Good but strange experience…….question
Hi everyone,
So I went to a strip club last night and saw a dancer I’ve gotten dances from before. I honestly was trying to avoid seeing her Bc her dances though they were hot had no extras.
I see her and thought damn it but she comes up to me and talked then she asks to go to the lap dance area. So it started out normal then she said baby do you want to fuck. So I said yeah and I wanna make you cum.
So we go to the private dance area so she told me she gets turned on by her boobs getting sucked etc. so I do my thing and she let me finger her and then go down on her. She was seriously wet and starts moaning and calling me daddy and was talking really dirty. It was super hot .
She told me fuck her hard and stuff. After 5 or 6 songs we both finished. She didn’t ask for extra money becides the normal fee, but I gave her a nice tip.
I’ve messed with dancers before but it always felt like it was done for money and not for pleasure Bc they never really got that wet and def didn’t act really into what I was doing. Anyone ever have that experience like me? Thanks
So I went to a strip club last night and saw a dancer I’ve gotten dances from before. I honestly was trying to avoid seeing her Bc her dances though they were hot had no extras.
I see her and thought damn it but she comes up to me and talked then she asks to go to the lap dance area. So it started out normal then she said baby do you want to fuck. So I said yeah and I wanna make you cum.
So we go to the private dance area so she told me she gets turned on by her boobs getting sucked etc. so I do my thing and she let me finger her and then go down on her. She was seriously wet and starts moaning and calling me daddy and was talking really dirty. It was super hot .
She told me fuck her hard and stuff. After 5 or 6 songs we both finished. She didn’t ask for extra money becides the normal fee, but I gave her a nice tip.
I’ve messed with dancers before but it always felt like it was done for money and not for pleasure Bc they never really got that wet and def didn’t act really into what I was doing. Anyone ever have that experience like me? Thanks
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It's always been really young girls. We end up talking and just getting drunk. Then they'd get horny.
I've had girls get me huge discounts for a vip room. Some tipped the bouncer with their money for some extra time. One girl tipped a bouncer to keep people away in a semi private area.
And no I didn't pay for the sex.
Its not the norm but it's happened about 7 times. 3 of them at spearmint rhino in Vegas.
Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.
:D
Good times, good times
To answer your question:
Q: Anyone ever have that experience like me?
A: Yes, a few TUSCL members, me included, claim to have had that kind of experience.
Women want and need sex just as much as men do, and don’t necessarily want/need “emotional intimacy”.
You were lucky and ended up in the right place at the right time.
She probably saw you as a good safe opportunity at the moment, because she knew you, and believed you are not a cop or a murderer psychopath...
Now is up to you if you want to invest time, money and effort to make it happen again.
Just make sure to decide in advance what you want; friend with benefits, girlfriend, ITC when she is horny, OTC P4P, etc etc etc.
Just remember to be careful out there.
And remember pics and vids or it didn’t happen.
:D
What a stripper once told me once verbatim from a similar experience to yours:
“We have needs too and you happened to be at the right place at the right time.”
Maybe she’s attracted to you, maybe she was just early honey that night and needed to get her rocks off and it didn’t matter who made it happen for her.
Otherwise, handle it as you would if she wasn't a stripper. Yes, a financial reason may be all or part of why this happened. But, it's not just strippers who can have unclear, potentially non-sexual motives for hooking up with you. If you wan't it to lead to you being more than just a customer, tell her. Be honest about what sorts of options for "more than" potentially appeal to you, and which ones don't.
I was in a situation somewhat like this with a dancer for over a year. It was quite bizarre, as I was more than 30 years older than her, and nobody wants my bod except for dissection in med school anatomy class. I would tell her I wanted us to hang out, go to the park with her kid and such, but she generally declined. She indicated a generally dissatisfaction with how much money I gave her, but never specified how much she felt would be enough. Over time, her behavior towards me kept getting more and more obnoxious, until I couldn't tolerate it anymore. So turned out bad in the end. But I'm at peace with it. It don't have to think, maybe it could have been more, if only she'd have known I was interested in more. The only cost was a loss of the preening type of pride. Which I have learned over the years is toxic, even if you can maintain it.
For context, five minutes earlier, she was giving me a great blow job with a porn movie finish—me standing, her kneeling in front of me, mouth open, tongue out, staring straight at me with bright green eyes, waiting for me to cum in her mouth, and when I did, she deep throated me and sucked every last drop out of me.
It makes me wonder how other customers treat her. But, you know, I do respect her. She’s made it clear she doesn’t want to have intercourse or be digitally penetrated, and I respect her boundaries, but she is open to pretty much anything else. She’s a super cute, 22-year old spinner with a nice personality, so that works for me.
After the VIP, I went to the bar again as is my custom, where she joined me after “freshening up.” We had another drink together and chatted for a while. Then, again, out of the blue, she says, “I really enjoy it when we get together. It’s not just the money.”
Clearly, she was not suggesting she wanted to hang out with me for free. So, what to make of this? Stripper shit? Sure, possibly, perhaps even probably? But this girl knows she doesn’t have to say stuff like this to me. I met her the first week she started dancing and have known her for a year and a half now. I’ve done several VIPs with her, and even more OTCs. We stay in touch via occasional texts (business stuff only, nothing personal). I made a trip to the club yesterday specifically for her. But it’s hard to believe she really likes spending time with a guy almost three times her age. But I suppose it’s relative. Compared to other customers, sure, I guess I can believe that.
I also remember a dancer a while back who told me likes doing extras because, as she admitted, she was a “sex addict.” So who knows? And at the end of the day, does it really matter? As long as you’re both getting what you want out of the interaction, second-guessing what someone else might be thinking internally doesn’t add up to much.
Whatever the reason, you had fun and felt good and that’s all that matters.
It’s very difficult to know what women are truly thinking/feeling, even they themselves seem unsure at times – add to this strippers and the factor of $$$, and it’s even harder to know their true motivations/feelings.
A lot of the vets on here have had some wild and/or odd/unexpected stripper-encounters given how long they’ve been clubbing and how many different clubs they’ve hit thus increasing their chances of experiencing all kinds of shit.
Her reasons could be anything from:
+ she was extra-horny that day (she may have not had a man in her life for a while now?) – or she had a recent breakup or argument w/ her S.O. and in her mind this is “getting back at him” somehow
+ she “could” be into you – but if you don’t bag hot women w/ options outside the club (civvies) then unlikely it’s b/c you turned her on so much – and if you are 10+ years older than her then again unlikely b/c you physically turned her on (can happen but more of the exception IMO) – sometimes a dancer although she may not find you “hot” may still wanna bang you b/c of the way you treat her or she “feels safe w/ you” etc
At the end of the day, strip-clubs are usually bizzaro-world and most things in clubs should be taken w/ a grain-of-salt - $$$ often has a way of skewing things and people’s actions.
Most of us custies would like to feel the dancer really enjoyed fucking-us or the way we fucked them – but at the end of the day it’s a business transaction and one can’t really know her true-motivations – she can just as easily ignore you the next time you are in the club; etc – at the end of the day the avg custy is not gonna date a stripper nor want to; so it’s kinda a mute-point other than maybe some bragging-rights or just some kinda personal ego-boost.
If you feel she was into you and you would like to date her outside the club, then try it and see how it goes but most custies are either:
1) reading the situation wrong and she’s not really into the custy and is just being a good stripper
2) date the stripper and can’t handle the dysfunctional way many of them live
Another dancer was this long legged, gorgeous 24 year old that danced like she was on speed. I liked her energy so I payed for an hour VIP and once we get into the booth, she immediately starts going down on me. I don't normally go bareback, but I didn't want to interrupt her. I finished just as she did and while she may have been faking it, the amount of fluids running down her leg was more than what I contributed.
So yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus
There was a cute, sweet mulatto girl with C's and long hair named Jamie. She upped the game for me one day by making out with me during the lapdance. I came back for more, and the next time she upped the game again by getting DC Jr out and then doing a sort of slow sneaky bend down to pull a cover from where it was hiding in her stocking. I was basically speechless while she suited me up, and then CHJ'd me while DFKing. It was AWESOME. I've mentioned my appreciation for CHJ before, and upon reflection this may have been the genesis of that particular predilection.
A few times later, Jamie upped the ante again: we were doing the regular makeout/chj, and all of a sudden she pulled her panties aside, licked her hand, rubbed her VJ for a second, and POUNCED on DC Jr. I was so naïve that I had no idea that was what she was about to do. I don't know what I thought, but FS was not something I expected at all. This pretty much freaked me out, and I quickly lifted her off of my cock, and asked for the regular hand finish. We were both a bit embarrassed, but things wrapped up as usual.
After the finish, I said "that was a bit more intense than I'm used to". To which she replied "it doesn't really get any more 'intense' than that"... in a way that made me think that she was implying that FS was the limit of her menu.
In light of this thread, I certainly did not ask for FS, or even suspect that it was coming. So, either she though that this was the next step in our business arrangement, or was just in the right mood at the right time, or both, or something else I can't come up with. I moved overseas not too long after that, and upon returning to Seattle 5 years later, Jamie was gone and none of the new girls had ever even heard of her.
I recall a dancer in TX who told me she didn't want me to come up to the stage again while she was dancing, because she didn't want me to think of her as a stripper, and she didn't want to think of me as a customer.
As it happened, she didn't have any interest in thinking of me as a lover, either, but actually as a friend. We went out together casually, and hung out at her apartment. We acted like friends, and never got intimate. Just people being normal with each other, in spite of meeting at a club.
Oh, and in case you're wondering: no money ever changed hands, other than the one time I tipped her on stage before she told me not to do that again. I paid for our meals, and that was as much expenditure as was involved. It was an actual casual friendship.
No dancer has told me this stuff in so many words. I'm doing a lot of reading between the lines. Maybe the gals will chime in and tell me how far off the mark I am.
She then says, "I don't think I can do that, even if the money is good," and starts back dancing, and then shortly after she stops again and asks me, "you get extras with Heather and Ivy right?" I answer "yes." She then says, "have you ever thought about extras from me?" I answered, "yes," and she asked, "why haven't you brought it up." I answer back, "because the few times I asked you said you don't do that." She smiles and says, "oh yeah you did." She starts back dancing then starts kissing me deeply, while rubbing her hand on my crotch. Something she has never done, before. Next thing I hear her whisper, "you are my favorite customer, and I was hoping my first time going all the way back here would be with you. How far do you want to go? I know Ivy is here and you typically see her after me, do you want to do some light extras or all the way?" I ask her "seriously?" and she says "yes."
I told her that her sucking my dick through my pants always felt nice, and I had always wondered if her pussy was as tight as it looked. She offered a blowjob that day, and maybe next time we could go farther. I ask how much, and she says, "as much as you think it's worth, and if it's as good s Heather or Ivy, then the same you give them." She then unzips me and off she goes. She was a bit awkward, so I gave her about 80% of what I typically gave the others. She hands me back a bit under half of it saying, "that was my first time, and I think I got off as much as you."
I saw her a few more times, each at about a 30% discount "because I was her favorite customer." Then a few months later she eventually quit.