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Is Getting HJs and BJs from a hot dancer and not sex enough???

reignfire

South Carolina

My dad always said something is better than nothing. I myself have had that belief but lately a dancer has been testing my philosophy. I've been getting dances from her for awhile now. Things have progressed from grinding, to HJs thru the pants, to HJs inside the pants, to playing with the kitty, to now CBJs and occasionally TFs. She also gives me occasional nude dances (when no one's around) and kisses on the lips and yet...no sex as of yet. I've tried setting up meetings OTC but it's always excuse after excuse for her. I would try for ITC but, at Shadowcat's favorite club, there's hardly any privacy to do so. So it's a distinct possibility that she's just playing me or has just reached her limit as to how far she'll go but won't tell me so I would continue spending money on her. BUT...I'm still holding out hope that after awhile and she's sure that I'm not going to broadcast what we do to everyone else that she might eventually give it up. That might be wishful thinking. I know but for the time being I'll continue on and see where it'll lead.

But, if the HJs and BJs are all that the dancer's willing to do, will that be enough for me? I know that it's ultimately my decision but I would like to have some feedback. Again, my philosophy is something is better than nothing. The dancer's a beauty, her HJs are very good and her BJs are sooooo good but still...it's like I could get alot more from her. It's like if she can do all of that to me and I haven't betrayed her, she can go all the way and give it up to me. I feel that I've definitely earned it even if I do say so myself.

I even had this discussion with a friend of mine who, years ago, had this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity with a very popular dancer: she would have had sex with him but she was on the rag but she offered him a BJ instead (very unusual for her). He declined. I told him he was crazy (again, my philosophy). The only thing he could say was that all he could think about was sex with her and that a BJ, in any other circumstance would be awesome, just wasn't the same and not what he wanted. Like I said, it was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that he hasn't had since but he would do it again if he had to. What do you all think?