How to stop a customer from being as nice to you thread.
komey1970
My current fav is starting to do this to me. First, she told me she would be in on Monday - but didn't show. No big deal. Tonight, she said she would come over to talk to me - but never did before I left. A bit of a big deal to me. She kept saying she would come over but didn't. She seemed disappointed when I said I had to leave. Oh well, her loss.
Fortunately, the night did hold a pleasant surprise, and a worthy replacement. A girl that used to dance at a place was going to before switching clubs starting working at my club. She was a fav of mine there before she quit. Seems like she will be top priority. Also, as great as her dances were at the old club, I liked them even better at the current one.
Oh well, I'll be off on vacation so I won't see either for a while. Maybe when I get back, the first girl will pay a little more attention to me. And if that doesn't happen, the second girl is going to get a lot of my attention.
Fortunately, the night did hold a pleasant surprise, and a worthy replacement. A girl that used to dance at a place was going to before switching clubs starting working at my club. She was a fav of mine there before she quit. Seems like she will be top priority. Also, as great as her dances were at the old club, I liked them even better at the current one.
Oh well, I'll be off on vacation so I won't see either for a while. Maybe when I get back, the first girl will pay a little more attention to me. And if that doesn't happen, the second girl is going to get a lot of my attention.
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If anyone remembers the "I can't believe she remember my name" thread I started a few months ago - this was that girl.
As for you who dared me to link this post: You wouldn't have done it. Basically I said that I missed talking with her, but also said I don't know when I would be in because my weekend schedule (when I normally go) because of other comittments.
How am I? To find out, visit:
http://www.tuscl.com/discuss-thread.asp?…
I dare ya.
This type of thing is starting to happen to me now, and I am actually quite thankful. I was at my club today, wondering if my ever-so-busy new ATF would find some time for me. She's got a whale or two that keep her busy on Saturday afternoons, and that's fine....more $$$ for her. Today she sees me, gives me a kiss,and says she'll be back in a bit. We all know the ending here- she's never seen again. This is the second time in two weeks she's pulled this.In the afternoon yet! I was really starting to fall for this girl (stupid, I know). But I think that this was the perfect ending, since it has helped kill off those silly feelings that I was having.
The next time I'm in the club, I'm gonna stop her just long enough to thank her for helping me get over my obsession with her. Thank God I'm at least smart enough to walk away from her, rather than some other PL's that only dig themselves in deeper with the "challenge" of winning her back (no one here, of course).
I don't think there is a right answer here. I don't want to avoid her. I guess I'm just frustrated because I'm not getting what I am used to and expected.
Night 2, she didn't see me there most of the time I was there (didn't come in until later than normal and debating even coming in at all). When she saw me, she said she would talk to me after she had a smoke. When she came back in, she was called to the stage, and she didn't sound to happy about something (or someone). Not wanting to hear that story, I left.
Her status with me is declining rapidly. She has gone from "top fave" to "I'll do a dance if I feel like it". I certainly won't be waiting for her anytime soon. Incidently, right before this whole thing happened, I was told by a waitress (and former dancer there who just started dancing there again) told me that this dancer "loved me" (These two girls seem to be friends, so I would like to think she told me the truth - and she told me this when she was a waitress). Now I admit I don't have much expertise in women loving me, but if that's love - I really don't want no part of it.
Things like this make me seriously think it's time to switch clubs again.
Actually, I was also poking fun at the notion that strippers let customers get uncomfortably close to them emotionally in spite of themselves. I could almost hear that dude singing "Baby, Don't Get Hooked On Me" in the background.
For the most part I tend to treat the dancers with respect and I get it back in return.....some of this as led to advancing into a friendship and some dinner dates. I have gotten many phone numbers of dancers from the clubs I've visited and on one occassion while in Greensboro NC, a dancer gave me a tour of the area.
Just remember guys, I've been visiting clubs now for 27 years and the its the 1st IMPRESSION you make on a dancer that gets them to your side.
Komey, I've never had much luck with calling or emailing stippers to coordinate schedules. Usually, the girls who are most reliable at getting back to me aren't the ones I enjoy best in the club and vice versa. Apparently, it works out for some guys here, but I wouldn't place too much importance on it, and it sounds like you're coming to the same conclusion.
Komey, I suggest you do the same - hang out with girls who treat you the way you want to be treated, drop those who don't. And don't worry about their motivation, it's both unimportant and unknowable.
As for her letting me know when she is working - she gave me an e-mail address, and I e-mailed. I never got a response (not surprising). She has claimed that she has a lot of mail to go through (mentally - I've already called BS on that). She has verbally given me her schedule for the following week when I have seen her - but I have determined that cannot always be reliable for the "slow days".
Now don't get me wrong, I still like girl1 in the club. When she DOES come over to talk (before and after our dances) we have some decent conversation and talk about how things have been going since last time we talked. Girl2 gives a great dance, but she never was one that would stay for a lot of conversation with me.
Oh well, I will let you know what happens next time I go, and I am sure you are waiting with baited breath lol.
Last Sunday I went to visit my favorite dancer with VIP room money in my wallet. She was out sick that night but I met another new hot Brazilian and did a couple of two for one dances with her. She was very hot, very friendly and just grabby enough that I was willing to take a shot with her in the VIP room. Unfortunately she pegged me as a "single dance" guy and never came over to visit with me (even after I asked her to) as she was trying to cultivate other business. She lost out on $200 (I was there all night, she didn't do any VIP rooms) even though she stayed fairly busy all night. I could see that she knew many of the guys, and a few couples, that she danced for. She made the decision not to blow any of them off and take a chance with me-I can certainly appreciate that as I'm often a customer waiting for a regular dancer.
I agree with Chandler, it's always best to have multiple options when you go to any club.
None of this is meant to contradict what Yoda said, just another way to look at a situation that can be ambiuous.