When the ATF flakes on meetings
uscue13
California
You have a dancer you've met OTC for free. All you had to do was get the room. When at the club, she's one of the ones that gets jealous if you want dances from other girls, but you put up with it when she's there because you get free OTC from her. Recently she sees you in the club and says she's going to call you when she gets off to hook up again. After her telling you this two separate and consecutive times and both times she doesn't call after her shift, what do you do? (Hypothetical, I already know what I'm doing)
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That aside, she's probably wised up to the fact she's not going to receive a long-term commitment from you eventhough she mave have wanted it. So now she feels no remorse about leaving you 'high and dry'.
Either you need to present her with a bouquet of roses and ask her to move in, or, prepare the ATM card for a possible hemorrhaging as I bet she likes currency...
But if a dancer, ATF or whatever, is not following through on a commitment I think you're working with a bad apple. In that situation, the dancer needs to learn who's in control. Spend your money with someone else.
You rode the gravy train and it has come to the end of the line. This happens, particularly in a lucky situation like that. As you (should) know, it is rare for a stripper to meet a customer for free OTC sex.
If shifting your loyalties brings her back around, great. If not, then "thanks for the memories."
My buddies and I once were set up a private party with two dancers and it seems one was willing but the other one was never really going to do it, she just went along for the moment. On the day of the appointment she was a no-show without the courtesy of any warning. She was young enough to be somewhat naive but old enough to know better. I saw her in the club a few days later and told her what I thought of her business practices and kindly suggested that she never promise anything to a regular customer in the club that she couldn't deliver; that in the long run this would serve her better than getting a bad reputation from not delivering something. She never over-extended herself again and turned out to be an OK dancer and a good person to party with occassionally in the club, but I never spent big bucks on her again. She's now out of the business.
Another case study. At another club we found two girls who were a lot of fun in the private dance area. They both delivered on their ITC promises. We set up a private party OTC with both of them. One was ready to show up but the other backed out with every excuse in the book. She turned out to be a lying sack of shit so I put her on my shit list and never spent any more money on her. One of my buddies got suckered into her net again but got burned--again.
I've had much better results than these two stories, but the lesson is always the same--never reward bad behavior unless it's the kind we like.
Expecting a stripper to remember something at the end of her shift if you're not around (let's assume the offer was genuine) is not a high percentage move. Liquor, drugs, fatigue, stress, significant other drama, dancer drama, just plain drama...you name the amnesia of choice. Just shake it off. If she ever does call then good for you.
This reminds me of the jerry springer show SPRINGER! SPRINGER! SPRINGER!
JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!
A little while later he goes to get a lapper from another dancer and my fav comes over and gives me a couple of dances and then heads back to the bar when the guy goes back. So, out of 40 minutes I'm there I get 10 minutes of her time after she called me so I say screw this and walk by her and tell her by and I leave.
I then get a text from her saying: "Y did you leave I was fixing to go over there. Thanks. That really hurt my feelings."
I reply: "U asked me to come down cause u weren't making $. I get there and you spend 10 minutes with me and 30 at the bar. I got tired of sitting alone."
She replies: "Im sorry im bout to quit this place they dont care bout no body but there money."
Well, fortunately her sister had contacted me the day that this happened and I had already made arrangements to have her come over the next night so all is good.
Point being that if they don't fulfill their part then screw 'em. Let another girl dance for you the next time you go to the club. Let the ATF make the next move. If she doesn't, move on.
Also, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't just have one fav. Have a few for backup.
Dougster, that's right I had a stripper OTC and still went to the club. I stake this up to two reasons. 1) The girl doesn't live in the city, she drives down to work, and doesn't rank high on my list of strippers other than she likes to hook up with me and 2) Even if she was a true fave, it would probably be the same reason Tiger Woods, Jesse James and every married man on this board (glad I'm single) goes to the clubs ... you like something different rather than the same old same old