Not Another "Does She Like Me" Thread!
Hesiod
I've been going to various strip clubs (Honey's, Sugar's, Rick's, Deja Vu in Lake Forest Park) in Western WA state for 10+ years. After taking almost a year off from visiting any club I finally decided to see what I've been missing so I popped into Deja Vu in LFP 2 weeks ago (a Saturday night). After 30 minutes I was not very enthralled with the majority of dancers until one came up who I remembered from a year ago. I bought a few dances in the VIP room and we were mutually admiring each other's attributes. She liked my size, which she was able to accurately measure with her hand! I got 5-6 terrific dances from her and she even "bundled" a bit by giving me a discount. Since she clearly had me where she wanted I decided to ask about a private dance at my house later that week. To my surprise she said yes for $300/1 hour (before work) but nothing more than she would do in the club. We exchanged cell phone numbers and texted each other while still at the club. For some reason, we could not exchange texts at the time (I was having a problem with my phone).
We decided to meet at my house 3 days later for the private dance (she was going to do it before work which is only about 10 miles from my house). She had my phone # so she was able to call if there were any changes. I found out what was going on with my phone's texting so that was working but she did not know this and she called to confirm our PD play date. I had been working all day and was exhausted and had not showered so when she called I cancelled the PD (I had been having second thoughts anyway) and told her that I might be in to see her on Friday. When Friday rolled around I had been having 2nd and 3rd thoughts about going in to see her so I texted to say that I couldn't make it on Friday but POSSIBLY on Saturday.
I have been trying to cut costs with my cell phone and was looking at my text messaging choice: $5 for 200 TMs/month thru AT&T. As I ONLY get texts from 2 women (both strippers, I'll go into the other girl's story another time - she does not work at Deja Vu) I decided to drop the $5 TM plan and go per msg. This idea was a bust b/c when I send or receive the 25th msg I have spent $5.00!! I got so fed up with texting that I called AT&T and had 'em deactivate my text messaging - - the Deja Vu girl does not know this yet. The last text that I received from her was on Monday (7/18, when my texting was still working) and it reads:
Hi. Thought u were going to see me at the club this weekend. How r u? When do i see u next?
[I have not responded to her last text] To me, it is fairly obvious that she is primarily interested in me for my $$$, regardless of her feigning interest in my (1) size/appearance, and (2) friendly & respectul personality. I would like to stay friendly with her but she needs to know that I cannot (and WILL NOT) be visiting her at the club every week for dances that stray into the 3-digits. I would like to see her outside of Deja Vu but she says that she lives about 50 miles north of there so a "date" is probably out of the question. Should I see her tonight and explain that I just cannot afford her (services) and leave after just one or NO dance(s)? Will this piss her off? Hurt her feelings? Should I care??
We decided to meet at my house 3 days later for the private dance (she was going to do it before work which is only about 10 miles from my house). She had my phone # so she was able to call if there were any changes. I found out what was going on with my phone's texting so that was working but she did not know this and she called to confirm our PD play date. I had been working all day and was exhausted and had not showered so when she called I cancelled the PD (I had been having second thoughts anyway) and told her that I might be in to see her on Friday. When Friday rolled around I had been having 2nd and 3rd thoughts about going in to see her so I texted to say that I couldn't make it on Friday but POSSIBLY on Saturday.
I have been trying to cut costs with my cell phone and was looking at my text messaging choice: $5 for 200 TMs/month thru AT&T. As I ONLY get texts from 2 women (both strippers, I'll go into the other girl's story another time - she does not work at Deja Vu) I decided to drop the $5 TM plan and go per msg. This idea was a bust b/c when I send or receive the 25th msg I have spent $5.00!! I got so fed up with texting that I called AT&T and had 'em deactivate my text messaging - - the Deja Vu girl does not know this yet. The last text that I received from her was on Monday (7/18, when my texting was still working) and it reads:
Hi. Thought u were going to see me at the club this weekend. How r u? When do i see u next?
[I have not responded to her last text] To me, it is fairly obvious that she is primarily interested in me for my $$$, regardless of her feigning interest in my (1) size/appearance, and (2) friendly & respectul personality. I would like to stay friendly with her but she needs to know that I cannot (and WILL NOT) be visiting her at the club every week for dances that stray into the 3-digits. I would like to see her outside of Deja Vu but she says that she lives about 50 miles north of there so a "date" is probably out of the question. Should I see her tonight and explain that I just cannot afford her (services) and leave after just one or NO dance(s)? Will this piss her off? Hurt her feelings? Should I care??
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With regard to your questions:
1) Should I see her tonight and explain that I just cannot afford her (services) and leave after just one or NO dance(s)? ANSWER: Yes, be up front, see her, and simply say you've had a change of heart, but would enjoy continuing to see her ITC for dances.
2) Will this piss her off? Hurt her feelings? ANSWER: Maybe and maybe. It doesn't matter. You can't control her feelings. There'll be (or should be, if you're working your SC life appropriately) other dancers.
3) Should I care?? ANSWER: No, you're entitle to a change of heart, just as she would be if she decided she didn't want to see you OTC for some reason.
Yeah, there are INDEED other dancers out there - just none that I was interested in. She really had me wrapped around her proverbial finger.
50 miles is not a long ways to go, unless you have problems with Gas costs.
In any case, good luck w/your stripper dilemma.
I know of a dancer who has the phone numbers of all her regulars along with what appears to be a dedicated phone just for work. She texts all of them frequently saying that she misses them and wants them to come in, etc. To my surprise, this does round up a very consistent amount of customers for her on the days that she works (only like 3 days a week). At this NYC club, she often takes home in excess of $1k in a night. It helps that she is a beautiful girl and will sometimes go the "extra mile" if you know what I mean, but her business plan is quite good to cultivate regulars. And I'm not surprised if other girls are adopting similar methods. Don't get caught up in this for anything more than it is - business.
I dunno, what's the point of going to see her tonite only to tell her that the OTC dance is probably off and I can only afford a dance or two. The minute I step foot in the door I'm "committed" to spending a minimum of $40 ($20 admission, $20 for 1 dance), for what: to be polite and tell her that I can't afford her?! There were no other dancers that I was interested in when I was last there, and this was at 10 on a Saturday night (admittedly, I am picky)! She seemed like a nice girl but I know that it is primarily about the Benjamins for her.
Dancers are primarily interested in your money, yes, even if we may seem impressed by your dick (and maybe we really are). It's just our job and some of us enjoy it.
If I'm reading your post correctly, it seems like you're overthinking. When you see her next, there is no need to explain yourself unless it would make you feel better. One dance is better than none. If she asks why you're not spending more, just say "i can't afford any more but ill be back when I have more money". She's a dancer. She gets this all the time, trust me.
As for texting and calling, I will dissect this for you. If you give her your number , she figures you gave it to her so she can get In touch with you when she would like to see you. You come in on your schedule, then when she's having a slow night or week, she calls you for back up. You are not required to respond to her calls, she's not your wife. If you want to, then fine, if not, blow her off. It's not like she's going to hold it against you. She knows you have a life outside of her AND she figures you know the game. You could ignore this girl for a year and the next time you come in telling her you want a bunch of dances, she'll smile and give you what you want because you have money. That's what she wanted all along. This isn't as bad as it sounds. It's just the nature of the business. If you enjoy her services then keep buying as you can afford it.
@hesiod- I know a little of kemmore but my home base is farther south.
You feel bad not responding because you're a good guy and in "the real world" it would be rude not to respond. If you are a guy and there is a pretty girl texting you and you enjoy her company, it would be rude. It would put her off to not get a response from you. But luckily, depending on how you want this to go, youre dealing with a dancer/customer relationship. You're not going to hurt her feelings.