This is the opposite thread of "What dancer tactic/approach turns you on the most." What tactics do dancers use to try and get privates that leave you cold/bored/limp?
For me, this includes-
Coming up to me as I'm walking into the club or immediately after I've just sat down. Give me a second to relax, sip my drink and scope out the scene! At the very least, let my eyes adjust to the dark before you come up and ask, "Wanna play?"
Beginning with tedious small-topic. Sure. I appreciate you starting with actual conversation, rather than just leaping into the sales pitch, but come on.... talk to me about something FUN or sexy or unexpected. Ask me about the club, like Have I been here before? Or have I ever had a private? Or what I'm drinking--- or even if I'd like to buy you a drink. Or do I like the music? Or talk about yourself-- or ask me if like your outfit or hair, or perfume. Don't start in about work, or the weather, or traffic--- that takes me back out into the tedious everyday world, not into the fantasy I come into the club to indulge in.
"Are you married?" or "Do you have a girlfriend?" OK, this isn't an approach, in the sense that I've never had a dancer come up and ask me that as the first thing she says r does. But it seems to come up often in the chit-chat. Why, oh why would you ask such a thing if you're trying to get me to do a private with you?
Perhaps a reason not to have ATM's in a club is the fact that I've had girls come up to me when I've tried to withdraw money from the ATM. Yeah, I know you shouldn't withdraw money from the ATM at the club, but sometimes you have to, and I think it's rude of them to ask for a dance right there.