What dancer tactic or approach turns you on the least? (Or off the most?)
jack_s
Florida
This is the opposite thread of "What dancer tactic/approach turns you on the most." What tactics do dancers use to try and get privates that leave you cold/bored/limp?
For me, this includes-
Coming up to me as I'm walking into the club or immediately after I've just sat down. Give me a second to relax, sip my drink and scope out the scene! At the very least, let my eyes adjust to the dark before you come up and ask, "Wanna play?"
Beginning with tedious small-topic. Sure. I appreciate you starting with actual conversation, rather than just leaping into the sales pitch, but come on.... talk to me about something FUN or sexy or unexpected. Ask me about the club, like Have I been here before? Or have I ever had a private? Or what I'm drinking--- or even if I'd like to buy you a drink. Or do I like the music? Or talk about yourself-- or ask me if like your outfit or hair, or perfume. Don't start in about work, or the weather, or traffic--- that takes me back out into the tedious everyday world, not into the fantasy I come into the club to indulge in.
"Are you married?" or "Do you have a girlfriend?" OK, this isn't an approach, in the sense that I've never had a dancer come up and ask me that as the first thing she says r does. But it seems to come up often in the chit-chat. Why, oh why would you ask such a thing if you're trying to get me to do a private with you?
For me, this includes-
Coming up to me as I'm walking into the club or immediately after I've just sat down. Give me a second to relax, sip my drink and scope out the scene! At the very least, let my eyes adjust to the dark before you come up and ask, "Wanna play?"
Beginning with tedious small-topic. Sure. I appreciate you starting with actual conversation, rather than just leaping into the sales pitch, but come on.... talk to me about something FUN or sexy or unexpected. Ask me about the club, like Have I been here before? Or have I ever had a private? Or what I'm drinking--- or even if I'd like to buy you a drink. Or do I like the music? Or talk about yourself-- or ask me if like your outfit or hair, or perfume. Don't start in about work, or the weather, or traffic--- that takes me back out into the tedious everyday world, not into the fantasy I come into the club to indulge in.
"Are you married?" or "Do you have a girlfriend?" OK, this isn't an approach, in the sense that I've never had a dancer come up and ask me that as the first thing she says r does. But it seems to come up often in the chit-chat. Why, oh why would you ask such a thing if you're trying to get me to do a private with you?
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The fly-by "wanna dance?" is fine as long as they don't follow up with the "well then can I have a dollar?" when I wave them off. No panhandling in clubs, please.
Occasionally when a dancer invites herself to my table, I'll just go along with her and chat awhile, and when she asks for a dance I'll say "nah, not really up for dances today"... that usually keeps them from returning in the future.
O.
Then there are the game players. You'll give them the look like you are inviting them to come over. Then come in proximity about three times, then when you decide they aren't going to come over, they pop up next to you. These kind will always get a big "no" from me when they finally ask if I want a dance.
But the very worst kind are the ones who sit down next to you. Ask you a couple of questions, and then just sit there! Not asking for dances, not talking, but just sitting there. Then they'll ask you for a dance a couple of songs later. "No, thanks." Sit two more songs. "Are you sure?" "Yes". Keep sitting... What in the fuck is this?
The girls at the Mons in Tampa used to assault you at the door - it was the only thing I didn't care for at that club. My last few visits, they seemed to have toned that down a bit.
2. Complaining about money, bills or boyfriends.
3. Ordering drinks or giving the "come over" sign to the shot girl.
4. Demanding a tip during the LD. A sure mood killer.
5. Blocking other dancers by hanging around.
6. Questions about my ethnic background.
7. Asking for my business card and phone number. I don't want to be an "on call" regular.
8. "I'll be right back," right after getting paid for LDs.
The fly by dance request.