felipe609

Define "bad." I've walked in a club, and then immediately walked out if there are no dancers. (I've also sat at a strip club and nursed a beer when I was the only one there and there were no dancers and it is not something I usually suggest.) I've parked and not gone into a club if I get a weird vibe (like it seems unsafe, or there's lots of cops nearby). If it is somewhere in between--there are people, it's not unsafe, but I just don't "feel" it, I will usually have a beer and leave. I usually go to clubs that are not that far from other clubs, so it is not too hard to go to one then another.

The short answer is that there are a bunch of reviews of New Jersey clubs. That is where I would start. The longer answer is, what type of clubs do you want? New Jersey has all kinds of clubs, except the fancy type of clubs you'll find in Midtown Manhattan. Another longer answer is, "within an hour from Manhattan" is not very specific. An hour's drive or an hour by public transportation? In rush hour from a Midtown hotel, or at 2am from Times Square? There's been some days it's taken me an hour to get through the tunnel. With luck you could get to Elizabeth in an hour from downtown. You could also get to Irvington/Orange/Newark, and Paterson/Passaic/Hawthorne in about an hour, depending where and when you start. Those are the three clusters that I would begin looking at reviews for.

I have to say I have never found this be a thing. Keep in mind that many dancers give you a false name, tell you they like you, and otherwise mix non-truth with truth. Because, well, it's part of the fantasy. I doubt if you asked a dancer's full name or address she would give it to you, either. At various times, a dancer will ask me if I am married or seeing somebody. I usually lie. Partly because I don't want to think about my significant other while at a strip club. Partly because I don't think it is really anybody's business. If a dancer asks me if I am married, I will usually ask her is she is married. I put as much faith in her answer as in mine. Also, for what it's worth, I am not sure if a stripper being single makes her more attractive. I mean, I am not going to try to date her--though maybe some people have that fantasy. Actually, I find something sexually attractive about a married woman. (I don't do OTC. That said, if I did, I would probably steer clear of married dancers because that could lead to drama. But in the club, I think it is less likely.) But in general, I wouldn't ask unless I was asked first. (Dancers often ask me about kids, too. But I find that dancers are often much more likely to be open about their own kids, including showing me photos.)

I don't pretend I wrote the best review ever. But I do have to say that this comment annoys me Putting names in reviews is really stupid. I wrote, "She was a darker-skinned Dominican woman, with nice curves without being fat. She looked like she was in her mid-thirties; mature without being old." I am not sure how that is nondescript. It sounds descriptive to me. I am not sure what more you could want, except perhaps her name. And, again, I don't write names. What would she have done for $90? In a literal sense, I don't know because I didn't buy a dance. She could have licked my toes, done my nails, or given me a tattoo. It is like trying to describe a meal that you saw on the menu but didn't order. At the same time, if you are reading reviews for Bishop's Corner, it is not really that hard to figure out what one can do after buying a dance.

People did not seem to like my description of Sunrise in Paterson (NJ) as upscale. That said, some less-than-upscale clubs I've been to include almost any club in Irvington (NJ) and several in Paterson. To me, what often makes a club sleazy are: it smells; there are flies; there are stains on the furniture. Having recent shootings or other violent crime is an added bonus. All that said, while I am not a regular patron of Bridgeport bars, the ones I've been to are dive bars, but are not overly sleazy in their ambience. Upscale bars tend to have doormen, a cover charge, somebody in the bathroom asking for tips to give you toilet paper, expensive drinks, lots of velvet seating. The most upscale clubs I've been to in the US are in Manhattan