There has always been a lot of talk on here about jaded dancers. But what about the customers? Do you have preconceived notions that all strippers are ROB's? Did one dancer ruin your night?
I am either the biggest PL or the luckiest guy posting on here. Sure, I have met some ROB's (Megan)but for the most part the dancers that I know personally are honest with me, appreciate me and give me good value for my money. I recognize stripper shit when I hear it and just avoid them. I am a happy camper.
I treat it like a game, just like they do. The girls use a stage name, I use an old nickname. I use made up professions, like garbage truck dispatcher/foreman, or office manager.
I think that some of you guys are paranoid. I was siting with rob0411 yesterday with one of my favorites. She knows that I am shadowcat and what TUSCL is. She asked him if he was also a member. He told her "Yes". Big deal. You do not have to lie unless you really have some thing to hide.
I did meet and actually still know of one dancer who kept suggesting to me that we hook up sometime or go somewhere sometime. It was all an act. I believe she had another boyfriend the whole time and no intention of ever hooking up, unless she really was just thinking about having sex and I didn't suggest that. I got mad at her and she knew it and called me up to apoligize after one incident where I said I was going somewhere and she said she was interested in going to. However she never called back to give directions to her house to pick her up. I wasn't used to any dancer playing a game like that. I still got lap dances from her because I enjoyed the lap dances but at least she ended all the stupid suggestions about hooking up later when she didn't mean it. All the other dancers I've met weren't joking about hooking up later (it just meant they wanted to meet me away from the club, not necessarily anything else).
Maybe I am slightly jaded. Paying someone $25, $30, or for some even $40 for 2 to 3 minutes or so of someone taking off their top and moving around a little bit in front of you while you watch, seems like a very high cost for very little back in return. Paying someone $40 for 15 minutes of grinding on you and nothing else seems like a very high price when you could do more for free away from a strip club environment and without all the hassle of loud music and bouncers.
Ok, I guess I am a bit jaded. I'll tell dancers "maybe later" most of the time even if I mean "no thanks, don't bother to come back again" simply because I don't want to have to deal with dancers who would rather give me a sales pitch or argue with me or use up more of my time when I'm just trying to relax and watch the dancers on stage. However sometimes I may mean maybe later or don't mind the dancers sitting on my lap for a while. I figure many dancers are going to come back later anyway and ask me again and again if the club isn't crowded.
I think a lot of strippers are jaded, but also I think American strippers are probably not going to go out with you the way you'd like.
European and Central/South American Strippers will probably go out with you if you are successful and cool.
American strippers MIGHT go out with you if you have a NICE vehicle, always have extra cash, have a nice house, and make sure you PICK the right girl. Also, being cute doesn't hurt.
I'm absolutely a jaded customer. It's just natural to be like that after going to the clubs for so many years.
I really only fealt "jaded" by one stripper. Back in 1993 I was 32 years old and there was a stripper that I really liked and I wanted a relationship with her. She was about ten years younger than me. She expressed interest in me too but, she needed me to keep coming to the club so she could get to know me better. That lead to me continually buying dances. It became painfully obvious to me she was just stringing me along. She never had any interest in a relationship with me and I quit buying dances from her. After that lesson, I now view strippers as ONLY a form of entertainment and nothing more. I've bumped in to a few strippers (not the same one that jaded me) and we have exchanged small talk but I never expected more.