An Etiquette Question
jackslash
Detroit strip clubs
One of my favorite dancers retired last year, and she and her young daughter moved in with a guy she had met in the club. I have remained a friend of hers on Facebook, so I know she lives in a very nice house and loves her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is in his 50's, divorced and runs his own small business.
Now they're getting married, and she sent me a wedding invitation. I don't know if I should attend. I'm afraid I'll feel uncomfortable in the presence of the groom and his family, especially if they ask me how I know the bride.
Let me be clear. This dancer is a very nice girl. I never saw her outside the club and we never screwed. But we did everything else.
So should I attend the wedding or not? And what should I get them as a wedding present?
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If he doesn't know she was a dancer and your are a bit nervous maybe you should stay away. And if he doesn't know about it then it doesn't augur well.
The fact you met her in a club is not relevant. She seems past that. As far as a gift - get a gift you would get for any other casual acquaintance such as a co-worker. Nothing extravagant.
Seriously, it all depends on who knows what. Even then, if they know, the fact that she only invites you would mean that you two had a much different relationship. But as motor stated, she asked so from that point on, the "problem" is theirs, not yours.
wedding and get the gift whatever you want.
Go. Do you assume you're the only former customer that's going to be there?
Why are you asking about gifts though? Ask where she's registered and pick something off the list.
As for attending the wedding...
Do you have any 'more than friends' feelings for this girl? If yes, then probably a bad idea. If not, and you can just be another 'happy form them' guest, then I don't see any problem with going. She invited you. Just work out the 'how you know her' explaination with her in adavance.
Larry... I like the way you think re the bridesmaids... but IME that's harder than you'd think.
If you can answer "yes" to both questions, then you should absolutely go to the wedding!! Your "star" moment should come at the traditional bouquet & garter toss. Make very sure that you're the one to catch the garter. As you put the garter on the bouquet catcher, place a bunch of dollar bills in garter, and yell at crowd to do the same!
At least you will probably not be involved in any jokes. At my younger brother's wedding, someone told me I was going to put a garter on a girl's leg. Someone was going to make sure I had the garter to put on. Then they told me it was a tradition to put it on the selected girls leg as far up her thigh as it would go. They said that seriously so I believed them. The next thing I know, the girl has a surprised look on her face as I was sliding the garter up almost to her panties. They all had a good laugh though.
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@jack Make up some thing like "god, I dunno, I knew a friend of a hers, and met her along the way....she's so much fun, don't you think"...something that reduces the need for additional clarification.
I went to a stripper friend's wedding (sans wife), and she told me later that she really appreciated the fact that I had the balls to attend. When she was at the altar, I almost turned to the guy next to me and said "you should see her naked"....