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I'm sure this has been covered in some form before, but I couldn't find any threads directly on point. I have a dilemma regarding strippers and Facebook.
My current fav--recently elevated to ATF--and I have a really good time at the club. She will spend a lot of time with me both in the club and the VIP. She is sexy as hell and has a great personality. She also doesn't upcharge for a lot of our extra fun, so I can afford to see her nearly weekly. In short, she's nearly perfect and has me wound around her little finger (and knows it!). It's to the point that I won't spend time with anyone else at this club; I'm always politely brushing off other girls and it seems I've gained a rep as “her guy.â€
Tonight she gave me her Facebook account name and told me I could “stalk†her on FB. Wrote it on a napkin with a cute little heart afterward. What do I do here? An important disclaimer: I am not looking for a relationship with this girl. She is great, but this will not turn into another “How do I date/marry/rescue/etc. a stripper?†thread. I am happily married and my time at the club is just for fun.
Just how dangerous is it to “friend†a dancer on FB? Who here--in a similar situation--has done it?
My concerns:
1. My wife might find out. I could easily explain away the new “friend†as a long-lost childhood friend, and she probably would accept it without further question.
2. But from what I was able to find on her page without friending her, my ATF is tagged in photos using both her real and stripper names. How on earth would I explain that if my wife were to go looking?
3. ATF would then have my full name and probably enough information to find more through Google. I trust her not to abuse that info, but it is a huge risk.
4. What else am I missing?
Perhaps it is best just to stay “stalking†distance away (again, her word, not mine!) and not send her a friend request. Opinions, sages of TUSCL?
My current fav--recently elevated to ATF--and I have a really good time at the club. She will spend a lot of time with me both in the club and the VIP. She is sexy as hell and has a great personality. She also doesn't upcharge for a lot of our extra fun, so I can afford to see her nearly weekly. In short, she's nearly perfect and has me wound around her little finger (and knows it!). It's to the point that I won't spend time with anyone else at this club; I'm always politely brushing off other girls and it seems I've gained a rep as “her guy.â€
Tonight she gave me her Facebook account name and told me I could “stalk†her on FB. Wrote it on a napkin with a cute little heart afterward. What do I do here? An important disclaimer: I am not looking for a relationship with this girl. She is great, but this will not turn into another “How do I date/marry/rescue/etc. a stripper?†thread. I am happily married and my time at the club is just for fun.
Just how dangerous is it to “friend†a dancer on FB? Who here--in a similar situation--has done it?
My concerns:
1. My wife might find out. I could easily explain away the new “friend†as a long-lost childhood friend, and she probably would accept it without further question.
2. But from what I was able to find on her page without friending her, my ATF is tagged in photos using both her real and stripper names. How on earth would I explain that if my wife were to go looking?
3. ATF would then have my full name and probably enough information to find more through Google. I trust her not to abuse that info, but it is a huge risk.
4. What else am I missing?
Perhaps it is best just to stay “stalking†distance away (again, her word, not mine!) and not send her a friend request. Opinions, sages of TUSCL?
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If you have this many concerns about your SO finding out, it's just not worth worrying about. If your ATF knows you have a possibly nosey wife at home, she'll understand why you can't 'friend' her. Pass on the offer and move on.
If you want to keep in touch with folks you don't want knowing too much about you personally, e.g. strippers, blind dates, mistresses etc. then having a second FB account under a pseudonym or nickname is a good idea.
I'm surprised people put any kind of personal info on the interwebs but that's just me being paranoid.
But mostly, I'd say you'd be better to ask her to move in with you and your wife. Every other day, FB comes up with a new way to violate our privacy. Even if she never went anywhere else on the web, FB friending her is a BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD IDEA !
To answer a couple questions/issues: yes, she knows I'm married. And yes, LeeH, we are the same age. :-)
After sleeping on it and thinking for a while with the big head, I agree with all of you. Too much potential for disaster. If I want to put in the work to create a new FB page (easy, I know, but still work), then I will do it. But probably not. I've worked hard to keep my club life separate from my home life, and I want to keep it that way. I think she will understand.
Thanks again.
gator: Since I'm a childish nerd, I guess that explains my willingness to mess around with it.
I guess I was temporarily enamored with the idea of her offer but now see the many dangers. Best to keep the relationship as "professional" as possible.
A customer is a customer is a customer, no matter how "close" you are.
I took it out to mainly befriend my fav I have been seeing three years. She danced at the Ritz. Sinch then I have friended three other women I have had sex with. Most of the friends are people associated with my online business as I use FB for free advertising thru my posts. A coupla of clubs are friends. FB is a fantastic source of intelligence gathering, stalking ATF's, mining all kinda pics. I even have FB mobile on my cell phone so I can c what certain friends are up to. I have befriended all kinda sexy gals and get daily updates on the specials my fav clubs are doing. This afternoon I discovered my fav is going on a weekend trip with hubby. She had pushed last nite via text to meet for a nooner and this after our session on Wednesday. I had just finished doing a stripper in VIP at a club as my wife was having ladies bunko nite and I could not resist going to the club.
I have even hooked up using FB with gals I had done a coupla years back. My fav has hundreds of photos on FB and I have used it to mine many for my archive. A past fav (stripped at Ricks South) I did many times (Wendy) who is now in Arizona says she is coming back to Houston in August and wants to meetup. Another one (Shelly) is married to the father of her 4th kid (she has 3 others by 2 other men and this last guy left her when she was pg - It makes me sick she married him) and recently posted some bik photos. I did her last summer for $125 after chatting wtih her on FB. What is strange about this is I had done her about 75 times 2004-07 and then in summer of 2010 a 76th time; go figure. Marriage does not keep them from doing any business.
I highly recommend using FB to befriend and stalk strippers and other women "of interest." A few tips:
1. Do not use your real name - a stage name you use for SC and hookers is best. Frankly I think using your real name on FB is a huge mistake.
2. Do not befriend family or work individuals - this is your own area 51.
3. Be careful how you comment and keep a low profile with sensitive targets. Afterall you dont want her husband to see a comment directly linking you with her. I never write anything on their walls and rarely comment about their posts. On Mem Day WE she wore this black bik I liked and there were pics of her with family on FB in it. The following Wed at a session she modeled it for me did some lap dances, strip tease, then we went to bed and fucked.
4. I think many of them want you to be your friend on FB bc they really like to show off and this is a venue that allows that.
5. Be careful what you say in your posts and be sensitive how a fav might respond. Sometimes guys who are friends of strippers who are your friends might have sexy gal friends you can befriend and then try to hook up with LOL.
6. When you are reading her FB posts on daily basis you can get an idea of who her close friends are and monitor their conversations. A lot of a strippers close GF are other hot gals who are strippers and like to work (see sex clients). There is one doarky guy who comments a lot on my favs posts but since he works for Subway I doubt he has any substantial money to really bang her. You do have to wonder who of her male friends might be shagging her but I am really not worried as I am out to lease them not own them.
7. Be careful of befriending multiple girls your fucking at once. Old flames ok.
8. Befriending lots of hot gals ok. Many have their phone number posted on FB. I befriended about 5-6 this guy had as friends who was a SC DJ. They in turn had hot gals as friends and I befriended some of those. Good luck in figuring out which of my FB gal friends I have fucked with all the hot gals I have as FB friends.
9. Dont post sexy photos of your fav you took at motel of her on your FB page - afterall it could mean trouble if BF or hubby saw them not to mention how pissed y fav would be.
10. FB is a wonderful source to mine sexy photos of hot women and comment on them if you like.