I somewhat realized that great dancers are cheaters. Most dancers who provide me extras have boyfriends. I am aware that they are cheating, even though she is receiving money. Granted she is the one who made the decision to do it, but I feel that we are to blame as well. If we had not asked, she would not have to make a decision. Yet on a dime, there guys who would pay a lot for no extras. I think these guys are trying to trick the dancers to fall for them. If a guy pay a lot and don't expect any extras or even much dances and don't even touch, then my guess is that he want her to date him. First, he would pay well for basically nothing. Then, eventually, he would ask her out. He still pay for the date. I think he wants her to fall for him and that eventually, she would marry him. Only millionaires would do this. However, cheaters will go for it.
I wouldn't say that a stripper that provides extras is a cheater. I believe it's a stripper's job to, at the very least, provide the GFE. A stripper who goes the extra mile and does extras is merely a professional.
If you want to think about cheating in the strict sense, a stripper who strips is a cheater, let alone provides the GFE, or does extras.
A dancer told me that the act and pretense that goes with LD's was emotionally draining. Pretending to like a guy enough to get him aroused and get his money can make some dancers feel empty, she claimed. So, having a boyfriend as an emotional anchor, at any cost, is key to keeping sane. When the boyfriend decides to break it off, customers will hear about it. Most boyfriends know the girl is dancing and don't consider her cheating, even if she sees a customer OTC. They are glad to live off her money as long as they can stand being an emotional crutch. When it's over it's over--just like a LD
There is a line. Dancers who goes beyond the lapdance is cheating. It is cheating when it comes to provide intimacy like kissing or any form of sex. Dancers have to make us believe that they like us. That is a part of courtship required for us to be interested. Sure, some guys want more. It would be easier, if they are single. Some dancers will pretend that they do not have boyfriends or husbands. They may provide extras, but they do know that they are cheating. If by accident that I end up with a dancer as my girlfriend or wife, she would have to quit the profession.
I never really thought about it, but the best ITC experience I had was with the one openly married dancer I've met. And most of the rest had boyfriends, at least. One of my current favorites seems to openly enjoy cheating as she lets me "eat at the buffet" (DATY).
I have found that generally the married ones have lower limits than the ones with boyfriends. IE: "I can't do that (fuck) because I am married" or "if I wasn't married, I would be back at your hotel room". VS "The dickhead (boyfriend) is in jail or "he (married with 3 kids) only comes around when he wants to fuck me". I would say that 30% of my favorites are married. The rest have boyfriends, girl friends or none of these.
I don't know many who is okay with his girlfriend doing others, even if she is being paid. Unless, the other guy is paying 4 figures an hour, I said never.
Interesting statement you made above. I know I would never have been ok with my gf doing others for any money. Now that I have been married for so many years, I can't honestly say I'd be upset so much now. I might be, but I really don't know. I also don't wish to find out.
If the girl works somewhere notoriously high mileage such as Hawaii Theater in Industry, or any other high mileage club then chances are the husband or boyfriend is very similar, to a pimp. Think about that... MOST of them aren't naive enough to date a dancer and not have any idea what goes on at the club they are at. If they TRULY had a problem with what their woman was doing for money, they wouldn't allow them to strip, or would at least re-position them into one of the many low mileage clubs (there are MANY clubs where the bouncers patrol every 10-15 minutes, even in the private areas - hell, even Deja Vu in Industry has cameras in the VIP) she could still make money without needing to compete with a Hawaii Theater type of environment where nearly everyone offers full service for the right tip.
Interestingly enough, I JUST had this conversation with one of the Hawaii Theater girls this past Friday night before I went to the VIP. I asked her what her live-in boyfriend felt about her VIP work, and she replied "Hey, I also do porn, so he's actually seen me have sex with other guys. Besides, he knows that whatever I do here is just business..." (paraphrasing, or course).
With that said, I've dated dancers who worked in bouncer patrolled low mileage environments, and even then I didn't trust them to be able to turn down the occasional old dude that would offer $1,000 just to eat them. Hell, if they're getting offered that kind of money then I might even have been willing to watch!
Also, on the subject of Deja Vu, there is an older Latina girl who works there and gives great mileage for the right tip even in the topless section. She is also married, and as someone with a porn library to her credit, I'm pretty sure her husband has no illusions about how she makes some of her money. And this one offered a full menu of services, even in the topless room.
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If you want to think about cheating in the strict sense, a stripper who strips is a cheater, let alone provides the GFE, or does extras.
Interesting statement you made above. I know I would never have been ok with my gf doing others for any money. Now that I have been married for so many years, I can't honestly say I'd be upset so much now. I might be, but I really don't know. I also don't wish to find out.
Interestingly enough, I JUST had this conversation with one of the Hawaii Theater girls this past Friday night before I went to the VIP. I asked her what her live-in boyfriend felt about her VIP work, and she replied "Hey, I also do porn, so he's actually seen me have sex with other guys. Besides, he knows that whatever I do here is just business..." (paraphrasing, or course).
With that said, I've dated dancers who worked in bouncer patrolled low mileage environments, and even then I didn't trust them to be able to turn down the occasional old dude that would offer $1,000 just to eat them. Hell, if they're getting offered that kind of money then I might even have been willing to watch!