First Impressions of a Strip Club Newbie

Hi everybody, I'm a relatively new strip club enthusiast/addict. I'm 38 and up till 3 months ago had spent maybe 15 total minutes of my life in strip clubs. I'd talked to many people who'd been around them, plus I had many ideas from TV and movies, but I'd always figured they seemed cold and impersonal, or at least that I'd be uncomfortable there. But I decided why the fuck not try it. I'd been enjoying talking to girls and flirting a lot more recently, and since I wasn't really looking for relationships, strip clubs seemed like an interesting avenue. My first superficial observations were that dancers wore almost nothing, they don't really strip, they start off in a tiny bikini top, g-string and heels. I still haven't come across any girls wearing costumes or dresses or really anything more than that. The bartenders don't wear a much more, which totally enriches the experience but was a little confusing on my first few trips. Also confusing was how often I'd find no girls dancing on stage, or if they were it might be on a tiny floor stage, even as late as 10pm (sometimes even on Fridays). I figured out pretty quickly the differences between when a club is slow and when it's busy, and how both can be fun but the slow nights are generally better for an older, solitary gentleman like myself. But at first it was kinda like wandering into a darkened airport or bus station with lots of people moving around, many of them almost naked, and me with no itinerary. Clubs also tended to play mostly new hip-hop music that I'm barely familiar with, but I heard a lot of the same songs over and over again. I'd heard in the past that some clubs wouldn't play hip-hop, and that there were a lot more costumes and theme nights, but those don't seem to be the trends at all anymore. Basically, unlike most entertainment experiences, strip clubs aren't set up to guide you through it, you just gotta kind of dive in and figure it out. Which made for a fascinating few months. I discovered fairly early that trying to search out the most attractive girl is just gonna end with everyone hovering around one girl (which was literally my first experience, with a mostly Caucasian crowd basically ignoring a lot of good looking black girls to all talk to the one pretty cute white girl, a surreal fucking scene for sure). Pretty much from there on out, I realized that being open and friendly to the first girl that talks to me is my "way in", and is gonna start me off on a good foot for the night. I wasn't sure what to expect on my first dance. I had an idea that there's different types of dances, which is sort of true, but generally there's a back room and the rest is just a matter of the pricing and each individual girl. The first girl encouraged me to touch her a lot more (and a lot less gently) than I was expecting, and since I'd also had a couple drinks (I hadn't been much of a drinker since I was about 23 but at least when I'm at strip clubs now I'll have a few), it was one of the more uninhibited sexual experiences I'd had in about 10 years even though there was no actual sex, give or take the requisite cock-touch to try to get you to stay for the next dance. I also found out about in-club ATM fees (and credit card fees are even worse), but really I knew what to expect there, the actual lesson was to bring more cash. I've found that I like to spend a lot, but I'm not sure that enhances the experience as much as being relaxed and just willing to talk to everybody. I had expected the club to kind of guide me in to a streamlined "tour", an adult theme park, but it's way more open that that, and while it's all about a fantasy, it's also based entirely on real social relations. I feel like some of the girls are just as tentative as I am, and I'm as much trying to make them comfortable as they are me (a girl who doesn't want to sit and talk for a little while beforehand usually results in a bad dance). All of this is probably boilerplate to you guys who've been around the block. In the months I've been going, the experiences have escalated (some girls in some back rooms do way more, which I don't ask for but is certainly nice), and I've learned a lot of what to avoid. I've gone back to get many dances from the girl who gave me my first. I've gradually figured out which girls in a club are hooking up with each other and then gotten to watch them make out while I played with their tits. I've had stupid drama with girls and other customers, I've gotten booted once (deservedly, for throwing up in the men's room), and I've watched a club go from dead to packed at 1am while I stood half-coherently at the bar and nervous dudes tried to talk to me about the weather. There's a weird tension in strip clubs. Everyone's trying hard to have a great time and at the same time vulnerable and oddly scared of rejection for what amounts to a business transaction. I really like naked girls doing their best to be sweet to me, but I think I like trying to figure out these strange, dark little worlds even more.