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Idealize devalue discard

rickmacrodong

This behavior is criticized in media, online and by psychologists yet it’s basically common sense behavior. Is this modern day manipulation and attempts to dumb people down or turn people into slaves?

Idealize means you like someone treat them well.
Devalue is you don’t like their behavior or appearance or whatever else so you start treating them badly.
Discard is something a bit similar but its like you exit the relationship or friendship entirely because you have no use for it or dont want to make it work, dont want to put more effort in etc.

Its all common sense logical behavior, that many people probably naturally engage in. In past times there were probably much more people doing this. In modern times they seem to want to suppress this behavior by applying labels to it.

For a strip club example, you meet a stripper, yoi like her, yoi treat her well, buy dances or otc. If she doesnt act how you want or prefer then or you get bored then you can treat her badly (verbally not physically) or exit the connection/relationship entirely.
There isn’t really anything wrong with doing something like this but for some reason some people will claim this is evil, narcissistic, problematic etc. I’m sure many people engage in this sort of behavior naturally, instinctively without giving a second thought. If you don’t engage in this, id imagine you’d need to be some sort of mindless drone or slave.

I mean if you dont follow this logic, you would basically keep doing the same thing, keep treating someone well even if they aren’t giving you what you want in a relationship or connection.

For instance, there was a post on stripperweb, actually numerous posts on stripperweb and the stripper subreddit complaining about how customers “got butthurt and stopped coming because I didn’t give them extras/sex”.

That should’nt be something worth complaining over. It’s literally the proper behavior. I mean what are the other options in that case? They want a customer who forces them to have sex instead of not seeing them? That’s doubtful. They want a customer who’s a mindless slave just continuously paying them for dances no matter how poor quality the dance is, no matter the lack of extras etc? Exactly. People who don’t engage in this idealize devalue discard stuff are essentially mindless drones.

I think that’s why this concept is being attacked so strongly nowadays, and labelled all sorts of things like psychopathic or narcissistic. By labeling it as “evil” or “mentally improper” or “antisocial”’ they want to discourage people from doing something that was probably a vital part of humanity’s existence. People are supposed to be free to leave relationships, friendships, connections etc all the time if they aren’t getting what they want out of it.