When a dancer introduces herself
gammanu95
My casual drinking is your alcohol poisoning.
Reading the introductory thread from spinnergirl, and subsequent dunking, reminded me of something that happened just last night.
I wandered into Lookers, where I have not been for night shift in forever. There were a couple of familiar faces, but mostly new to me. The bar was about 80% full, with most dancers doubled up on customers at tables. I had just come from a business dinner, so I was wearing dress professional (dark blue cotton and poly blend, not white polyester). As soon as I sat at the bar with a beer, two dancers came up, each gave me the stripper handshake just as customarily as I had shaken the hands of my dinner guests. They then each asked me to buy them a drink. Neither was up to my standards, and I remembered one as being a vindictive bitch member of the Cuban cartel, so I told them I was going to decompress and drink. Not a minute later, a fatty white girl came up and asked me to buy her a drink, I told her the same thing, but she did not leave. She continued to badger me to buy her a drink, and how she was thirsty, etc. I told her she was just going to have to sit there and be thirsty, because I had just gotten there and wanted to chill a bit. After like twenty minutes of the same bullshit, she asked me why I was even there. I told her straight up to get dances, but not from her. I went to the stage and tipped the hottest girl there, a jinatera (blonde Cuban sex worker that caters to Americans with fat wallets) with abs and great, big, perfect naturals. She immediately grabbed me for some lap dances when she got off stage.
I'm disappointed that Lookers seems to have gone the B-girls route. Using women to drive drink sales is illegal. Fortunately, the jinatera and this cute Kentucky spinner occupied the rest of my night and never asked me to buy them drinks, and only ordered one after I had offered.
The same logic applies for spinnergirl and anyone else who wants to use the TUSCL discussion board to drive onlyfans and other social media clicks. It is not realistic to walk up and ask for money or free shit. You need to sell it; the first taste is always free. Create the interest, wait for a bite, then hook 'em and reel 'em in. When I went to the stage for the jinatera, she didn't ask for the stage tip right away, she seduced me and sold it, and made me want more in the lap dance room. I dropped a couple hundred each on her and the KY spinner last night, no regrets. The girls that walked up and asked me to buy them drinks got nothing (the girl who spent 20 minutes harassing me got $3 for her time).
I wandered into Lookers, where I have not been for night shift in forever. There were a couple of familiar faces, but mostly new to me. The bar was about 80% full, with most dancers doubled up on customers at tables. I had just come from a business dinner, so I was wearing dress professional (dark blue cotton and poly blend, not white polyester). As soon as I sat at the bar with a beer, two dancers came up, each gave me the stripper handshake just as customarily as I had shaken the hands of my dinner guests. They then each asked me to buy them a drink. Neither was up to my standards, and I remembered one as being a vindictive bitch member of the Cuban cartel, so I told them I was going to decompress and drink. Not a minute later, a fatty white girl came up and asked me to buy her a drink, I told her the same thing, but she did not leave. She continued to badger me to buy her a drink, and how she was thirsty, etc. I told her she was just going to have to sit there and be thirsty, because I had just gotten there and wanted to chill a bit. After like twenty minutes of the same bullshit, she asked me why I was even there. I told her straight up to get dances, but not from her. I went to the stage and tipped the hottest girl there, a jinatera (blonde Cuban sex worker that caters to Americans with fat wallets) with abs and great, big, perfect naturals. She immediately grabbed me for some lap dances when she got off stage.
I'm disappointed that Lookers seems to have gone the B-girls route. Using women to drive drink sales is illegal. Fortunately, the jinatera and this cute Kentucky spinner occupied the rest of my night and never asked me to buy them drinks, and only ordered one after I had offered.
The same logic applies for spinnergirl and anyone else who wants to use the TUSCL discussion board to drive onlyfans and other social media clicks. It is not realistic to walk up and ask for money or free shit. You need to sell it; the first taste is always free. Create the interest, wait for a bite, then hook 'em and reel 'em in. When I went to the stage for the jinatera, she didn't ask for the stage tip right away, she seduced me and sold it, and made me want more in the lap dance room. I dropped a couple hundred each on her and the KY spinner last night, no regrets. The girls that walked up and asked me to buy them drinks got nothing (the girl who spent 20 minutes harassing me got $3 for her time).
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I don't like being a dick but I also won't be pushed around. I will compensate if a girl stays around for 15 minutes or so because I realize her time is money. Sometimes, as I talk more with a girl that rushes me like you described, I will end up spending on her once I unwind a bit and they actually grow on me while we talk.
To each their own but I’m not there to subsidize a dancer’s drinking nor spend $$$ on dancers that don’t interest me – I don’t mind buying a dancer a drink that I’m interested in but I’m not gonna be spending $$$, drinks or o/w, on dancers that don’t interest me – and even if it’s a dancer that interests me, if the first words out of her mouth are “buy me a drink”, I usually won’t deal w/ her b/c for me it’s a turn-off; comes across as entitled or as if she thinks I should be “honored” that I get to buy her a drink – kinda goes in-line with how many of these girls see custies as just walking-ATMs to be fleeced every second they are in the club.
I’m also not much of a drinker so sitting around spending $$$ on often over-priced often watered-down drinks is not how I prefer to spend my time/$$$ in the club.
Only once has a girl left right after getting a drink, and I didn't even mind. Her phone kept going nuts, so she checked it and then showed me the msg...some big spender who'd arranged time w/her got there 30 mins early. Told her no worries, go make some money, and come find me later (I left before she could). But I had no issue with that...while waiting for the drink (and before she checked her phone), she got awfully grind-y, and out of nowhere just came out with some incredible dirty talk. So a five-minute lap dance with a lot of very naughty suggestions...for the 8 bucks or whatever that the drink cost.
I can only remember one time where a girl came up and asked me to buy her a drink. She was on something and wouldn't leave me alone. I had zero interest in her, and explained that to her. I went so far as to get up and walk to the other end of the building... where a few mins later the waitress came asking for money. I had no idea what she was talking about, until the crackhead walked over with a drink...that she had ordered and said I'd buy. I took one last swig of my own drink, stood up, apologized to the waitress, and told her I specifically told this girl to leave me alone, quit harassing me, and I wasn't buying her anything. And then I left. That's the one and only bad time I've ever had at a strip club.
I was with you regarding the girls that don't interest me, but not so much with this part. Unlike you and the OP, I don't mind if a girl that I like asks for a drink. Indeed i find it a very cost effective way to get to know a girl a bit better.
In fact it wasn't so many years ago that buying drinks for dancers was an implied part of the social fabric of most strip clubs, at least on night shifts. Only in more recent times has this been a point of contention, probably due to the more modern pussification of men.
I'll never tell another man how to interact with women, but nowadays any chick that I don't like is gone in under 3 minutes. If she's showing signs of settling in, I usually just look her directly in the eyes and say something like: "Look honey, I'm not buying anything from you or for you so you're gonna need to look elsewhere." Easy peasy.
Does that make me a bit of an asshole to some? Maybe, but I can live with that. I am so fucking busy nowadays that there is no Cardinal Sin greater to me than wasting my limited entertainment time on a girl who I'm not interested in.
I'm kinda in between Papi & Rick's MO's though. I'm happy to buy a knockout a drink to evaluate her a bit more, I won't write her off for simply having a shitty approach. At the same time, if a marginal girl comes over with that approach I'm equally happy to send her packing. Both my time and money are valuable to me. Spending 10 minutes and 10 bucks on a drink to figure out if I want to go try some dances or a room is time & money well spent. I also tend to enjoy having a drink and chatting with strippers, so sometimes it's entertainment in and of itself. I'm not gonna sit and drink with a stripper I find unattractive physically or whose attitude doesn't please me.
I'm sure they're making similar evaluations of me, and I'm fine with that. I'm sure plenty of strippers have seen me dismiss a girl I'm no interested in and not approached me because assumed I wasn't worth their time or effort.
The only girls agreeing to OTC with dudes who want nothing more than 9 minutes in the LD room to grab a girls' asses and tits - and maybe cum in their own pants - are the high volume girls who offer it up readily to almost anyone. You guys are free to have those girls all day long.
Hookers will fuck anyone so that makes me wonder how nasty you have to be for them to avoid you.
The whole exchange took less than a minute.
I tried to stop by and say hello because it’s polite if someone comes and see you to do. The dancer was rolling her eyes getting mad. I asked him you couldn’t wait 5 minutes for me or tell her you was here for me. Because she looked like she wanted to fight. He replies she wouldn’t take no for an answer. I cut his ass loose on the spot.
But dancers wouldn’t be aggressive if that shit didn’t work. That’s never been my hustle but I don’t believe customers when they say they don’t like it. Because my eyes throughout these years tell me different