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Is Getting HJs and BJs from a hot dancer and not sex enough???

reignfire
South Carolina
Tuesday, December 15, 2009 6:19 AM
My dad always said something is better than nothing. I myself have had that belief but lately a dancer has been testing my philosophy. I've been getting dances from her for awhile now. Things have progressed from grinding, to HJs thru the pants, to HJs inside the pants, to playing with the kitty, to now CBJs and occasionally TFs. She also gives me occasional nude dances (when no one's around) and kisses on the lips and yet...no sex as of yet. I've tried setting up meetings OTC but it's always excuse after excuse for her. I would try for ITC but, at Shadowcat's favorite club, there's hardly any privacy to do so. So it's a distinct possibility that she's just playing me or has just reached her limit as to how far she'll go but won't tell me so I would continue spending money on her. BUT...I'm still holding out hope that after awhile and she's sure that I'm not going to broadcast what we do to everyone else that she might eventually give it up. That might be wishful thinking. I know but for the time being I'll continue on and see where it'll lead. But, if the HJs and BJs are all that the dancer's willing to do, will that be enough for me? I know that it's ultimately my decision but I would like to have some feedback. Again, my philosophy is something is better than nothing. The dancer's a beauty, her HJs are very good and her BJs are sooooo good but still...it's like I could get alot more from her. It's like if she can do all of that to me and I haven't betrayed her, she can go all the way and give it up to me. I feel that I've definitely earned it even if I do say so myself. I even had this discussion with a friend of mine who, years ago, had this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity with a very popular dancer: she would have had sex with him but she was on the rag but she offered him a BJ instead (very unusual for her). He declined. I told him he was crazy (again, my philosophy). The only thing he could say was that all he could think about was sex with her and that a BJ, in any other circumstance would be awesome, just wasn't the same and not what he wanted. Like I said, it was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that he hasn't had since but he would do it again if he had to. What do you all think?

13 comments

  • Dougster
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    15 years ago
    Never met a girl who was willing to do BJ but not FS. Many will draw the line at HJ, however, since STDs aren't possible through HJs but are at BJs and beyond.
  • DandyDan
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    15 years ago
    I don't generally seek sex, so HJ's and BJ's are generally enough. It depends on the girl, though. If I banged her once, I'd want to do it again.
  • steve229
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    15 years ago
    As a great philosopher once said: "don't rock the boat, baby"
  • SuperDude
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    15 years ago
    She's playing you for her own ego or money. Once she sees you drooling for it, she will up the ante. Do you want her to have that much control over you?
  • Clubber
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    15 years ago
    I tend to reverse the dancer/customer norm. They normally use us for money, and that still applies to some extend, but I reverse that by using them to get off. If it is just a HJ or BJ, I don't much care. I enjoyed myself and really, not much else matters to me. If I piss off a dancer, you know what, there are many more down the road. As SD said, she may be playing me in her mind, but if I get my enjoyment, I am "playing" her.
  • gk
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    15 years ago
    Have a dancer who will give me HJs and FS but no BJs, go figure. Everybody's got their own inventory. If this gets annoying, just move on, or else it could become a long seige.
  • gatorfan
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    15 years ago
    HJ and BJ's can be satisfying enough, I have no absolute expectation it will be FS.
  • londonguy
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    15 years ago
    gk, I think the theory behind this is that they 'keep something back' for their boyfriends/husbands. Some Escorts are the same, they will give you a BBBJ and let you fuck their ass but they won't kiss you no matter how good looking you are.
  • shadowcat
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    15 years ago
    All of my favs(12) do HJ's. Some will do BBBJ's. A couple will do FS ITC or OTC.I do not seek out FS.I just go for the entertainment. I spent 4 hours with a fav last month. I did leave with wet pants.
  • ArtCollege
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    15 years ago
    My theory: she sees herself as a dancer, not a hooker. So she doesn't do OTC. As she gets to know you, she dials up dancer activity, but has a line she won't cross. Easier to accept people for what they are, than to try to change them. (I keep telling my wife that, at least.)
  • sjc
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    15 years ago
    she is at her limit....let it be or move on.
  • Player11
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    15 years ago
    As far as extras - Many specialize in one thing or another. My ATF specializes in HJ then sex. It is a dynamite combo. She will get you hot with HJ as she loves it and I believe part of her arousal process. Then she will slip condom on you putting it on very expertly. In the club she will do me cowboy facing me. Her technique guarantees a happy ending every time. OTC is similar but in bed she gets on top, leaning forward thrusting. It is fantastic to watch in mirror. Of course there is HJ foreplay before. She says she saves BJ for hubby LOL. She has a close friend who used to dance at the club but is now a teacher (also married). She says the friend still sees clients and discussed a threesome as that gal specializes in BJ (but is expensive - $400). She says they would team up with her friend giving the guy BJ, then she would finish him with sex. But with her expert HJ IMO, no need for BJ.
  • samsung1
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    15 years ago
    HJs and BJs are considered high mileage in columbus sadly.
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