Don't you fucking hate it when....
DickJohnson
Illinois
somebody judges you for going to a SC? Especially when that person goes him/herself but conveniently forgets that during judgement. It seems to go once in a while is ok, or for a bachelor party or a bachelorette party, but to go regularly, well then your just weird. do you guys get this sort of judgement sometimes?
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Not really. I do get a little irritated by dancers who assume all customers are losers. The point being that a real man doesn't have to pay for a woman. Well, there is an issue of quality----and that brings out the looks are irrelevant mantra. Looks may be irrelevant to most men and women, but not to me. :) I need very attractive. To each his own.
But I'm very surprised at the dancers. And the management. There are a lot of really jaded people in the stripping field, and they often push that jaded attitude into their judgments of others. So, they (oddly) say that anybody who goes into a strip club is a pathetic loser. Sometimes I think they're trying to build some kind of minor bonding with me, by bad-mouthing everyone around, in order to sort of build a "secret society of two" between us. But mostly, they're just being negative and stupid. The dancers want respect, most get angry when men think of them as de-facto prostitutes, and they really expect to be treated as though their jobs are "normal" and not disreputable at all. But they want to be able to denigrate men who patronize those jobs, as though the men are indeed disreputable. It's not surprising that these people, who are generally uneducated, generally of a rather non-widened set of perspectives, would be capable of hypocrisy. The surprise, however, is, that they're capable of a hypocrisy that is to their own detriment! I would have figured that the hypocrisy would instead have gone the other way: that they would have been unreasonably PROUD of how brilliant it is to be a stripper.
In fact, I've met a few who have a rather bloated self-image, in a hypocritical way, such as, for example, the super-duper-vogue glitzy girl who acts as queen bee and demands the obeisance of all other strippers in her view. She usually thinks of herself as a superior entity merely because of her superior (so she thinks) appearance. But she simultaneously also thinks, that any girl who believes that her looks are good or who links her beauty to her superior worth, is a bitch for having done so. I understand this hypocrisy -- the alpha cunt just needs a way to make sure she feels that she is superior and others are inferior. It's still hypocrisy, but at least it makes sense.
But the dancers who denigrate the strip club scene, as though the scene were disreputable? I don't understand. I see how they're contradicting themselves, I just don't see what they're gaining from it. Wouldn't they want to engage in a lot of self-talk that unreasonably BOOSTS the reputability of strip clubbing (and thereby improve their own status in their own eyes, and supposedly in the eyes of anyone listening), and not vice versa?
I know I wouldn't enjoy strippers nearly as much if I didn't believe I was taking part in a disgusting addiction for perverts. I ain't doing it for the merit badge.
As for people in my OTC life, none of them know how much I go. And honestly, if I'm mongering, I think I prefer to go alone. If I'm going with a bunch of buddies after a game or for a Bachelor party, I might only get a lap dance or two. If I'm alone, I do a whole lot more.
I always get a kick out of these dancers that go on about "it's just a job" that is... until their brother comes in, or their uncle comes in, or their dad comes in, or their friends come in, or their boyfriend wants to come in, or their husband wants to come in... and I haven't even begun to list the points of entertainment!