Exceeding your limit in hopes of having a better time

10 comments

• FONDL

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  18 years ago

  I only take as much cash as I'm willing to spend (usually around $200) and I usually spend only about half of that unless I meet someone very special. And like Shadowcat, I don't have an ATM card.
• jimmyblong

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  18 years ago

  I always budget my fun way before I go in to do battle. I've always regreted hitting the atm for more money as it usually is chasing futility. I do though try to maximize my club experience and leave with as much money in my pockets as possible and still have a good time. Never buying shots of alcohol is a good first rule of thumb on saving money in the clubs.
• casualguy

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  18 years ago

  I prefer not to spend all the cash I have on hand when going to a strip club. However if I'm having a really good time, I'm willing to go that far.
• chandler

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  18 years ago

  I don't need a limit because I actually have a hard time spending too much money. I'm picky about the girls I'll buy dances from and skeptical about how much more fun I'll have with each girl after a couple dances. I find that I usually have a lot more fun with my first $100 of spending for the night than with any additional amounts. When I was a newbie, I used to spend like crazy chasing after some ultimate strip club experience. I kept telling myself I should stick to a limit. I tried all the schemes, but I always found a way of getting more cash when I wanted it and kidding myself that this was an exception, and I'd get back on my plan the next time. Sure, I had some good times with the extra spending, but nothing life changing, and nothing I can't pass up anymore.
• AbbieNormal

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  18 years ago

  Identifying the peak is a pet peeve of mine. I generally take cash and an ATM card with a low limit on daily withdrawals, so the overspending isn't too much of an issue with me (although Lopaw correctly identifies the greatest cause of overspending for most guys). My guideline is that if I'm spending because I'm having a good time that's OK. When I'm spending to re-capture a good time I was having a little while ago, I've passes the peak and it's time to go.
• Jpac73

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  18 years ago

  Bones I think I will take your plan of leaving the extra cash I don't plan to spend in the car. At least that way I won't have to pay the fee for using the ATM that I don't bank with.
• hugevladfan

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  18 years ago

  I guess I am so jaded (or juss loathe to try new things in a SC) that I am not a real big believer in spending more for the potential of a bigger payoff in the future. I've been to a club so many freaking times I doubt I have the ability to be surprised at what happens. It's hard to build a level of trust with someone that has bounced on your lap for 10 or 20 minutes and if all I was looking for was a good time I could prolly go to craigslist or a massage parlor for a better payoff.
• lopaw

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  18 years ago

  When I stopped drinking alcohol at the club was about the time I stopped exceeding my $$$ limit. Funny how booze makes multiple visits to the ATM seem like such a great idea.....
• DailyGrind

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  18 years ago

  In any club, the Hotties usually have 2-3 rotations to seduce me into the private dance area. I prefer to use the first round to relax and reconnoiter. If they don't approach me on my terms (the mental fulfillment of an intimate one-night-stand with a stranger) I will teasingly inform or remind them of my expectations and move on. I will fork-out big bucks for the perfect 30-second seduction, but also understand that on any given night a dancer may not be in the mood to create this illusion of intimacy. This is why I give them (and myself) a clean slate to start with on every subsequent visit or encounter. In the meantime I'm perfectly content to kick-back, soak-in the atmosphere, and concentrate on the stage from a discreet distance. The benefit of this default expectation is that I never leave disappointed. If the perfect/acceptable approach hasn't happened in, say, 3 rounds, I can leave satisified that I haven't wasted any money. (I do have the luxury of a half-dozen other clubs to visit if necessary.) But when it *does* happen, it happens big time. I'm usually so mentally exhausted that, after escorting the Hottie out of the PD area, I'll stay and crash on the couch for another song just basking in Afterglow. Those watching me eventually stumble out of the club would have no doubt that it doesn't get any better. Kind of an 'All or Default' approach to Mongering, I guess. 'An Ounce Of Intimacy Is Worth A Pound Of Grind.' DG
• minnow

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  18 years ago

  "I'm gonna hit on the next hand/spin/pull". As countless gamblers have muttered that phrase, many PL's are asking your ?? Answer- It depends. My "budget" is rather loosely defined, but a one still asks, "should I stay or go". In your case, if mileage continued to be lower than customary, that would be a good sign to bail, and head for a viable "Club B". If , however, there seems to be a hot prospect, and there's no other clubs around, playing another hand just might be worth it. I too like to end on high note, but sometimes 1st dance is the best 1( will you chooose curtain #1, #2, #3......)