Stripper friends
As many people here have mentioned, I know that strippers are mainly there to get money from you. It's their job. Some do it by acting like you two have a deeper connection than her other clients. Some do it by appealing to your good side by telling you all the things going wrong in her life. But some people talk about actually being friends with a stripper. How do you decide if a stripper is actually becoming a "friend who strips", and how do you know when it's just an act?
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Closest parallel to a stripper actually enjoying my company without charging per hour, asking for "loans", trying to get me to go along with her scheme, or her asking favors without intention of returning a favor.
Another dancer who in hind site wanted to go out with me but I didn't want to go out with any more dancers at the time, paid for all her drinks herself while she sat with me for hours in the club. I did buy one ten dollar dance once an hour because she said she would get in trouble with management if she didn't do that minimum. I liked that at first but then told her there were a couple of other dancers I wanted to get dances from before the club closed. She kept her time down to only an hour or so on later visits. A number of months later she told me she had a boyfriend and was no longer
available.
I also have a customer who frequents this website and posts quite a bit. He's become a friend.
I'm sure we each have our ways of determining when a stripper becomes a friend. In all my years, I can say that there is only one that became more than just a stripper. She became a small part of my family, but only she and I know of "our" connection. My ATF. I've searched for a replacement for years to no avail. A couple have come close (vm, "C" is one), but none have been a replacement.
This is a very rare situation. Do not go looking for love in all the wrong places.
1 she was my friend and then i happen to walk into a club and she her legs spread on the stage lol.. me and her are like brother and sister so i dont get any laps from her because were just friend but she comes in handy because she always brings me the best dancer even though she told a dancer i had like 3 times as much money in my pocket then i did
the other was a former ATF used to always get dances spend alot of time with her.. now that shes not dancing anymore we still talk and have lunch from time to time
I've gotten dances from her in the past but it's been awhile. I've always paid. She never asked me for dances and said she didn't care if I got any or not. On more than one ocassion said she felt funny about charging me. Seemed to appreciate me giving her advice as a rookie stripper and having me to hang with between stage sets and dances with other customers. I've also been to her restaurant where she waitresses a couple of nights a week and she gives me a nice discount.
I do have several other stripper "friends" but it's more business like, I pay for all dances and pay all expenses when we hang outside the club.
Like them? Absolutely. I'm not comfortable having sex, other than maybe a BJ, from somebody I don't like. But a friend? That's somebody I can call in the night when I need a ride home, or a shoulder to cry on (not that I cry, of course), or advice on a gift for my wife. I sounds like Gridget would qualify, but I'm not so sure about the others.
It's entirely possible that my opinion is colored by my experience, but I can't really help that.
My ATF fits your criteria well. As a matter of fact, I've done most all you said. She even went shopping with me for wife's gift. We've been in each others home. She has been to family events. She is a friend, without doubt, just one that no one else knows about outside of the "norm".
Do be careful though, because not everyone is going to respond to having a stripper as a friend in a positive way. I learned the hard way its easier to just not mention how you met if you plan on bringing them on vacations or have them around your family/inner circle of friends. You may think they're open minded but everyone has their preconcieved notions about "strippers". And no matter how right or wrong they are, they will affect interactions in a major way.
Another word to the wise, be careful who you let into your life from that lifestyle... I'd be lying if I said I didn't aquire a fair amount of drama in my life because of my one friend.