Verbalizing your enthusiasm around strippers

26 comments

• Muddy

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  2 years ago

  Or hell even go the opposite way, despite however it was “eh I’ve had better”
• shailynn

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  2 years ago

  There have been nights, in and out of a strip club that have been so wonderful that I’d give anything to relive them again. But I’m good enough to keep my thoughts to myself even when alcohol has been involved.
• nicespice

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  2 years ago

  Customers who go out of their way to lay it heavy on the compliments right from the get go will be either dropping a few hundred immediately after without much bullshitting OR be cheap and worthless. (Sadly, the second one is more common that the first)
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  2 years ago

  If we're doing something I like, I let them know. If they start doing something I'm not into, I also let them know. But I'm careful to not cross over into "Bad 70s Porn Actor" dialogue territory.
• Warrior15

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  2 years ago

  It is a slippery slope. You want to get across that you enjoyed it, making the girl feel appreciated for what she did, in the hopes that she does it again. But you do have to hold down the over the top praise, because then the price is going up next time.
• Papi_Chulo

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  2 years ago

  I've learned to not compliment too-much b/c more often than not it seems it's gone to their heads or they use it for negotiation purposes - either the mileage/effort has gone down or they've raised their prices - at the end of the day it's busine$$/a-negotiation - somewhat analogous to buying a car or a house and you start spouting out how much you like the car/house; in the mind of the salesperson it'll be something along the lines of "oh really?"
• Muddy

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  2 years ago

  Got it. I also don’t want to act like goes one way too I mean hey some strippers might dig that shit I know one who was totally into being a being really desired.
• drewcareypnw

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  2 years ago

  If some aspect of a dancer is really great, I’ll let them know that it is awesome. Usually this is something that is great and they already knew it. This is always during dances. I do have a bit of a habit of thinking that boobs are the greatest thing ever over and over with each new set I get to touch, and I generally exclaim “these are awesome!” when they come out.
• psycho_trick

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  2 years ago

  The dancers go by club prices in my area. Asking for more than that would be an instant dealbreaker regardless of my verbal interest.
  
  So at the stage I definitely let them know they're killing me, and to stop by when they're free to see if we have any chemistry.
  During PD/VIPs the only audio is real/simulated orgasms and sexual whispering in each other's ear.
• gammanu95

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  2 years ago

  I'm in the "curb your enthusiasm" club. It's like telling the seller's agent or a car salesman how much you love the house/car. You have just surrendered the initiative. Show interest, but play coy. You have the money, they want your money, you control the conversation.
  
  Having said that, they are women. They need compliments. Find something specific to praise that they will lap up. Love their ass. Compliment their pole work. Tell them they have great tits, perfect smile, gorgeous eyes, but never surrender the initiative.
• rickdugan

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  2 years ago

  Clearly we have some tusclers prone to big emotional swings. First there was NJBalla talking about his approach to strippers when plumbing the depths of his emotional despair. Right on the heels of that we now have a post about someone trying to control his euphoric joy. 😁
  
  I don't really have feelings of unbridled enthusiasm when it comes to strippers, probably because I never forget that I'm paying for it. I sure as heck enjoy them, enough that I post in a place like this. But for me those truly high moments come during big life events, not when I'm paying for a good time.
• ilbbaicnl

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  2 years ago

  It seems like compliments for what she's wearing, or hairstyle or makeup changes, are more appreciated than "you're beautiful" or "nice boobies". But dropping $ is #1. And politeness, empathy, and not being condescending also rank well above cheap talk.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  2 years ago

  When it comes to compliments and flattery, it's always going to be tough to get a 100% accurate read from a dancer. It's they're job to act like everything we say is witty or exactly what they want to hear (even when it isn't).
  
  It depends on the dancer's personality and how long you've known her, but if I'm just starting to get to know a dancer, I'll stick to the basics. "You look great!" or "I like that color on you."
  
  Basically, I start with the sort of things that wouldn't get me in trouble (usually) outside of a strip club. And then I go from there.
• twentyfive

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  2 years ago

  I don't get all this strategizing and subterfuge around paying a whore for sex, there's a price that I'm willing to pay, and just like any other purchase, there's a top and a bottom price that I'm good with, (usually I will research a large purchase prior to entering negotiations anyway)
  It makes no difference to me whether or not my compliments cause her to inflate her price, I won't pay more than I want to, so what's the big problem.
• skibum609

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  2 years ago

  Way too much thought into one of life's more banal instincts.
• Jascoi

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  2 years ago

  'and you get paid to have this much fun?!?!'
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  2 years ago

  Honestly, I've never connected flattery to a price increase. Perhaps that's naive on my part, but who knows.
  
  I do know that I'm about to do intimate things with a woman who doesn't know me at all. So, all of my chitchat tends to be focused on her being relaxed and not raising red flags.
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  2 years ago

  Compliments have to be sincere. Otherwise they come across desperate and creepy
• crazyjoe

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  2 years ago

  Go nuts and act like you worship the ground they walk on. Then when they ask for a dance just stare at them like you don't understand English
• san_jose_guy

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  2 years ago

  One has to use judgement and moderation about the compliments.
  
  SJG
  
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• rattdog

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  2 years ago

  well here's an example of displaying enthusiasm:
  
  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZwCQ7u5…
  
  girl wound up laughing her ass off.
• rickmacrodong

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  2 years ago

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• Dave_Anderson

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  2 years ago

  Find one that doesn't speak English and its not an issue.
• Techman

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  2 years ago

  You are the girl of my dreams. Here is $100 to prove it.
• Studme53

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  2 years ago

  I’ve said some stuff in the heat of (my) passion that I regret. I told one very pretty milf type I’d like to blow my load all over her pretty face. She didn’t take it in the spirit it was offered lol.
• san_jose_guy

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  2 years ago

  You set it up right, you can likely get a Front Room Feel Up and Make Out Session going with the girl, them more in the back you and taking her home with you.
  
  SJG