nod. Somewhere in the back room, the powers-that-be have agreed, that Book Guy is no longer a threat. They looked up my license plate with a buddy who works for the police, or, the local constabulatory has changed its policing methods in this jurisdiction to the extent that there's a new set of ground rules, or for some other reason, doing this for me in specific is more OK than it used to be. It always used to be OK for some customers or some girls, not OK for others, and I've changed categories to the OK group. It's even possible I've become less of an asshole, more desirable for any number of reasons. I am taking a new pill that makes me less cantankerous, therefore my subtle interpersonal interactions may be sending a signal that says, "OK to have fun with" rather than "trouble-maker." I have a new profession that makes me seem to have a great deal of responsibility (and the girls are aware of this change) and also seem as though I might in the future have opportunity to transfer benefit, through back channels, to the club. It's an off-chance, a 1-in-100 possiblity, but it's still more chance than the 0-in-100 possiblity I had before this professional change. In fact, maybe they like the idea of keeping a few videotapes from the security cameras, of dudes who are in Book Guy's profession, making hanky-panky with hot girly-girls in the back rooms -- keep the vids around in case blackmail is ever beneficial, ya know. So, maybe I've gained approval, or at least approvability. But WHY I've gained approval is still up in the air for me. I'd love to think that my prescription simply makes me a more enjoyable fellow. I know, it's a pipe dream, that all my troubles with women are evaporating thanks to one little pill, and that the first place I'm learning about it is at a strip club, and that eventually the beneficial changes in my life will trickle down from strip clubs to normal chicks and finally to Playboy bunnies who call me out of the blue because I'm so "cool" and they just want to hang out chat and then have tickle fights, but hey a man can dream ...

My other theory, is that I'm simply seeing things wrong. The things that I say are not happening, actually are happening. The women whom I prefer, because of body type, age, firmness, attitude, are actually less than ideally desirable to most men, and the "best" girls are therefore not the ones who are offering more service; it's actually the "worst" girls (in most men's estimation). That thought horrifies me. If it's true, then I've become the old fart who likes the haggard old losers who'll do anything for a buck. Or maybe the incoming newer dancers are really upping the ante, despite the fact that I haven't seen it. Maybe they're all doing full-on coitus in the back rooms, and "my" gals are simply timidly following suit in an attempt to keep up their competitiveness, and with me they don't go to coitus because they know that any upgrade will be above my former level of accustomed service, which was, quite frankly, nothing at all.

Anyway, a strange thought lurks in the back of my head. The women seem to like doing it. It isn't just for the money. All the upside-down economics of it, that I've alluded to (as long as I'm perceiving things accurately) suggest, there's no REASON for them to grab ol' willie and then get frustrated unless they can make him finish ("YES! got it done!" or, if not, then, "Next time, Book Guy, you're not eluding my grasp! I'm makin' it happen!" smile wink ... so they respond). Do they actually like fiddlin' with a willie, getting in the mentally sexual zone during a lapper despite the fact that it's just a paying customer and not their skinny slimy tattooed drug-dealing boyfriend? I keep getting the sense, from the women with whom I get along the best, the ones I've known for a while, but with whom I haven't spent much time lately (recall, my wander-lust above), that they're actually enjoying the act of corralling ME. Why didnt this happen four years ago? Heck, if you attend a club for a year, as a regular, that's long enough. I have been going, off and on, depending on what city I lived in, to these particular clubs since about 1990, so it's not like I haven't put in my time.

Well, that's a long post, interesting to me, but maybe a bit too long for most folk to digest. If you do make it all the way through it to the bottom, I'd be happy to hear your discussion of the situation. Has this been happening in your burg? Does it mirror my experience, or is an increase in service appearing among the women more predictably likely to be giving that increase, where you are?

Thanks feryertime.