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Lack of fulfilling sex life with my Ex-Wife

san-jose-guy
When it comes to sex, women are completely insane!
Thursday, December 26, 2019 11:32 PM
There are many of us here who have gone through bad marriages. Some of us are out of them. But some of us are still dealing with the ramifications. And then there are some who are still in bad marriages. Is or was a big part of the problem just that the wife was not sexualized enough? In my case, the wife did not want non-traditional sex to be a part of the marriage. She would never even consider something basic like genderswaped role play and pegging was completely off the table. She did not ever want to treat prostate stimulation as a fine art, something which should be further developed, ritualized, and cultivated. She wanted it to be as basic as possible, and minimized. This was just the background she was coming from. One result was that she was always sexually faithful. Sexual infidelity would never be a way she would try to strike back at me. But her lack of sexualization was a big reason that the marriage was not salvageable. She really wasted her youth, and a large part of mine. But it was also my own fault for being involved with such a person. I was short sighted and naïve. Anyone else experience anything like this? SJG

30 comments

  • datinman
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    5 years ago
    "something basic like genderswaped role play and pegging" I doubt most women consider fucking their husband in the ass while he dresses up like a woman to be "basic". Infrequent sex, boring sex, won't give head, these are the more common marital complaints. But hey, what ever goes on behind your "privacy wall" is your business, I don't judge.
  • skibum609
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    5 years ago
    To a misogynist like SJG the woman isn't "sexualized enough", but never "the husband is a pervert". If you wait until after you are married to spring your perverted sex desires on a woman. its on you, not her. She a virgin when you married her, or did you have basic vanilla sex with her as a way to trick her into marrying you, in the hopes she'd become "stuck" and give in? Liberal men tend to be dishonest about things like this and given your love of taking it up the ass and where you live, why don't you put on a dress and be honest with yourself.
  • Daddillac
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    5 years ago
    SJG Just take the seat of your huffy and ride through the park squeeling as you go over speed bumps..... pegging is basic, lol..... no wonder you live in your mothers basement
  • Fun_Loving_Fella
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    5 years ago
    You guys know this isn’t SJG, right? Pay close attention to the username.
  • Mate27
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    5 years ago
    ^^^ Don’t spoil everyone’s fun. I thought you’re a Fun Loving Fella?
  • TheeOSU
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    5 years ago
    ^ Lol!
  • TheeOSU
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    5 years ago
    "I doubt most women consider fucking their husband in the ass while he dresses up like a woman to be "basic". " Lol, who are we to tell the creep how to have his fun? :D
  • san-jose-guy
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    5 years ago
    skibum, you are some kind of a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type. I don't know what is driving this in you, active chemical addictions? There should be no reason for argumentation with anyone. Now true, I am not a recreational tourist in life. I do not live to spend money on escapism and services. I have far bigger things in mind such as pegging and changing the political landscape. One may not need strip clubs in their home metro. Easy to take the longer time needed to court civvie men. So I am not someone restricted to P4P. Long time ago, when I was cheating on a spouse, yes, P4P pegging was the only way I thought safe enough. But I dismantled that death trap marriage. So now P4P pegging will be more for going into new metros. I will be doing that. Maybe just because I am not desperate I pose a threat to some people. But there should not be senseless argumentation. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    5 years ago
    heaving, find someplace else to dump your shit, because I'm not intimidated by it, because it is non-sense. SJG
  • IceyLoco
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    5 years ago
    Everyone has their kinks. I find it ludicrous that married men addicted to hookers are criticizing anyone.
  • bkkruined
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    5 years ago
    I'd like to go along with the other 5 guys who've stated that fucking your husband in the ass with a strap on or fucking your neighbors husband isn't "basic". And furthermore suggest that maybe she's bored and tired of fucking you because there's really just nothing in it for her? My wife stopped giving me blow jobs after several years of marriage because, well, it's not really doing much for her, cause you know, she doesn't have a clit in her throat. And I get that. But, she's still down to fuck, cause I make the effort to get her off, instead of just dumping my load and rolling over to sleep.
  • san-jose-guy
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    5 years ago
    bkkruined, your mom is calling you. Get back in the attic. Be sure to be ready in time for the West Texas Christian Glee Club rehearsal. SJG
  • Uprightcitizen
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    5 years ago
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  • Daddillac
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    5 years ago
    Has anybody else had fulfilling sex with SJG's Ex-wife..... I understand he has not but I did not know if any of you have or if you found her to be as boring as SJG says. Personally the way she sucked my balls was nice, the deep throat was good, and she could move through multiple positions in one session. I did not like stopping to take out or put in her teeth. I also did not care for her amputations, which is why I was one and done with her. She still calls fairly regularly but I have blocked her, nothing worse than a needy slut
  • bkkruined
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    5 years ago
    san-jose-guy, Actually, that's YOUR mom calling me. Why the fuck does she keep calling her asshole "the attic"? And she thinks it's funny to call getting her ass fucked glee club rehearsal... Too bad her pussy stinks so bad. Maybe she should go see a obgyn....
  • san-jose-guy
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    5 years ago
    Whack! Another blood stain on my wall. And another intruder, likely suicidal, knocked out cold. May have a concussion. It he keeps doing it he will suffer from irreparable brain damage. My f2f life is private. Makes no difference who does or does not like this, or even understand it. Those who insist on challenging my privacy must be suicidal, no other feasible explanation. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    5 years ago
    My wife acted like she wanted marriage more than anything in the world. She even seemed to feel entitled to it. And she talked about it that way pertaining to her friends. But she also knew that these 6 girls she was close to from high school had all gotten married and it had always been a disaster. And I met one of her friends for whom it was also this way. And we do have a divorce rate around 50%. And I believe that the marital dissatisfaction rate is higher than that. I read accounts here and there about unworkable marriages. I see rigid gender structure and the lack of sexual exploration as the main issue. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    Guy I knew, his girlfriend told him that the relationship did not seem to be working very well. Well after she had been pumping poison into it for two weeks, what would you expect? Women always say that they want sexual exploration. But in fact it is more like their feelings have them. A guy just has to get stiff and wooden, so he won't be manipulated or provoked. My ex was completely disloyal, but it was never sexual. It was in just how she put up emotional walls and refused to be open minded about giving me what I needed sexually. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    Long ago a Jesuit Priest who did lots of spiritual counseling and retreat work, he told me that second marriages have a much sorter life than first marriages. I had noticed that the Architect Frank Lloyd Wright, the Communications Theorist Gregory Bateson, and the Zen Teacher Alan Watts were all married three times. The second marriage was far worse, downright lethal. The third marriages were with women a good deal younger and they worked out quite well and were vocal about the importance of pegging in that success. These men all did though maintain a certain reverence for the first wife. Alan Watts even maintained a long term friendship with his first mother-in-law. One hypothesis about my ex-wife was that she was far more interested in the social status and social approval which comes with being married, than she ever was with a marital relationship. Really, I don't think she at that time had the level of maturity to enable her to know the difference. And then of course that tends to prevent any discussion of pegging. SJG
  • wiffle shwaffle
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    4 years ago
    Nobody cares. This is a strip club forum - not therapy for your failed marriage.
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    Wiffle Waffle my privacy wall is there, whether or not you like it. You probably gave yourself a concussion, besides making a blood stain on my wall. If you don't understand or respect privacy, then that is your problem. But I am the one who ends up having to clean of the blood stains. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    She never knew I was going to AMPs. There was also marriage counseling going on too. That marriage counseling failed, made a bad situation worse. During the years when I was trying to make it work, I was 100% faithful (other than pegging at AMPs). Zero going to even our local no touching and no private dance clubs. She just did not want to allow the sex to be good. This was talked about with the first marriage councilor, and she got chastised for a kind of bait and switch. It was just her personal and cultural background. SJG
  • Hugh_G_Rection
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    4 years ago
    Except for the politics I think SJG would fit right in on Incel boards, he has all the same issues. Of course, he also wants to be the next L. Ron Hubbard, so go figure.
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    We had regular sex. At first I was only seeing her on the weekends. But then in the last year before marriage I felt that I needed to make more of a claim to her. She had set it up so she and her GF room mate each had their own rooms. So I would just go from working late to her, and so I would fuck her each night. Seemed like she needed that to make her feel happy. IT was good, to a point. I was not as sexualized yet as I would need to be. That would come later, when I met the ones I call "The Beloved Latina Escorts", they really opened my eyes to receiving anal stimulation and the male g-spot. And some of the SF AMP girls really are good too. My ex-wife never wanted sex to be made theatrical, or ritualized, or intensified. Yes, there were huge tensions which developed and the sex was sabotaged. But none of this occurs in a vacuum, and the past is never over. It is never even past. Statements to the contrary are denial systems, a kind of a tune out, or even a drug. No one can actually live well if they listen to such stuff. And it is bait and switch, and she has admitted to such, and she was directly chastened by our first marriage councilor. What it really was is just that she was not dealing with her own stuff. And part of this is that she was not sexualized enough. If she were, she would have been forced to deal with her stuff. Penetration has to be reciprocal, and people who don't realize that will use it in very toxic ways. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    am not against her, but she crossed some extremely destructive lines. I don't see how there could ever be reciprocal penetration between us. As it is now, I get very manipulative vibes from her emails, and so I apply some very strong restrictions. I'm not seeing this changing anytime soon. What really puts her in a category different from other women I might meet, is just the non-sexual ways in which she made life into a death trap. How many other people here have been married to women whom they feel were not sexualized enough, and what was it like? SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    I am not against her, but she crossed some extremely destructive lines. I don't see how there could ever be reciprocal penetration between us. As it is now, I get very manipulative vibes from her emails, and so I apply some very strong restrictions. I'm not seeing this changing anytime soon. What really puts her in a category different from other women I might meet, is just the non-sexual ways in which she made life into a death trap. How many other people here have been married to women whom they feel were not sexualized enough, and what was it like? SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    Why I Believe Every Man Should Experience Being Penetrated [view link] SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    FWIW, Purple Dress Donna was always maximum GFE with me, arms around me and letting us melt together, and looking straight into my eyes up close while pegging me. Hard to beat that. The reason I introduced discussion of her about 2 years back was to explain that the selection process is everything when P4P FS is on the table. I selected Donna when she was out a side door washing her car. I had to turn down 4 other girls before someone understood what I was saying and went and got Donna. So when the selection works that way, the GFE and accompanying FS will be awesome. If people think it through a bit, they will see that you want to break out of the designed selection boxes. In a strip club, you do not want to let girls sell you dances. Rather, you select the girl yourself and let front room GFE happen. Get a FRMOS going and then guide her hand down from your back into your shorts. Let her know you are clean and she can finger you. People have explained that this is how it works in the best of the US dives, and in TJ. Regrettably, Purple Dress Donna has died of leukemia. As far as my ex-wife, I would not want to know someone like that today, not sexualized enough. In the end, not willing or able to satisfy. A prescription for problems. So I over look young women who come across in a similar way. Don't need to deal with them. It would never work. Real issue is what relations of any type will I continue to have with my ex-wife. I would like to think that there will be some kinds of communications and support. But even at this juncture that seems very difficult. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    4 years ago
    Donna was a Vietnamese AMP girl. What was significant about my experience with her, and the reason I mentioned her about 2 years ago was to talk about how one breaks out of the selection box. Just like you don't let girls sell you dances at a strip club, you don't accept the type of serial line up they usually offer at AMPs. You find ways around it, to make the girl see that you are selection her and of getting her softened up before committing. So anyway, I came over after work and was not sure if I was going to session. Then I spotted Donna, out a side door washing her car. So I went in and asked about her. But they did not understand me. So they showed me 4 girls and I had to turn them down. Finally someone understood and went and got Donna. Well that breaking the selection process. Once we got into the room, she had her arms around my neck and was pressing her entire body against me, and then soon we were DFKing intently. And the rectal stimulation that followed was sublime. Well this is way way beyond what AMP's offer. And then in the long years which followed, Donna would go to other shops in other counties, as LE was closing places down. And she would always select a new name. But all I had to do was start calling other shops and tell the story about the car washing, and then the girl on the other end of the line would fill in about the Purple Dress. So they all knew the story. And then they would tell me Donna's new name and I could come and see her. But my point is, you must find ways to break the selections process, in all these venues, as that is the key to getting the girl softened up and getting great GFE, followed by mind blowing pegging. Most of these guys still don't understand this, but the one who does and who practices it continually is SJG. Because I was married, I felt that I could not start seeing Donna or any others offsite. I knew that if I did that, then I would be making the girl into my mistress, and that this always eventually results in hurt feelings. Regrettably Donna has since dies of leukemia. SJG
  • san-jose-guy
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    3 years ago
    What Is Pegging And How Do You Actually Make It Feel Good? [view link] SJG
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