How do you handle email inquires from people that you do not know?
shadowcat
Atlanta suburb
In the past 2 weeks, I have received 3 emails from TUSCL registered people for information about dancers names and mileage at my favorite club. The first 2 I have met in person and trust. They both post on this discussion board. The 3rd is a newbie. Unknown to me and I just told him that I didn't know him well enough to share that information. Actually I have told that to 2 guys in the last 2 weeks. I got an email a couple of days ago from another poster on here that was forwarding an email that he had received from another newbie, seeking information about BBF. He wanted to know if I thought the guy was a cop or just an interested
TUSCLer. My response. I think that he is probably OK but why take a chance. FONDL has posted a couple of times on here about what can happen. I sometimes receive emails from guys seeking my opinion on subjects that they were too embarased about to post on here. Some times I feel like "Dear Abbey" but I will give them my opinion.
TUSCLer. My response. I think that he is probably OK but why take a chance. FONDL has posted a couple of times on here about what can happen. I sometimes receive emails from guys seeking my opinion on subjects that they were too embarased about to post on here. Some times I feel like "Dear Abbey" but I will give them my opinion.
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Plus, I just got hit in the head. No telling what I'm liable to do!
I understand your concern so I wasn't surprised when one member didn't really answer my question but another did.
I also don't see the point in knowing a dancers name before you met her. If you don't ask her in person, she'll think you're creepy for already knowing her name and she'll give it to you anyway if you develop a relationship with her first. Some dancers avoid people who seem to know them. I've heard that before while in the clubs.
Back to the point, I pretty much agree with Shadowcat's threshold. If I were to get e-mail (and I have) from a poster on the board I'd probably answer it. If it were a lurker who never posts I wouldn't feel obligated. Of course I rarely have the kind of intimate knowledge Shadowcat and a few others do, so most of my replies would be harmless.
I don't think that exchanging emails is that dangerous between TUSCLERs, as long as it two-way communication, where both can get advice.
CAUTION: As a former COP... if a detective ever emails you about a criminal incident, there is no requirement on his behalf to advise you of your rights. Speaking from a friend of mine. Any attorneys out there want to challange this?
I'm also one of "those" that will email someone that I don't know, asking for details, and I know some of you reading this post have received such emails from me. Sometimes I will read a review (usually about one of my fav SCs), and I will want further details. Or, if a dancer is being discussed without her name being mentioned and I suspect it could be one of my favs, I may email to find out.
I've gotten to "know" several fellow TUSCLers via email discussions, and am very glad for it. To those that I feel that I "know", I will usually be forthcoming in my responses, if I trust them. However, I usually will be tight-lipped when it comes to my favs, especially my ATF, unless I am pretty confidant that the info will not harm her, or possibly come between her and I.
I sure wasn't offended by your post because I tend to be a pretty laid back guy. Shoot me an email next time you are in the area and I'll see if I'm free to buy you that beer.