Any tips for meeting OTC
Dustyhawkins
I know I'm probably annoying AF now, especially after my discussions the last few days this week. Anyway fellas my topic today is about meeting outside the club. So I've been to strip clubs a lot, and I know many dancers over time, like eventually the dancers will all know you from a club, you'll get dances whatever become their regular. I don't know why but for some reason especially for me I've never been able to pull an OTC like it seems so difficult to do. Like I've gotten dances, VIP whatever from the girl, we talked and known each other for a few visits. Then after the dance I'll casually be like So yeah your a cool chick I love it, we should meet up sometime and hang out, they give the number, that's not the problem. I've gotten over hundred strippers numbers they always talk the talk they're like yeah yeah we'll meet up and figure it out whatever you want, and I'm telling them I'm gonna pay too, they know I'm gonna give them money. So that's not the issue, if I were trying to meet up for free and just get company or a girls attention without the money to meet up then that makes sense if they're not complying or don't talk. But even as I'm offering money, like alot give their number and say yes or we can do this or that but then they never reply, or some reply and talk a few messages but never meet up or anything. Like what's the problem? If you didn't wanna meet up that would've been all good you could've just said so, I don't do that, or I don't wanna meet up. Its more annoying that they lead you on and make up shit.
Its just meeting outside the club in day or evening, whatever you request whether it's ranging from extras, to kissing, cuddling, to even just kicking it regularly too hanging out adventuring doing something cool, watching a movie, I don't know. There could be many things you want, whatever you want to meet OTC for. For me my reasoning was that she's not gonna go out of her way to meet one asshole customer for like $200-300 when she can just stay at the club and keep meeting more people and make more $$$. Or they don't feel comfortable or its risky to get that acquaintanted and have your identity more exposed. But if that's the case you should let someone know from the get go, I know I already said that, but you can all agree I am right, just tell someone straight up, and I'd be fine with that. So what are your takes on this topic and what are your tips to eventually get a successful OTC meetup and have fun or just enjoy each other's companionship thank you guys have fun in your strip club journey!
Its just meeting outside the club in day or evening, whatever you request whether it's ranging from extras, to kissing, cuddling, to even just kicking it regularly too hanging out adventuring doing something cool, watching a movie, I don't know. There could be many things you want, whatever you want to meet OTC for. For me my reasoning was that she's not gonna go out of her way to meet one asshole customer for like $200-300 when she can just stay at the club and keep meeting more people and make more $$$. Or they don't feel comfortable or its risky to get that acquaintanted and have your identity more exposed. But if that's the case you should let someone know from the get go, I know I already said that, but you can all agree I am right, just tell someone straight up, and I'd be fine with that. So what are your takes on this topic and what are your tips to eventually get a successful OTC meetup and have fun or just enjoy each other's companionship thank you guys have fun in your strip club journey!
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You don't seem to have harsh negative stereotypes of strippers. So, if you're under 40, not impossible you could date a stripper. You have to like them as a woman who happens to be a stripper, not because she is a stripper. She has to be single. (Most aren't even if they say they are.) Don't expect her to stop dancing if you get serious with her, unless you've got the $ to maintain her lifestyle.
I will play along and comment on your discussion.
Q: Like what's the problem? (Meeting OTC)
A: The "problem" is your lack of knowledge about the bizarro world of strippes and the adult idustry along with your unreasonable/unrealistic expectations.
Most American women, strippers or not, believe that having sex for money is Morally Wrong.
They will tell you what they think you want to hear, in order to keep you as a regular source of income, without having to givesex for money.
You also wrote and I quote:
"Or they don't feel comfortable or its risky to get that acquaintanted and have your identity more exposed. But if that's the case you should let someone know from the get go, I know I already said that, but you can all agree I am right, just tell someone straight up, and I'd be fine with that."
The strippers have not obligation to "let someone know from the get go" you included.
And NO ALL reading your discussion will agree that YOU ARE RIGHT.
As you can probably not see is your entitled attitude and lack of knowledge about the Paid for Sex Hobby.
What have worked for me in having good OTC is building a trusted relationship with a girl I really like and let her know that I am a mature gentleman who is reliable, trustworthy, safe and willing to make a mutually beneficial relationship with her, outside the club; a win win for both by eliminating the middleman, the club.
Remember All activities, sexual or not, in our capitalist society have a cost in money, time and effort.
“In this country, you gotta make the money first.
Then when you get the money, you get the power.
Then when you get the power, then you get the women.”
~ Cuban refugee Tony Montana (Al Pacino) in the movie Scarface (1983).
You said it yourself at the beginning of your discussion and I quote:
“I know I'm probably annoying AF”
Yes you are annoying and that is why most girls don’t want to do OTC with you.
And on top of that you are not self aware; Self-awareness is how an individual experiences and understands their own character, feelings, motives, and desires.
That and your inability to learn and accept that the adult industry that includes strippers is what people in TUSCL call “Bizarro World” because it is a place which is weirdly inverted or opposite to expectations.
Why don’t you just go to the Happiest Place on Earth; with the right mindset and realistic expectations, most American heterosexual men will have a good time at the Hong Kong Gentlemen Club because it is, according to Krusty, the Happiest Place on Earth.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mCFQl0NfoP…
just be careful out there.
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Thank you @ ilbbaicnl your a real one, yes I don't have a harsh stereotype for strippers of course there's all different kinds you got the sweet ones the, lovely nice ones, bitch strippers entitled ones, druggies, horny ones there's all different kinds but yeah I don't stereotype too much I just let them be and yeah see I like your view point anything is possible man. You can date them hang out whatever, screw people that say your not supposed to go that far for a stripper or they're not meant for that you can do anything, it's possible. Thank you again my friend for being awesome
Not to come off with GPS but when I meet a guy in the club he has to do a VIP to get my number plus I don’t meet OTC for less than 1k. But I’m also in Vegas so that’s pretty common
You wrote and I quote:
“… when I meet a guy in the club he has to do a VIP to get my number plus I don’t meet OTC for less than 1k. But I’m also in Vegas so that’s pretty common.”
Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.
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Good Times, Good Times.
I’m a serious note; how do you “screen” the men you decide to do OTC with.
I suppose you listen to your gut feeling, spider 🕷️ sense to avoid potential dangers.
What measures do you use for your safety.
Thank you in advance for your advice.
I typically have them save my number send me a txt so I know who they are. Rarely do I meet the same night usually the day after we can do lunch and private time. Meanwhile I will do my screening how I normally do on the back end.
But really if I’m offering that to a customer 9/10 he has a good vibe to him he is t creepy and we have talked for a few hours while he has been at the club or in VIP
You can increase your chances of success. Some clubs are more extras-friendly than others. Read the club reviews of clubs in your area. Some cities have more extras-friendly clubs and you could take a trip for strip clubbing. Girls working in these clubs are more likely to do OTC.
When I became a strip club regular I spent several months trying to score OTC. Once you've done it, it becomes easier. Don't be discouraged.
Me: "nah, he seems like a nice guy"
[reads from a previous discussion]
Dusty in previous discussion:
"but anyway my topic today is ok so for example let's say it's a girl a stripper you semi talked to already you had a hi hello short introduction very brief then you see her later that night or another time, or forget the hi hello introduction I mean that's applicable but I'm saying it can also be a girl your just noticing and want to talk to"
Me: "it's all starting to make sense now..."
Still not everyone even sells the cooch but saying now still. An be intimidating.
All I wanted was a more intimate dance because I had the cash but she immediately wanted to suck the swag and ask to come with me on vacation asking for my number and everything. So perhaps there is something to what you said but I need more experiences to validate the claim. Also we were both black (I think the only black people before I left VIP)
OTC'ing requires comfort and a level of mutual connection/interest. If she doesn't feel comfortable with you, she won't see a PL OTC, even for good money.
Start will removing phrases such as "look man" and yeah man" from your conversational toolbox.
Also, recognize that strippers will try to convince you that OTC is possible, in order to get you to keep spending money chasing that end goal.
I sense that you're coming across as needy by bringing it up more than once. If/when they are ready for OTC with you, you won't need to ask...THEY will initiate it.
I also suspect that they believe you're actually after more than a casual OTC encounter.