If 1 of your fav's wanted the money up front would she then be a fake ass??
Jpac73
This is something that happenedto me over a year ago. I just happened to reflect on it last night. I had this one dancer that I had been going to see for at least 2 1/2years at the time. One night she asked me could I pay the money uprfront before the dance started. I was like "You know I am going to pay you." She replied "Yeah, but the Manager wants us to get the money upfront now, Kelly(another stripper) had a guy walk out on her owing a 100bucks." So I give her the money and didn't think much else about it. Later on, I get a dance from another favorite named Porsha. Porsha didn't ask for the money upfront, she looked kind of surprised when I handed her the money. I had been knowing Porsha for a long time as well close to 3years. If she trusted me then why couldn't the other dancer? Yeah the Manager might want them to ask for the money upfront but no one was back there but us two. If the manager or security was outside the door then I could see her asking for the money upfront. This is why I think Babygirl was a "fake ass". She just put on a good act of being friendly but really didn't trust any customer know matter how well she knew him. Yeah I know I wasn't her real friend but neither was I a "real" friend to Porsha either. Heck Porsha even let me walk outside to the bank next door to retrieve some cash that I owed her for my last dance.
So how do you feel on this issue? If a favorite of yours did that to you would you cut her off? Or would you just continue getting dances from her. It is not like I had a problem with paying upfront(If it was a new dancer) but when it someone you thought you had a repore with then it becomes a little disheartning. BTW things eventually got back to normal where you could pay for the dances later, with the right dancer of course.
So how do you feel on this issue? If a favorite of yours did that to you would you cut her off? Or would you just continue getting dances from her. It is not like I had a problem with paying upfront(If it was a new dancer) but when it someone you thought you had a repore with then it becomes a little disheartning. BTW things eventually got back to normal where you could pay for the dances later, with the right dancer of course.
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It wouldn't bother me at all. Some people are extremely obedient to authority figures like a manager. The old just following orders. (Some people think that is never a defense and others thinks it always a defense and still others depend on an authority figure to tell them if it's a defense.)
She probably didn't see it as a big deal. I think that might have happened to me once or twice with dancers who knew I would pay. In each instance it was the old obeying the manager story because some girl got ripped off by a customer. Future visits and it just faded away or there was a new manager.
NEVER, would I be asked to pay up front, though.
I would expect my ATFs and FAVs to put some trust into me, for as long and well as they've known me, that I was good for the money. A couple times in the past two years, I have ran short of funds, and would ask dancers to front me additional dances. I always paid them back upon my next return to the club.
I can't see where a club manager can institute a rule for the dancers to get the 'money up front'. After all, he doesn't record it for taxes or SS benefits. The only reason a manager would want the girls to secure the money up front, is so that they had their payouts/tipouts.
If I were a dancer, I'd tell the manager, FUCK YOU BUD, you'll get your share when I leave this club!!!
There are very good reasons for managers trying to get the dancers to collect the money upfront. Most dancers hate it because they understand they make more and can cheat more (assuming they're crooks) if the customer pays after the dances.
"White Boy" a bouncer over at Angels was murdered over a customer's refusal to pay a dancer $20 that was owed. The dancer didn't get the money upfront like she was supposed to, but alas almost none of the dancers ever did because it hurts their earnings too much. So she complains to Steven (I think that is his first name.) and the fight appears to be finished with Steven (the bouncer) defeating the customer and it seemed like end of story. Well, the customer gets a gun out of his pickup truck and two lives are lost over $20. Steven, a young man and a good guy was survived by a pregnant wife and young child as well as his parents. The other young man, I heard was also highly thought of, was captured immediately by police. The complaining dancer was just an emotional wreck and gave up dancing. She was also out of this world beautiful.
So these confrontations continue from time to time because economically it just makes sense for the customer to pay after the dances. Dancer makes more money and club can charge her more.
MAYBE THIS WHY IT DOESN'T BOTHER ME A TINY BIT THAT A DANCER WHO KNOWS ME MIGHT FEEL FORCED TO OBEY A MANAGER'S RANTING ABOUT COLLECTING THE MONEY UPFRONT. BTW, the club makes less----not directly, but from dancers not willing to pay the outrageous fees to dance when their income has been slashed by the money upfront rule. Over at Angels those poor dancers get clobbered left right and center--if there was a free market I strongly believe the dancer's would be calling the shots or at the very least would be treated with due respect to their wallet and person by the club.
OK, rant off a little bit. :)
The other 2 times were a little different and I would repeat it anytime. Last month and the month before one of my top favorites came up to me still in street clothes and asked me for $20 and the next time for $40 to pay for her ride to the club and the second time to get ride of her brother, who had driven her to the club. She would never rip me off.
Another reason I wouldn't be upset about a fave asking for the money upfront is that it is something that I wouldn't even think to take personally. I can see a lot of things bringing that situation about. She might be a little paranoid due to drugs. Generally, I like dancers who use drugs at least I liked those who I knew were drug users or even druggies. A good customer might have ripped her off because he was having problems. Another girl might of been ripped off by her good customer making all of the dancers afraid. She might be freaking about making the rent and she knows just having those extra dollars will make her feel a hell of a lot better. I still recall this dancer with her beat up dying car. In the car was an eviction notice and she was desperate to earn money with whatever services were necessary. She tried to budget, but didn't realize shit happens.
There are just so many things that could be bouncing around in the dancer's head. Like her boyfriend threatening to knock her teeth out unless she has a $100 for him next time he walks in the door. Everyone has different likes and dislikes. If you don't like it, then really that is what is important or you could try and see it from her pov.
But, if I did, I'd react the same way I have to 95% plus of 1st timers that did this; I'd suck it up, but it would be the last time I'd buy dances from them. Most of upfronters gave subpar, or mediocre dances. Even if the dance were good, upfront payment is a mood killer: you're effectively being told that you're regarded as a deadbeat. The 1 exception that I recall: Dancer asked for upfront payment, but added "You look like a good guy, but I had a guy buy a bunch of dances earlier from me, and not pay". As her performance was good (as were her looks), I bought several more dances from her.