Stripper gave me her number?
saberclaw
I'm a novice when it comes to strip clubs. Went to my first SC last month and met a cute Russian stripper. She's 23 and we had great chemistry and have a lot in common (I'll take what she says with a grain of salt). Sorry I'm just not that trusting and feel that a lot of the girls in there are just telling guys what they want to hear). Maybe only spent $60 the entire night and the includes the dances I got and the drinks I consumed. She hung out with me all night and complimented me numerous times about my appearance and numerous other things (again, taken with a grain of salt). I am however confident in my appearance (25 years old and workout 5 days a week) and myself in general. She put my hands on every inch of her body (the SC I was at allowed no contact). At the end of the night she gave me her number and told me she want's to hang out next time I'm in town and that's she's extremely attracted to me. Took her number and didn't think anything of it.
This past weekend I was in town again and decided to go over to the SC since I had a rough week at work. Never ended up calling her after getting her number last time I was in. Walked in the door and sat down at the bar. After being there for maybe 5 minutes I felt someone hug me from behind and it was her. Suprisingly she remembered my name and everything about me. That made me happy considering I had a great time with her last time and hoped if I ran into her again she would remember me. She told me how excited she was to see me but she was sad that I never called her. Anyways, another thing she mentioned was that I didn't need to spend money to hang out with her and invited me to her house this upcoming weekend.
I'm new to the whole SC experience and don't really know what to expect. I'm pretty good at reading women in normal settings but I'm new to the whole SC game. She seems really into me but I'm worried that she's just playing with me and looking for money. Can someone with more experience with the whole SC scene give me some advice?
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I would not mind going to her house, but don't let her come to your house...too risky.
Reminds me of this mexican dancer I met who really wanted me and turns out she needed me to marry her so she could get her papers. No thanks....
Sorta lonely, just got out of a 4 year relationship...
I have had dancers sit with me entire shifts sometimes without spending any money on them...other days I will just get a quick "wanna dance?" line and they move on.
Sometimes they are slow, tired, and lonely and just want to make friends...other days they are wanting to make big money.
If you go to the club on a Saturday or Friday night when it is busy and she still is willing to sit with you and not chase after the easy money, then yes maybe she is into you. But if you have been going on a tuesday or something...maybe it is just slow for her or a day she does not feel like hustling.
have you seen her interact with other customers in the club?
do keep in mind that her job is to tease guys to seperate them from their money but i say go for it, just be careful.
Go over to her house. Maybe she has a boyfriend there who will beat you up and rob you or worse. Probably not going to happen. Perhaps she lives with another girl who is also her sexual partner, and they want to have a threesome with you. Not likely, but I actually had that happen, so it is possible. Chances are greater that she'll want to get high or have a few drinks or both and then have pretty damn good sex with you. If that happens, she may also hint that she is a little short on rent money this month...complicated excuse on the 15th.
Dancers can be lonely - just like we all are sometimes. She might really just want to hang with you some. It never hurts to spend a little time chatting with her so you have an opportunity to pick up on inconsistencies or other warnings that this could be a problematic rendezvous.
Good luck with it, and (most important) let us voyeurs know how things went!!
I watched her interact with a few other dudes the last time I was in (my 2nd time in a SC, it was a Fri night). She approached them, talked to them for like 3 minutes tops, then took them for dances. Each time she was done she came back and hung out with me for 45 minutes to an hour, again not pushing for any dances.
Just sort of stand-offish considering like "troop" said, it is there job to tease guys and separate them from their money. She is however very direct about wanting to hang out outside of the club. She wanted to go out for breakfast last time I was in but I declined considering I'm still worried about alterer motives or the possibility of being setup for robber. Maybe I'm just over thinking this but like I said I'm new to the SC scene.
Asking her to a lunch date. Tell her you'll be in town but only have from noon to 2 open. Buy her lunch and see what happens. She will be away from the club so there won't be that distraction. There will be no expectation other than eating.
You'll be on neutral ground with a clean slate.
anyway.. she came on pretty strong to me, compliments etc. i mentioned that the attention was nice but i knew she was playing me. she gave me her full name, phone number, address, everything. she gave me several free dances and we drastically bent the law and club rules, french kissing, titty exposure and fondling, pussy flashing and even some pussy licking and most of the times she didn't even want my money.
well i finally decided to call her. she had already previously told me that she was working 2 regular jobs besides the dancing job, and we spoke on the phone for awhile. she mentioned that she was busy with her 2 jobs and her young son, i pretty much already knew that. so i gave her my phone number and told her to call me sometime if she wanted to talk or get together. it's been a couple weeks, i haven't heard from her but i'm not surprised. i did enjoy my club time with her and if she calls.. great but i'm not going to chase after her.
hope you have better luck than i did.
So Joel, er, I mean saberclaw, you wanna know something? Every now and then say, "What the fuck." "What the fuck" gives you freedom. Freedom brings opportunity. Opportunity makes your future.
I find myself agreeing with those who suggest you might be overthinking this. I personally wouldn't go to her place, for reasons you can find addressed all over these boards, but breakfast after the club visit, at a well lit restaurant in a decent part of town, or a lunch or dinner date, is probably going to be relatively safe. If it seems promising, ask her back to your hotel and see what happens.
Don't forget, if you look the part, she might really be fishing for a boyfriend/sugar daddy kind of thing, as opposed to a fuck buddy. You have to decide if thats acceptable.
However, since she has repeatedly brought up hanging out OTC and not for money, you should take her up on it....but not at her house. Meet her out for a drink like you would any other girl. Strippers love to talk about how they would never date a customer, it's all business, etc, etc, but then almost every one of them will also admit to having done it at one time or another (see stripperweb). You haven't spent enough money on her for her to think you're a cash-cow, and given your age I doubt she would expect you to be one anyway. I'd go for it if I were you, but keep your senses on alert...and DEFINITELY do not become emotionally attached.
- Haven't lived a sheltered life by any means. I've been in numerous long-term relationships, but for the first time in my life, since 16, find myself single and intrigued by SC's. Hence the reason I decided to check out a SC. Just been sort of lonely lately and was looking for something different then the bar scene. :)
@georgmicrodong
- I live GA and the club I went to was in FL. I come through FL once a month, give or take a few weeks, for business. I guess I just over thought the breakfast invite. Not sure what I was really thinking, going to public place with her shouldn't be a problem. Was just a bit paranoid I suppose. Next time I go in to the club (maybe in like 3 or 4 weeks) if she invites me out to Breakfast again I'll take her up on her offer and see where it goes from there. If things go well I'll invite her back to my room and take it from there. Wouldn't mind having a fuck buddy in FL.
@Timbuck12
- The typical girls I attract and hook up with tend to be quite attractive (range between 7's - 10's in my opinion). Yea the comment about not needing to spend money to hang out with her and the whole out of the club talk sort of threw me for a loop. Wasn't aware that people met with dancers outside of the club. But I'll take her up on her offer next time I'm in town and take it from there. You hit the nail on the head with the whole not dating customers comment. She said something to that effect but told me she was interested in getting to know me outside the club. Also, I definitely don't give off a Cash-cow vibe and I think she realizes that. I haven't spent much on her, don't wear anything really flashy, and was even honest with her when asked about my career (told her I've only been out of college for a year and employed for six months, all of which is true).
Thanks everyone for the solid advice. I'll keep everyone updated as things progress.
Lunch is generally considered innocuous enough.
--companionship
--friend relationship
--seeking a real relationship
--companionship sex
--sex for money
--or just stripper shit.
You really can't make importrant decisions until ytou learn more. If you'r curious, interested and like the excitement, check it out. But use cautioon and common senswe. If she was expicitly selling sex, she would have let you know already. So she has another agenda, you need to find out what it is. If you spend more time with a dancer in a club you can usually figure out if you want to spend more time with her elsewhere by the way she handles herself and how you relate.
I've exchanged numbers with several dancers, but only afdter I've understood more about them. I've also given out my number too early and regretted it.
Either way man, I say go for it, it sounds like it will be an exciting adventure into the strip club world.
And just remember, you owe us details as compensation for our advice. As well as invitations to the wedding and bachelor party if you two get hitched.
Why yes, I *am* a creepy old pervert, thank you for asking...
I'm not saying the advice sucks, but I am saying there's a whole lot of strategy to find out something he could and probably should be asking to her directly.
Ask her whatever the hell you wanna to find out and yes strippers lie alot, so turn on the bullshit detector. Now there's some advice!
take the shot,dude!
you've got her number, you said, so call her a little ahead of the next time you're going to be in her area and see if the two of you can work out some way to meet outside the club that both of you are comfortable with. lunch, breakfast, dinner, drinks, whatever, just *do* it. odds are you'll have a pretty good feel for what she's got going on in a very short time after you meet her. how you decide to to react is up to you, but don't let paranoia get in the way of what might end up being some excellent sex.
Got a call from her yesterday. Basically called me up to tell me she was thinking about me and missed me. This was the first time I ever talked to her on the phone but again, like I've said previously, our conversation was always good so talking to her on the phone was not awkward by any means. She asked me when I was coming into town again (should be in the next 3 weeks) and asked me if I wanted to go to the beach. I figure going to the beach is a good middle ground to feel her out and see what she's like outside of the club. Plus, I used to surf a lot (something she wants to try) so this coincides with my interests.
This should be a lot of fun, she seems like a cool chick to hang out with. I'll keep everyone updated and also try to snap some pics for the pervs :P
Why not both?