If you're in a long term relationship and she wants to start dancing but you trust her with the faith of a child, let me tell you, she's no different than mine and will be gone 12 weeks. I believed her, wanted her to get it out of her system, have the full-life experience but after 6 years of being in what I thought was a stable, healthy relationship, she was lying & cheating, sexting and using drugs and cheating within a few weeks - then gone. They're all the same.
I found a program on a shared computer she was still logged into a few days ago. It shows all the texts on her "stripper" number from when she started to the present. Not only has she stopped keeping the dancer life and 'real' life separate but she believes the guys she's met - even the club owners - are 'good' people worth having 'real' relationships with. That's who she's with now. She went from civil service of the public stable nice job to the so-called 'show business' of stripping and it's all gone to her head.
I'm scared for her and imagine (and I've been told) she's slow and naive. Without my guidance and experience she's going to be 'taken in' and 'turned-out' I believe is the term. She's a young mid-twenties and has the terrible misfortune of not thinking she's slow. She thinks she's got it all under control. Sexually assaulted, diseased, physically hurt, permanently scarred - all things I fear for her. She's pretty, but not all that, she's ego-maniacal and very insecure. She did the exact opposite of what I tried to tell to do; leave the drama at the club, don't nit-pick or back-bite with the girls. Keep to yourself and find the meek, harmless guys who are just looking to pay some chick all the 20's and singles in his pocket if the nice, pretty dancer makes him feel special and just seems to honestly be listening to him. It won't even need to be sexual if she works it right. Get his number, tell him you'll call him when you're working again he "seems sane and real, better than all the crazies I have to deal with" and when you get 30 to 40 of them, you'll be making $3000 a week basically being a dancing therapist.
What did she do? Believed she met 'good, real people' who she's made it her life to hang out with outside of the club. They're all chasing her sexually, offering her money, sending videos of their hard cocks narrated with how much they'd pay her for different things. And now she's gone. After almost a decade with a family on in the making, she's gone. Walked out without notice leaving everything but her clothes and some framed pictures of us. I've got the title to her car, signed, and she won't respond to requests to pick it up. Your's is no different - if you think she's not please don't make the same mistake as me. Don't even let her start.
I think she sucked my dick last night. Not the best I've ever had.