Making Demands to Dancers
DougS
Florida
I know that making demands to dancers was one of MIDancer's pet peeves, but I think it depends on how it is done.
I don't make a habit of it, but if there are a few moves that a dancer has in her repertoire that really get me going, during a dancing session with her I may request those moves. Spread out over a 30 min session, I might do this two - at most three times, and not always verbally... I might verbalize my request, then maybe gently move her into position so that she takes the hint, etc.
Is that being too demanding? I don't think so. I wouldn't press my luck any further than that, and maybe the next session with her I won't request ANY moves. Over time, she will learn what I like, and usually will comply.
I think the dancer appreciates this approach - if she doesn't she SHOULD. After all, her earnings are going to be based on my satisfaction and desire to get more dances. My suggestions will help assure that she is successfully entertaining me, which in turn means I will be more likely to continue dances with her.
Maybe it's my imagination, but it has seemed like most of the girls kind'a like a guy controlling the action to an extent. It might take some pressure off her, too, as she isn't wondering if I like what she is doing, plus she doesn't have to wonder "what should I do next...."
I don't make a habit of it, but if there are a few moves that a dancer has in her repertoire that really get me going, during a dancing session with her I may request those moves. Spread out over a 30 min session, I might do this two - at most three times, and not always verbally... I might verbalize my request, then maybe gently move her into position so that she takes the hint, etc.
Is that being too demanding? I don't think so. I wouldn't press my luck any further than that, and maybe the next session with her I won't request ANY moves. Over time, she will learn what I like, and usually will comply.
I think the dancer appreciates this approach - if she doesn't she SHOULD. After all, her earnings are going to be based on my satisfaction and desire to get more dances. My suggestions will help assure that she is successfully entertaining me, which in turn means I will be more likely to continue dances with her.
Maybe it's my imagination, but it has seemed like most of the girls kind'a like a guy controlling the action to an extent. It might take some pressure off her, too, as she isn't wondering if I like what she is doing, plus she doesn't have to wonder "what should I do next...."
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Its not your imagination at all, and most dancers subconsciously draw a very thin line between (all other things equal between for example 2 different customers) a gentlemen and a wimp
In high contact states (with for example a nude dance) with a dancer you've danced with at least 4 or 5 times before, or done several extended CR sessions, if you're not at least "accidentally" brushing against her crown jewels now and then - the standard dancer "always on turn-off mode while dancing" will even drop several notches lower. So she gets even more bored and the dance itself suffers even more.
I give a very soft dance to start, and work my way up to a full grind..
I don't like it though if someone likes a hard hard grind, and they try and forcefully have me grind hard, thats just not how I do it, and damn it hurts my twat bone when they do that...
Certainly if a girl is GRINDING TOO HARD you are doing her a favor by letting her know how you feel, if possible, in a polite and lighthearted way. Demanding more sexuality than she really wants to give, however, is at the opposite end of the scale and could cause trouble for you in more ways than one. That would never be a good idea.
Let me put it this way. I'm usually 'NOT ERECT' at the beginning of a lapdance (except when I'm with evilcyn). Therefore, a soft grind gets Mr Happy started. When the dancer identifies Mr Happy is awake and fully functional, then the hard grind begins!
What I D-O-N-T like is a dancer acting like she is "fucking" me through my trousers by bouncing up and down!! That HURTS! My cock, when erect, is positioned upward laying along my abdomen, therefore, I prefer my dancer grinding to the point that her 'clit' is receiving "action" also. If I can get my dancer "off" while lapping me, it makes the dance much more pleasurable for me.
DON'T hurt the TWAT BONES please!!! Licks
My choice of words was the result of reading something in another post that was talking about "demands" on dancers or something like that, which was the inspiration for my post, and planted the seed for the choice of words. I would never DEMAND that a dancer do anything. I will ask / suggest in a nice way, like "can you do that thing where you....?"