OTC Faux Pas?
I had a fav one time that I asked if she danced OTC. She said that she might but that she had to be careful because the club didn't like it. She snuck me her number and I called her a few weeks later, saying that I unexpectedly would be coming through her town shortly, maybe she would like to catch dinner. She said yes and I came by and picked her up and we went out to eat. She was not flirty, a little aloof, but pleasant. I picked our dinner and we got back in the car and I mentioned that I had to get home (true) and I dropped her off. She looked a little suprised and asked for a little money (some SS bill thing). I gave her a twenty and told her I enjoyed it (I did).
My question: was this all just "the dance" that I was unaware of? Since I didn't mention any money and she didn't, were we simply not on the same page? Is this all just code and I didn't even know it? Is "OTC" always deemed a euphemism for certain specific activities? I don't have another shot with her, do I? (LOL)
My question: was this all just "the dance" that I was unaware of? Since I didn't mention any money and she didn't, were we simply not on the same page? Is this all just code and I didn't even know it? Is "OTC" always deemed a euphemism for certain specific activities? I don't have another shot with her, do I? (LOL)
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Now she's feeling all rejected. But, at least the $20 more than covers the cost of the condoms she bought ....
Now *she* may have expected more, and assumed that's what you were really after. Her "surprise" might really have been disappointment, especially if she was counting on a couple of hundred bucks for what she might consider the usual. Your $20 wouldn't really have been worth her time; if she'd known what you intended, she might not have agreed to meet.
If she answers the phone next time you call, you might ask her what her expectations were. You might get lucky and have some stories, besides "dinner was good", to tell next time. :)
Or the "Jackson" in this case, lol.
Did the $20 cover the cost of the baby sitter?
Years ago a stripper gave me her number. She had made Girls of the Big XII. At dinner she had mentioned that she had herpes. That brought conversation at surrounding tables to a standstill. lol. Took her back to my place. We talked about her classes, my books, philosophy, etc. She didn't want to mess around, didn't want to stay over, lights stayed on. Had a friendly parting. I doubt she was waiting for me to offer the going rate, but who knows?
I do appreciate your thoughts.
Don't let this experience jade you. I would venture that most of us have had good time as well as bad. For the most part, I've had excellent luck with phones and dancers. Do they call me to get my money at the club, sometimes, but not always. It depends on the relationship you have with each dancer. Same as it is in any other part of your life.
And assuming that you didn't know what you were doing, you very much dropped the ball. Putting aside the sex, use of the term "dance outside" includes an unspoken understanding that she will get paid for her time. Hell, if she had to pay the babysitter then your $20 probably wasn't even enough to cover what it cost her to be out with you, and that doesn't even include her condom costs.
If you want to take a dancer out of a club for anything other than sex, you need to be clear as to your intentions.
That said, totally non-sexual OTC is not unheard of. I've taken 3 different dancers to dinner (at my request) and it was nothing more than a dinner date. I enjoyed her company and she enjoyed mine and a good time was had by all. All three have asked about doing it again, and I've managed it with 2 of them. Sometimes, a woman just wants to be treated like more than a piece of meat (I threw that one in just for Dougster).