De Facto Sugarbaby
rickdugan
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Ok, I have fallen into a de facto sugarbaby arrangement. She was only working in the clubs during the holidays, but we built some rapport and took it 100% OTC. She is for the most part trying to maintain a vanilla life, but the additional side money is helping her. She comes out every other week to an area that is very convenient for me and then we eat, drink and of course fuck.
The problem is that I'm already getting bored. There's nothing at all wrong with her, she's young, very pretty and clearly enjoys the sex. She's also very cool to hang and drink with before the finale.
Overall it's as close to a true GFE experience as I've ever had on a p4p basis. But I just don't do this to limit myself to one thing - the variety is a big part of why I do what I do.
So the train is nearing the station on this arrangement. I kinda' feel bad about it since I know that she's relying on this extra money and was hoping for a much longer run on this. But I just can't justify spending this kind of money on something that I'm no longer enjoying as much.
Anybody else dip their toes into the SD/SB thing and realize that it's just not for you?
The problem is that I'm already getting bored. There's nothing at all wrong with her, she's young, very pretty and clearly enjoys the sex. She's also very cool to hang and drink with before the finale.
Overall it's as close to a true GFE experience as I've ever had on a p4p basis. But I just don't do this to limit myself to one thing - the variety is a big part of why I do what I do.
So the train is nearing the station on this arrangement. I kinda' feel bad about it since I know that she's relying on this extra money and was hoping for a much longer run on this. But I just can't justify spending this kind of money on something that I'm no longer enjoying as much.
Anybody else dip their toes into the SD/SB thing and realize that it's just not for you?
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The question you have to ask is: Is it her or me?
But I do miss getting some "strange".
If you are “not longer enjoying as much”
I had a Sugar Baby type of relationship with my ATF, where we had OTC almost every week for more than two years.
I would pick her up on Sunday afternoon, get an hotel room and we would make love, massage each other, sometimes have room service, sometimes we would go out to dinner to a real nice place.
She would refer to me as her fiancé to other people, her sister told me.
I have thousands of pictures of her modeling cute sexy outfits I got for her.
Around Halloween she was slave princesses Lea from Star Wars, Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader, Playboy Bunny.
Around Christmas a sexy miss Santa, naughty school girl.
Like I said she was a baby stripper when we meet, very sweet and nice.
The sex got better and better because she was more comfortable and felt safe relaxed and was able to let herself go and enjoy it, I enjoyed it too, she would experience multiple orgasms and was very shy and sweet about it.
Sometimes she would spend the night and would fall a sleep with her head on my chest like the little angel she was.
She texted me one last time letting me know she was moving on and thanking me for the relationship...
She was worth every penny and every second I spent on her.
Thank you for making me remember the good times.
Back to answering your question;
I have tried to develop a similar experience with other girls, but so far it has not been possible for one reason or another.
Just remember; “the grass is NOT always greener on the other side of the fence.”
/end rant, lol.
Anyway there was some good advice on here. I'm going to pull the plug, probably with a parting payment to give her time to re-adjust.
NAAAASTY
Optionally, you can give her a bit more sugar when parting, but only if you actually feel like a total shit for leaving her without warning.
Also, optionally, giver her the web address for Seeking and tell her to check it out.
Final option, if she's hot and lives in the Valley, send me a PM and we can talk about a possible introduction to the Cat. I have an open position in my SB rotation...
@Muddy: I hear what you're saying, but that whole SB thing is not for me, whether it's a rotating stable or otherwise. I've heard too many stories about the development time and effort necessary. Your willingness to drive 9 hours round trip for a piece of (albeit hot) tail probably makes the chase part of the fun for you, which I might find fun as well if my circumstances were different. But I just can't devote that kind of time and energy into this. I prefer just to go to the club when I want to and work things out on the fly if the stars align.
Also, I'll suggest that the vision of sugaring that you described to @Muddy is a bit skewed, perhaps by feedback you have seen here from people who have not been successful in the Sugar Bowl. I never drive more than 20 minutes for an SB encounter, and most of the time I don't drive at all, as most of my SB's drive to me. Yes, it takes some time to go from initial message to an arrangement, but not really much more than it may take to meet a stripper, get to know her, and arrange an OTC meeting (same-night hook ups not withstanding).
Anyway, we each must decide on how to balance effort, funds, and time in order to optimize our enjoyment of the wet, warm heaven that is Pussy.
Generally speaking, I like the SB route. I'm certainly not going to make every girl who's good at fucking a sugar baby, but I won't rule it out. That said, the bar is pretty high for me, especially now, so it doesn't seem likely I'll do it again anytime soon.
There are over 1,200 women in that area who are 18-38 years old, have slim or athletic bodies, and do not smoke. Over 200 of those are either online now, or were online in the last 4 days.
Just something to think about...
At some point the thrill of the new conquest fades.
And a lot of misses I've heard to get to the right hit, which of course is also similar to strippers. I've also read that SA has a lot of fake profiles now, making the process even more cumbersome.
But one big difference is that when I'm doing that dance with strippers, I'm already out in the clubs drinking and enjoying T&A. I don't have much interest in the back and forth communication management and the long-term scheduling elements. I'm doing it now with just one who I already have locked down and even that sucks. When I'm out having fun I'm temporarily "off the clock" with respect to my many other responsibilities (unless I get an urgent call from the home front, which sometimes happens). If I had more free time then I might be game as I could see the chase as part of the fun, but I won't be in that position for a very long time.