How To Ask For "Extra's" at the Strip Club
Tuesday, September 1, 2015 12:00 AM
I originally wrote this article for my website www.dirtydianasdiary.com but it's a question I get asked A LOT so I thought I'd share it here on tuscl. It sounds like a simple question of etiquette but it's actually much more complicated. Here are the fine points.
Be clear about what you want. You want to be polite and respectful but not vague. Make sure that you know what you want before you start talking. Do you want a particular girl to meet you for dinner? Do you want sex? Do you want it inside the club or outside? Are you willing to pay her and if so, how much? If you are looking for sex, just say so. If you are paranoid about a law enforcement situation, you can use a euphemism like, "Do you do private parties?" or "Would you be interested in doing a dance outside the club?" The answer will likely be "no" but the question won't offend the dancer. If you're too vague, the dancer will assume you're just trying to ask her out and unless you're Ryan Gosling, she will be annoyed.
Be prepared to pay. A lot. You know what's insulting? Being undervalued. Do not offer her an insulting amount of money to leave the club and give you a blow job. Whether she would be willing to or not, at least show her that you would value the experience.
Maybe you're not looking for a blow job. Maybe you just want a little extra contact in the V.I.P. In that case tip her on the front end. Guys are always promising us more money if we "do more" and they are always full of shit. Tip her a $20 each time you see her on stage. Tip her an extra 30-50% of what the dance you're buying costs before she starts dancing. All women like to feel appreciated and in the strip club, money is how you communicate appreciation. If she feels like you appreciate it, she will likely give you more than the minimum requirement. Keep in mind that this is a gamble, and don't get pissed off if you don't get what you want. You don't have to keep buying dances from that particular girl. You can try someone else.
Pick an experienced stripper. Look for a dancer with a couple of years under her belt. You don't get an employee handbook when you get hired at the strip club so most strippers walk around clueless for the first little bit.
Don't take it personal. At most clubs I've worked at the girls are not allowed to do OTC dances. Even though lots of dancers do it, it's pretty taboo.
Keep that in mind and don't take it personally if the dancer declines to meet you anywhere but inside the club she works.
Don't be pushy. Women in general, including strippers, will do surprising things when they feel truly comfortable with you. You will never go wrong if you focus *genuinely* on making her feel comfortable and safe.
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