Do you go to SC's because you have issues with women?

BTW, this is a serious post, seriously.

I grew up in a perfect family, parents still happily married after 51 years.
My sisters and brothers have all been married 15-20 years.
I've been happily married 16 years.
I have a lot of female friends, acquaintances and co-workers that I get along with great.


But I like naked women.

And porn is poor substitute for flesh.

Furthermore, naked women that sit/grind/dance on my lap are even better. I get to "try out" a variety of women, but keep my dick in my pants and go home to my wife with a straight face.

My analysis of why I go is that it titillates me and keeps me happy, preventing me from wanting to cheat on my wife. I keep my happy marriage (no matter how good the sex, one woman gets boring after a while) yet I get to "sample" a variety on the side, with no emotional connection, or risk of a girlfriend/mistress (i.e. Tiger Woods)

Gotta agree with mreef. I love the female figure, especially naked. I have a much stronger sex drive than my wife and can satisfy that a bit at the SC.

Yes, I have women issues.

1) I have hyperlexia, an autism spectral disorder. Women quickly disqualify possible mates because of things like hyperlexia-they don't want to pass it on to possible offspring.

2) Because my disorder makes me a terrible liar, I am what I am. People lie in everyday life. Women would much rather be lied to than spend time with a guy who can't tell a lie.

3) I'm a Marine. I have a strong sense of honor. Honor is looked down on in contemporary society.

4) In a strip club I actually do a bit of acting. I take on a persona (strippe do this too). It's not lying if my character would do ______. She's naked, and willing to do certin things for money-that's actually 80 percent of the battle done already. Closing the deal is just a matter of details.

I am at the opposite end of the scale from misogyny to the point of being a neo-feminist male. I have also lots of female friends and co-workers and maintain positive appropriate relationships with both male and female students. However, I am a bit of a "hands-off" lech and a voyeur who enjoys watching pretty women wherever I go. I view way too much porn, so in many ways, SC's give me a chance to reconnect with the objects of my lechery in a positive way. I am a "good" regular who chats with the staff, tips well, drinks in moderation, and entertains the girls with my outgoing sense of silliness. Thus I find myself really liking most dancers, while at the same time still hoping to get them to do naughty things. Sometimes that combination works; other times I think I get fewer extra because I am seen as a nice guy (or to the cynics, a PL). I am still single at 52 and have shared my SC experiences with various buddies and a couple of girlfriends with mixed results. I think I would be far better off giving up porn and keeping my SC hobby than the other way around.

Dick, great topic. Another question is:

Do you go to strip clubs because you are a rapist?

I'd like to ask MisterGay under truth serum.....I know what the answer would be....

Yea, I have issues with women. I like seeing and touching them naked. Being an old fat guy, I find it' just easier to go to strip clubs to get my fix. Young, hot, willing women who respond to a relatively insignificant amount of money are infinitely preferable to stuck up prudes who won't even consider taking their clothes off for without all sorts of obligations I'm not in a position to offer.

I have quite alot of issues with women: 69 Playboys (circa 1995-2003 including several special editions), 6 Penthouse Magazines, 1 Genesis magazine. I don't think my magazines have anything to do with me going to strip clubs, but maybe?

Gatorfan,
What, no back issues of Oui?

No, I don't like french chicks LOL

Yes, I have issues with women. I've had some bad experiences, dating back to adolescence. Lots of rejection, girlfriends cheated, etc. So I look at them with suspicion, I suppose. With strippers there's no possibility for rejection.

I like the ego boost I get from strippers. I suppose it helps that I've learned how to dress myself fairly well, and that my issues have driven me to be overly concerned with my appearance. The clubs I visit aren't usually filled with guys who dress well and are in shape, so I attract a lot of attention. That doesn't happen at Applebee's. LOL.

Being able to say whatever I want to a stripper is fun. IRL, you have to worry about offending women. Not strippers. They're fun to talk to, and no subject is taboo. Plus, I've met some interesting women. Met some nutjobs, too.

I'm very picky about a woman's appearance. I cannot stand fat women, and the general populace is FILLED with fatties. My gym is filled with fatties. But the SC isn't. The SC is filled with thin, tan, tight-bodied young women. And for a fee I can grope them. I can grope $5000 boob jobs for $30.

My lifestyle isn't really one that attracts women. I'm 39, never married, work an OK job but not one that's ever going to make me rich. I live in a man cave of an apartment---bicycles and stereo equipment everywhere, and I like it. And I get up @4AM every day to work out, so I need to be in bed early during the week.

Try picking up a woman with all that going on. Hence the use of the SC, escorts, and massage parlors.

I do not have issues with women. I divorced 7 years ago after a shitty 27 marriage. I am 68 now and have no desire to sleep with grandmothers.So I do not date except for gridget (32). She quit stripping over 2 years ago but will still join me at the club. Btw she just got internet service back. I have encouraged her to post on here.

No issues with normal women. Strippers, on the other hand, suck dick.

“Have you ever really analyzed the reason or reasons why you are a part of this hobby?”

Bottom line for me, it is pure escapism. If I had to think about work, family, or God forbid, politics/the economy all the time I would go crazy/have a coronary. Sure, I have my other interests – sports, movies, music, cheerleader competitions, those teenage Japanese all-girl singing groups, but hey, none of that can compare with the thrill of a cute young hottie sitting on my lap – and other than when my nieces come to visit, the only place I can get that is the SC.

Steve... dude....

Steve, I am going to give you the benefit of a doubt.

Come on guys, this IS a Dick Johnson thread, after all!

Strip clubs are great entertainment. When I was younger, I did well in singles bars, but now, it is much easier to be entertained by younger attractive women without the relationship hassles. At least for the clubs I have been able to frequent, the are generally upbeat, and a great escape from my "real" life. Kind of like adult Disneyland.

My issues have issues, so yeah, probably.

I'm a somewhat old fart (43) by SC standards. So there's definitely an ego stroke when a hot girl who was born while I was in college wants to spend time with me (even if it is just for my money).

The other thing that I like, though, is a bit more personal (the cynics can start rolling their eyes now). I'm actually a pretty nice guy, such that a couple of my faves will hang out and talk, *knowing* that I'm tapped out and won't be spending any more money that night. Now I realize that part of that is "future investment", but part is just enjoying each other's company.

Now here's where that's different. Most women are so cynical, they make Dougster look like a babe in the woods. And so -- if they are even marginally attractive -- they assume that every guy only wants one thing, 100% of the time (which can really be a pain when all you want to do is order your hamburger and fries). And so, unless you're a fucking Adonis, they won't even give you a sniff. Whereas a stripper (even admitting money motives) at least spends enough time with me to find out I'm not a complete asshole.

And seeing as how my ex DOES think I'm a complete asshole, that goes a pretty good way for me.

I visit strip clubs because I've been having fun doing so. I also need a break from the normal routine of get up, go to work, get home, do more work, go to sleep, repeat. I would return to club hopping at regular sports bar before strip club hopping if they would put some decent arcade games back in. I didn't intend to but I have become friends with a number of dancers occasionally going out with them on their time off or after they got off from work. I got a new job in another state and made a promise to myself not to get involved with dancers again and all the stripper drama. I kept my promise for a few years until a dancer recognized me. She was a nymphomaniac. I found out I have trouble breaking things off with a nymphomaniac. However she did stop visiting after a year or so. Either that or she got arrested again doing over 90.

casualguy: I found out I have trouble breaking things off with a nymphomaniac.

Gee, I bet no one could identify with that at all. ;-)

I started going because I disliked my home, married life. Would rather touch the young women at the club. I am tired of being old. When I was 20, I acted 40. Now that I am ready to turn 40, I want to act like I am 20.

I actually like talking to the young women. I allow myself to forget they really are strippers and work for the money....for awhile. In 25 years I could be the new Shadowcat...lol.

Shadowcat is the mentor and guru for us older guys. He and I go for many of the same reasons. But it looks like Detroit may be forcing the clubs to die off if not outright close up.

SD? New rules in the works for Detroit?!

The four pleasures of life (in no particular order)

1. Food
2. Travel
3. Sex
4. Strip clubs

You can take a long, relaxing drive to escape, or you can take a short drive to a strip club (except for Shadowcat).

But how much escape. I think I/we're adicted to the eye candy and the contact. But I admit to having three escape moods, or maybe they are escape modes that don't overlap, depending on the type of day I'm having:
1. Absorb the view
2. Bring on the contact
3. Meet me later

Having said all that, I've made some interesting people (meaning dancers) over the years. Of course the cream always rises to the top and the crud always sinks to the bottom.

"....I've made some interesting people over the years (meaning dancers)."

I meant to say, I've met some interesting people (dancers) over the years. I wasn't getting witty.

Issues? Well ... haven't had sex yet ... never have had any sexual contact that I didn't pay for ... never have had a girlfriend ... hated and feared my mom when I was young ... still live at home.

Yes, yes I do.

For me, it has to be pure escapism. In the beginning, it was just fun to see naked ladies, but over time, it's just escapism. They don't even have to be the best looking ladies.

escapism and variety

DJ,

To answer your question truthfully, why yes, I have really analyzed the reason or reasons why I am a part of this hobby.