I’ll go first. Go up to the prettiest most ‘out of your league’ girl you and start talking to her. You have just as good a chance of getting with her as someone you consider your speed. AND…. They are all equally difficult , high maintenance and constricting so ya might as well be banging someone fine as hell.
They're just as nervous and awkward about dating as men are. No woman is worth your self respect. Banging any woman, no matter how hot or skilled in the sack she is, will get routinr after a while.
Don't worry about being someone that you think they want you to be. Be yourself. Ultimately, a girl will figure out the truth, and you will become emotionally drained wondering how you should act to please someone.
Be confident. You will be viewed at someone worth being around, and she will want to be with you.
Don't settle.
As I age, it is clear that confidence yields the girls. I'm getting attention now from girls that I couldn't get attention from even when their age.
There is an adage that suggests that if you only knew in the past what you know now that you would "naturally" have led a better life (with full knowledge).
My belief is that if I knew then what I know now - I'd probably be dead! I'm good with my ignorance and the life it's produced and that goes for view of women as well!
Don't get too involved with real-life relationships and definitely never get married. Save all that wine & dine money, anniversary gift money, birthday present money, child-raising money, marriage-counseling money, and divorce money. Spend half of it banging strippers in the VIP, and invest the other half. You'll get laid more often and be wealthier to boot.
As you can tell from all of the interesting comments, that life is what you make of it. That was true now, and it would be the same for any youth out there in the past, present, or future.
When you find the one you love marry her. There is one woman I wish I was still with almost 20 years later but I was too stupid to realize how great she was until after I screwed up and lost her. We are still good friends today but she is happily married with kids.
If you can't marry the one you love you can always have fun paying the ones you are attracted to at the clubs. Not quite as good as marrying the one you love but still a lot of fun.
I would tell my younger self to dump my girlfriend freshman year of college and not waste 3/4 of my college experience with her. I suppose not chasing girls made me study more and focus on male friendship. But she wasn't worth the drama and headaches and I could have had way more college pussy.
"Flirting" is mostly just talking to girls in a fun, friendly way. It's ok to just flirt a little for fun and not try to get more.
Asking a girl about herself is a great way to get to know her. I used to think it was more about entertaining women and telling them funny, crazy stories. But it's honestly mostly about actively listening to them talk about their feelings and desires and retaining information.
Probably what young men are doing now - get married when you’re in your 30s, not at age 22 like I did. Don’t get me wrong, marriage and family is the best thing that ever happened to me, but I’d probably would have been better off playing the field without guilt and deception as a single guy in my 20s than what I actually did.
Be born latter. For various reasons, it's gotten easier to find a sex worker who isn't pimped. As far as civvie dating goes, don't wonder if it's more trouble than it's worth. Be sure that it's more trouble than it's worth.
Don’t get married. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed about jacking off. As a matter of fact, probably would have been good to “Something About Mary” clear the pipes before going out. Get a subscription to playboy. Go to strip clubs by yourself.
I would tell myself the name and appearance of my wife, because she makes way more money than me and basically takes care of my expenses, and took me out to strip clubs and normal clubs when we travel. She can be a bit crazy at times, but we’re Chinese so that is considered normal for us
Q: What advice would you give the younger you about women?
A: Remember All activities, sexual or not, in our capitalist society have a cost in money, time and effort.
With respect to relationship with women; I would refer you to Demosthenes (384 – 12 October 322 BC) Greek statesman and orator of ancient Athens.
1. We have courtesans for the sake of pleasure. 2. Concubines for the daily health of our bodies, and 3. Wives to bear us lawful offspring and be the faithful guardians of our homes
In this list is the Greek view of woman in the classic age.
And in all ages and times.
All men want that, but only some can afford it...
In today’s world Demosthenes would say:
1. We have high end escorts, centerfolds, actresses, models, Strippers (ITC OTC) etc that provide PSE/GFE for the sake of pleasure. 2. Mistresses/Sugar Babies/; etc, for the daily health of our bodies. 3. Trophy Girlfriends/Wives to bear us lawful offspring, and be the faithful guardians of our homes. 4. Realistic Sex Dolls/Gynoids/Fembots, and Internet Porn and Instagram/Onlyfans “Models”, for kicks-and-giggles”
Remember
“In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.”
~ Cuban refugee Tony Montana (Al Pacino) in the movie Scarface.
If you have the money and can afford it, buy it and enjoy it.
I knew two sisters when I was young. One of them was smart and one of them was pretty. I married the pretty one but should have married the smart one. I would tell my younger self to not pick a wife based solely on how she looks.
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No woman is worth your self respect.
Banging any woman, no matter how hot or skilled in the sack she is, will get routinr after a while.
Be confident. You will be viewed at someone worth being around, and she will want to be with you.
Don't settle.
As I age, it is clear that confidence yields the girls. I'm getting attention now from girls that I couldn't get attention from even when their age.
My belief is that if I knew then what I know now - I'd probably be dead! I'm good with my ignorance and the life it's produced and that goes for view of women as well!
You can’t live with them and you can’t live without them
Single and lonely
Take your pick.
If you can't marry the one you love you can always have fun paying the ones you are attracted to at the clubs. Not quite as good as marrying the one you love but still a lot of fun.
"Flirting" is mostly just talking to girls in a fun, friendly way. It's ok to just flirt a little for fun and not try to get more.
Asking a girl about herself is a great way to get to know her. I used to think it was more about entertaining women and telling them funny, crazy stories. But it's honestly mostly about actively listening to them talk about their feelings and desires and retaining information.
Don’t get me wrong, marriage and family is the best thing that ever happened to me, but I’d probably would have been better off playing the field without guilt and deception as a single guy in my 20s than what I actually did.
Take vacations by yourself.
I will play along and comment on your discussion.
Q: What advice would you give the younger you about women?
A: Remember All activities, sexual or not, in our capitalist society have a cost in money, time and effort.
With respect to relationship with women; I would refer you to Demosthenes (384 – 12 October 322 BC)
Greek statesman and orator of ancient Athens.
1. We have courtesans for the sake of pleasure.
2. Concubines for the daily health of our bodies, and
3. Wives to bear us lawful offspring and be the faithful guardians of our homes
In this list is the Greek view of woman in the classic age.
And in all ages and times.
All men want that, but only some can afford it...
In today’s world Demosthenes would say:
1. We have high end escorts, centerfolds, actresses, models, Strippers (ITC OTC) etc that provide PSE/GFE for the sake of pleasure.
2. Mistresses/Sugar Babies/; etc, for the daily health of our bodies.
3. Trophy Girlfriends/Wives to bear us lawful offspring, and be the faithful guardians of our homes.
4. Realistic Sex Dolls/Gynoids/Fembots, and Internet Porn and Instagram/Onlyfans “Models”, for kicks-and-giggles”
Remember
“In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.”
~ Cuban refugee Tony Montana (Al Pacino) in the movie Scarface.
If you have the money and can afford it, buy it and enjoy it.
:D