I shouldn't be surprised; but it made me sad...
gothamyte
from that Adam Westsiiiide of Gotham
so, I got a random private DM from a stripper who I ain't heard from in maybe a decade. honestly, i wasn't sure if she was dead or alive--I knew she had health issues and I hadn't seen her around. She DM's me asking for money--a 2-digit amount, so way under $100. Mind you, I haven't spoken or heard from her in about a decade. And even when I did see her at the strip club, back in the day, we weren't super-close or ever talked deeply about anything. I was actually kinda surprised she found me on social media.
of course I initially thought it was a scam, but looks like it wasn't. I didn't send her money. I contacted her family that I could find on social media and alerted them to help her...
All this to say: gosh what a difference a decade makes. Back in the day, she was young, cute, gave great lap dances, I hoped she was making money. 10 years later she's asking for a couple of bucks to help her out. It's crazy to see someone who stripped multiple nights a week, healthy, fall on hard times and now is like broke / penniless.
Would like to see a 10-year project on serious dancers who had a 'solid career' and then a where-are-they-now, 10 years after. Like look at those ladies at the Bunny Ranch on HBO. Where are they now? Are they broke? Which would be a shame.
I know drugs can be a factor and mis-managing of money. Or having kids.
I'd also like to see the johns like us / the mongrels like us / so-called perverts like us in comparison. After 10 years, the johns who heavily visit strip clubs, where-are-they-now?
Why do I feel we johns probably fared way better overall than ladies who have danced at clubs for years. I myself am doing fine today. My money situation is much better now than it was a decade ago. And I still go to clubs. On the other hand, many clubs have since closed. It's sad to see. I shouldn't be surprised. But this makes me mildly sad. Especially that young dancer, to see her on hard times 10 years later--the club she worked at closed like 8 years ago. And hasn't re-opened.
It's just 'wild' to see. Since experiencing this and then going to the club, I feel like whispering to every dancer, "hold on to your money. Please keep thinking about 10 years from now....please put a plan now in motion for yourself"
of course I initially thought it was a scam, but looks like it wasn't. I didn't send her money. I contacted her family that I could find on social media and alerted them to help her...
All this to say: gosh what a difference a decade makes. Back in the day, she was young, cute, gave great lap dances, I hoped she was making money. 10 years later she's asking for a couple of bucks to help her out. It's crazy to see someone who stripped multiple nights a week, healthy, fall on hard times and now is like broke / penniless.
Would like to see a 10-year project on serious dancers who had a 'solid career' and then a where-are-they-now, 10 years after. Like look at those ladies at the Bunny Ranch on HBO. Where are they now? Are they broke? Which would be a shame.
I know drugs can be a factor and mis-managing of money. Or having kids.
I'd also like to see the johns like us / the mongrels like us / so-called perverts like us in comparison. After 10 years, the johns who heavily visit strip clubs, where-are-they-now?
Why do I feel we johns probably fared way better overall than ladies who have danced at clubs for years. I myself am doing fine today. My money situation is much better now than it was a decade ago. And I still go to clubs. On the other hand, many clubs have since closed. It's sad to see. I shouldn't be surprised. But this makes me mildly sad. Especially that young dancer, to see her on hard times 10 years later--the club she worked at closed like 8 years ago. And hasn't re-opened.
It's just 'wild' to see. Since experiencing this and then going to the club, I feel like whispering to every dancer, "hold on to your money. Please keep thinking about 10 years from now....please put a plan now in motion for yourself"
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then again, I could argue, but my job from 10 years ago, I still got a 401K from that and it's still active even thought I dont' work there no more. My 401K still makes roughly about $200 a year very slowly, but i'll take it.
I dunno. the whole picture is so sad because of 'the party atmosphere' too. looking back now, 10 years later, now it's a mirage, kinda fake. but back then, 10 years ago, at the strip club, it's pure youth, lights, shakin' booty, loud music, dry humping lapdances. 10 years later, it's reality, no music, older, health failing, now scrounging for money. nobody's around to help.
hasn't stopped me from going to the strip club last night, tho lol
OP, funny you brought this up.
I went picture perving on IG and thought about this chick I used to mess with 10-15 years ago. I knew she was out the game, but was shocked to see her page. Back in the day, this chick stayed getting money, having one of the most curviest bodies on a small frame. I even did OTC with her a few times.
She eventually got "discovered" by Cherokeed'ass and made a few porn videos.
Fast forward today and she battling cancer and was trying to raise money on a gofundme page to help pay medical expenses her insurance won't cover.
Now her body has, expectantly, loss a lot of weight and just a shell of the person she was physically. Sad to see.
Strippers would tell me their real name and give a good contact number (dependent on your clubbing location and type of clubs you frequent). And if you got to know each other, no different than getting to know a civvie. Info can naturally get shared.
My very favorite regulars do better, though. They were pretty, had very friendly personalities , and usually showed up for work. Qualities like that will help you in any job.
I suppose that doesn't make it any easier to see, but I think telling them to hold on and plan for 10yrs from now is probably not gonna make much difference.
The smart ones plan for a career after dancing, whether nursing, real estate, or whatever. I'm out of strip clubbing for a time; perhaps forever, but I love discussing the culture and sociology of it. But when I'm in, I saw them as service providers. Cold, I know, but I wouldn't Cashapp my mechanic an extra $100 because he wasn't good with his money. Why would it be different if the service was T&A?
The way we politicize and fight over everything, some asshat will claim their rights are being violated because they don't believe in money. And some other SJW will take up their cause to make sure those asshats aren't persecuted for their beliefs. And a third group will insist that it must be taught even though they don't really understand or care, but because they're sick of the SJW's forcing them to be tolerant of shit they really couldn't care less about to begin with. And then some nutbags will determine that there must be some grand conspiracy at work and it's the fat cats in "Big Check Ledger" industry trying to indoctrinate our youth the false idea that we need their products to balance our checkbooks so they can continue to run their child trafficking ring to sacrifice virgins and drink their blood.
I'll start the argument by saying I think 7th grade is two young, you should wait till 10th grade at least. Those defenseless 12yo children can't have their innocence stolen from them with your liberal commie "Financial Literacy" nonsense. Let kids be kids damn it!
@Poundking and others - fictitious conversation
Stripper - "I need money to keep my cell phone on!"
PuddyTat - "That sounds like a 'you' problem."
"....Tired of lying in the sunshine. Staying home to watch it rain. And you are young and life is long; And there is time to kill today. And then one day you find; ten years have got behind you; no one told you when to run. You missed the starting gun." I woke up one day and I was 32. I committed to my wife and work that day because I realized I was out of TIME. I grew up that day, but unlike many I had a serious education and job skill to make up for lost time.
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Outside of Purple Orchid in Philly we had a get together after action review for those coming out could inform those coming in on what the word is. That was a new one.
Outside of Gold in SF stripper hit me up for OTC before she went on shift.