Good but strange experience…….question

Your hot bulge (of twenties) stimulated her W-spot (as in wallet), and made her gush. It works every time!

I hear wedding bells!

You need to go back on her next shift and get down on one knee (not in the VIP room because that floor is disgusting) and put an engagement ring on her finger. Make sure the diamond is at least 2 carats to show her you are as in love with her as she clearly is with you.

Make sure to send @founder an invite to the wedding. Helping bring lonely men together with strippers is the whole reason he puts 80 hours per week into this site.

Sounds like you caught the right girl at the right night. Remember the experience for what it was because there will be many that don't go so well. Tally-ho!

pad, that's not a good experience , that is a GREAT experience . Congrats sir. Sometimes girls just get horny.

Not like that but I've had a few experiences when girls wanted to have sex in the club.

It's always been really young girls. We end up talking and just getting drunk. Then they'd get horny.

I've had girls get me huge discounts for a vip room. Some tipped the bouncer with their money for some extra time. One girl tipped a bouncer to keep people away in a semi private area.

And no I didn't pay for the sex.

Its not the norm but it's happened about 7 times. 3 of them at spearmint rhino in Vegas.

@pad3006

Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.

:D

Good times, good times

To answer your question:

Q: Anyone ever have that experience like me?

A: Yes, a few TUSCL members, me included, claim to have had that kind of experience.

Women want and need sex just as much as men do, and don’t necessarily want/need “emotional intimacy”.

You were lucky and ended up in the right place at the right time.

She probably saw you as a good safe opportunity at the moment, because she knew you, and believed you are not a cop or a murderer psychopath...

Now is up to you if you want to invest time, money and effort to make it happen again.

Just make sure to decide in advance what you want; friend with benefits, girlfriend, ITC when she is horny, OTC P4P, etc etc etc.

Just remember to be careful out there.

And remember pics and vids or it didn’t happen.

:D

I’ve been told this several times over the years by strippers.

What a stripper once told me once verbatim from a similar experience to yours:

“We have needs too and you happened to be at the right place at the right time.”

Maybe she’s attracted to you, maybe she was just early honey that night and needed to get her rocks off and it didn’t matter who made it happen for her.

Couldn't of said it better Shailynn. It pays to be at the right place at the right time!

awesome pad3006. it is being in the right place at the right time. and I have that pleasure a few times.

I know a dancer who pretty much always wants to fuck or at least give you head. I tell her no, just a lap dance, but she'll still try to slip it in. It's not as if she's doing it so she can ask for more money afterwards -- she doesn't In her case I don't think she's necessarily horny, I think she just doesn't know any other way to interact.

A key factor is whether you believe in the good girl versus bad girl stuff. If you think of strippers as bad girls, she will see what happened as a mistake and a bad memory. Unless it's pushed into the background because she's got so many worse bad memories. Seems unavoidable.

Otherwise, handle it as you would if she wasn't a stripper. Yes, a financial reason may be all or part of why this happened. But, it's not just strippers who can have unclear, potentially non-sexual motives for hooking up with you. If you wan't it to lead to you being more than just a customer, tell her. Be honest about what sorts of options for "more than" potentially appeal to you, and which ones don't.

I was in a situation somewhat like this with a dancer for over a year. It was quite bizarre, as I was more than 30 years older than her, and nobody wants my bod except for dissection in med school anatomy class. I would tell her I wanted us to hang out, go to the park with her kid and such, but she generally declined. She indicated a generally dissatisfaction with how much money I gave her, but never specified how much she felt would be enough. Over time, her behavior towards me kept getting more and more obnoxious, until I couldn't tolerate it anymore. So turned out bad in the end. But I'm at peace with it. It don't have to think, maybe it could have been more, if only she'd have known I was interested in more. The only cost was a loss of the preening type of pride. Which I have learned over the years is toxic, even if you can maintain it.

I saw this thread yesterday and hadn’t planned on commenting, but then I had a somewhat related experience yesterday. The girl and I were relaxing as we were finishing up the last few minutes a VIP, and she said, out of the blue, “You know, you’re my favorite customer. You treat me with respect.”

For context, five minutes earlier, she was giving me a great blow job with a porn movie finish—me standing, her kneeling in front of me, mouth open, tongue out, staring straight at me with bright green eyes, waiting for me to cum in her mouth, and when I did, she deep throated me and sucked every last drop out of me.

It makes me wonder how other customers treat her. But, you know, I do respect her. She’s made it clear she doesn’t want to have intercourse or be digitally penetrated, and I respect her boundaries, but she is open to pretty much anything else. She’s a super cute, 22-year old spinner with a nice personality, so that works for me.

After the VIP, I went to the bar again as is my custom, where she joined me after “freshening up.” We had another drink together and chatted for a while. Then, again, out of the blue, she says, “I really enjoy it when we get together. It’s not just the money.”

Clearly, she was not suggesting she wanted to hang out with me for free. So, what to make of this? Stripper shit? Sure, possibly, perhaps even probably? But this girl knows she doesn’t have to say stuff like this to me. I met her the first week she started dancing and have known her for a year and a half now. I’ve done several VIPs with her, and even more OTCs. We stay in touch via occasional texts (business stuff only, nothing personal). I made a trip to the club yesterday specifically for her. But it’s hard to believe she really likes spending time with a guy almost three times her age. But I suppose it’s relative. Compared to other customers, sure, I guess I can believe that.

I also remember a dancer a while back who told me likes doing extras because, as she admitted, she was a “sex addict.” So who knows? And at the end of the day, does it really matter? As long as you’re both getting what you want out of the interaction, second-guessing what someone else might be thinking internally doesn’t add up to much.

I think she did it to keep you. Only because you said she wouldn’t do extras with you before and you wanted to avoid her because of it.

Whatever the reason, you had fun and felt good and that’s all that matters.

If one clubs enough, and visits enough clubs, they run into all kinds of things and all kinds of strippers.

It’s very difficult to know what women are truly thinking/feeling, even they themselves seem unsure at times – add to this strippers and the factor of $$$, and it’s even harder to know their true motivations/feelings.

A lot of the vets on here have had some wild and/or odd/unexpected stripper-encounters given how long they’ve been clubbing and how many different clubs they’ve hit thus increasing their chances of experiencing all kinds of shit.

Her reasons could be anything from:

• she was extra-horny that day (she may have not had a man in her life for a while now?) – or she had a recent breakup or argument w/ her S.O. and in her mind this is “getting back at him” somehow

• she “could” be into you – but if you don’t bag hot women w/ options outside the club (civvies) then unlikely it’s b/c you turned her on so much – and if you are 10+ years older than her then again unlikely b/c you physically turned her on (can happen but more of the exception IMO) – sometimes a dancer although she may not find you “hot” may still wanna bang you b/c of the way you treat her or she “feels safe w/ you” etc

At the end of the day, strip-clubs are usually bizzaro-world and most things in clubs should be taken w/ a grain-of-salt - $$$ often has a way of skewing things and people’s actions.

Most of us custies would like to feel the dancer really enjoyed fucking-us or the way we fucked them – but at the end of the day it’s a business transaction and one can’t really know her true-motivations – she can just as easily ignore you the next time you are in the club; etc – at the end of the day the avg custy is not gonna date a stripper nor want to; so it’s kinda a mute-point other than maybe some bragging-rights or just some kinda personal ego-boost.

If you feel she was into you and you would like to date her outside the club, then try it and see how it goes but most custies are either:

1. reading the situation wrong and she’s not really into the custy and is just being a good stripper

2. date the stripper and can’t handle the dysfunctional way many of them live

Like most of the comments have said, visit enough clubs, do enough dances/VIPs and you will find a horny dancer. I had one dancer that we had a couple of OTC meetings and the sex was good, but pretty much just traditional missionary. I didn't see her for a while, then the next time I went to the club she insisted we go back to the private room where she turned into a wild animal. Almost immediately she opened my pants and did everything she could to get me off. Once I realized what she was doing, I took it as a challenge to hold off long enough to see what all she would do; best roll in the sack (on the couch) I've ever had. I moved away shortly after that, so I haven't had a chance to see if that event would repeat itself.

Another dancer was this long legged, gorgeous 24 year old that danced like she was on speed. I liked her energy so I payed for an hour VIP and once we get into the booth, she immediately starts going down on me. I don't normally go bareback, but I didn't want to interrupt her. I finished just as she did and while she may have been faking it, the amount of fluids running down her leg was more than what I contributed.

So yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus

I would say congratulations! Enjoy the memory of the experience. You had a great ITC time with a sexy dancer. Don’t think about why. Just enjoy the memory and don’t try to reach a logical conclusion.

About 20 years ago, I used to go to Seattle strip clubs with buddies from work, mostly as a wrap up following dinner and drinks. This was not for extras (I wasn't really aware of extras at the time), but more for just lappers with stick shifting and boob grabbing. One of the clubs we went to was the Sands, today the same club is known as The Playground. Because I lived nearby, I would also occasionally stop by in the late afternoon just after work and do more of the same, not realizing that the day shift was much more extras focused.

There was a cute, sweet mulatto girl with C's and long hair named Jamie. She upped the game for me one day by making out with me during the lapdance. I came back for more, and the next time she upped the game again by getting DC Jr out and then doing a sort of slow sneaky bend down to pull a cover from where it was hiding in her stocking. I was basically speechless while she suited me up, and then CHJ'd me while DFKing. It was AWESOME. I've mentioned my appreciation for CHJ before, and upon reflection this may have been the genesis of that particular predilection.

A few times later, Jamie upped the ante again: we were doing the regular makeout/chj, and all of a sudden she pulled her panties aside, licked her hand, rubbed her VJ for a second, and POUNCED on DC Jr. I was so naïve that I had no idea that was what she was about to do. I don't know what I thought, but FS was not something I expected at all. This pretty much freaked me out, and I quickly lifted her off of my cock, and asked for the regular hand finish. We were both a bit embarrassed, but things wrapped up as usual.

After the finish, I said "that was a bit more intense than I'm used to". To which she replied "it doesn't really get any more 'intense' than that"... in a way that made me think that she was implying that FS was the limit of her menu.

In light of this thread, I certainly did not ask for FS, or even suspect that it was coming. So, either she though that this was the next step in our business arrangement, or was just in the right mood at the right time, or both, or something else I can't come up with. I moved overseas not too long after that, and upon returning to Seattle 5 years later, Jamie was gone and none of the new girls had ever even heard of her.

@DC it would be more gentlemanly if you were a little more flexible. Sometime a girl's hand just gets tired.

@ilbbaicnl LOL

Dancers are people; customers are (usually) people. People sometimes decide to act like people with other people. It's not unheard of.

I recall a dancer in TX who told me she didn't want me to come up to the stage again while she was dancing, because she didn't want me to think of her as a stripper, and she didn't want to think of me as a customer. As it happened, she didn't have any interest in thinking of me as a lover, either, but actually as a friend. We went out together casually, and hung out at her apartment. We acted like friends, and never got intimate. Just people being normal with each other, in spite of meeting at a club. Oh, and in case you're wondering: no money ever changed hands, other than the one time I tipped her on stage before she told me not to do that again. I paid for our meals, and that was as much expenditure as was involved. It was an actual casual friendship.

In many ways, it's simpler to stick with basic lap dancing. You can feel how much someone's muscles are relaxing if you pay a little attention. You can vary your touch till you find what's most relaxing. It's sensual rather than sexual for her, so less risk of triggering conflicting emotions. The only emotion is the affection you communicate by trying to have a pleasant touch. Like most, strippers want somebody special, and to be special to them. It's some part our culture, some part human nature, but we value sexual exclusivity. Emotionally stripping isn't cheating, because it's only feels sexual to us, not to them. Getting aroused can be a very big net negative for a dancer, factoring in the emotions that may go with it.

No dancer has told me this stuff in so many words. I'm doing a lot of reading between the lines. Maybe the gals will chime in and tell me how far off the mark I am.

I have had similar happen once with a dancer named Onyx who was my favorite warmup dancer at the time, no extras but always got my juices flowing. One day shortly after I entered she comes up to me and says, "I was hoping you would be here today," and we head to the back for some dances. Right off the bat her dance was a lot more hands on than normal. Second song she starts pulling off my belt, saying it was hard on her butt. Typically this is a move done by all the extras dancers, and I was wondering what was going on. She then asks me, "some dancers were telling me they make a lot more money seeing guys outside the club. Do you ever see girls outside the club?" I go "yeah, but none here so far." She asks me why and I say, "it's a bit of a drive, and most of the dancers come from even farther away than the club."

She then says, "I don't think I can do that, even if the money is good," and starts back dancing, and then shortly after she stops again and asks me, "you get extras with Heather and Ivy right?" I answer "yes." She then says, "have you ever thought about extras from me?" I answered, "yes," and she asked, "why haven't you brought it up." I answer back, "because the few times I asked you said you don't do that." She smiles and says, "oh yeah you did." She starts back dancing then starts kissing me deeply, while rubbing her hand on my crotch. Something she has never done, before. Next thing I hear her whisper, "you are my favorite customer, and I was hoping my first time going all the way back here would be with you. How far do you want to go? I know Ivy is here and you typically see her after me, do you want to do some light extras or all the way?" I ask her "seriously?" and she says "yes."

I told her that her sucking my dick through my pants always felt nice, and I had always wondered if her pussy was as tight as it looked. She offered a blowjob that day, and maybe next time we could go farther. I ask how much, and she says, "as much as you think it's worth, and if it's as good s Heather or Ivy, then the same you give them." She then unzips me and off she goes. She was a bit awkward, so I gave her about 80% of what I typically gave the others. She hands me back a bit under half of it saying, "that was my first time, and I think I got off as much as you."

I saw her a few more times, each at about a 30% discount "because I was her favorite customer." Then a few months later she eventually quit.

Top of the month and she was behind on rent.