I exchanged numbers one time with a dancer, It was useful to find out when she was working so we could meet. We mostly just texted each other. It got to be a problem when she texted me at inappropriate times to tell me it was slow and to come see her. I might do it again but I would want to know the dancer a lot better and make sure we both understand the rules of engagement.
Very common. But don’t do it. Before you know it, the “talking and flirting” will drag you into all her SS, life drama, and inevitable requests for $. Remember the fundamentals of the transactional relationship with strippers. The reason you’re willing to pay for it is so she won’t call you afterwards.
It's almost more shocking when a stripper won't give out her phone number. So, saying it's "common" is an understatement; the uncommon aberration is when she won't give it out.
As a matter of course, I leave the SC with the phone number of any stripper I want to see again.
iknowbetter said "Before you know it, the 'talking and flirting' will drag you into all her SS, life drama, and inevitable requests for $."
Personal opinion... if that's happening to you, then it's because you're letting it happen. The dancers I communicate with know that I don't do drama or loans. If they insist (or can't help themselves...), then the money stops.
You'd be amazed at how much bad behavior can be corrected by crimping the money hose.
When a stripper gives me her phone number, I ALWAYS throw it away immediately after leaving the club (especially if I really liked her).
I don’t have that much will power and I know it.
-->"Personal opinion... if that's happening to you, then it's because you're letting it happen. The dancers I communicate with know that I don't do drama or loans. If they insist (or can't help themselves...), then the money stops. "
Agree completely. Dancer phone number is 100% a positive for me -- lets me set up an appointment so I can lock her down, gives me an opportunity to offer her Team WinningTeam management services, gives her a way to send me nudie pics :) But If you're the type of person who will get sucked into drama, "stripper shit" (passive-aggressive way of saying it hurts your feelings that she's creating the fantasy you're paying her for), get manipulated, etc., then yes, don't take her number.
I only ask for numbers from dancers/bargirls I want to see again (not too many) and always let them know it's just to set up a visit.
If a dancer/bargirl gives me her number but I know I don't want to see her again, I take the number and delete it so afterward.
@reverendhornibastard
--> ”When a stripper gives me her phone number, I ALWAYS throw it away immediately after leaving the club (especially if I really liked her).
I don’t have that much will power and I know it.”
Lmao, someday I wish to have as much will power as you to immediately throw away the phone numbers I’ve been given. Brilliant! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I cannot think of anyone I kept in touch with more than two years. Either our mutual interests diverged or they got immediately cut off when they started drama. I can count on one hand the girls I kept in touch with
LOL, I remember once in the last century before cell phones existed a dancer giving me.a business card with her contact information. It was a very vague looking card.
I am given them frequently. I have only given
Mine twice. So far, nothing bad. They just want me to let them know when I am in town so they can show up to the club. The gals who gave me numbers for OTC are also common, but I Don’t do OTC, so I usually just pitch the numbers.
It happens on occasion to me, but seemingly always when I'm out of town. I'll text them a few times and we'll have convos, but then there's a mutual loss of interest/communication. Getting a dancer's number is nothing to really be excited about.
FishHawk's comment reminded me: last time I was in Atlanta, a Follies girl gave me her 'vanilla job' business card. I might still have it somewhere.
@CMI: “Personal opinion... if that's happening to you, then it's because you're letting it happen.”
Bingo. I use Google Voice, but any of the myriad texting apps available now will serve mostly the same purpose. Turn notifications off, and only respond to the ones you want. If the signal to noise ratio gets too small, mark them as “spam” or block them. Boom, problem solved.
I'd say the reason behind her giving it out depends more so on you than on her...in that you determine the category she puts you in. Most of the time its just to try to get regulars.
If they hit you up for money, tell them you're broke and encourage them to hustle harder.
If they want you to go to the club, ask how they'll make it worth your while.
If she asks you to take her shopping, tell her you'll take her to the swap meet.
When the texts involve flirting and invitations to smoke loser leaf, or asking you to come over and bring food.... you're on the right track.
Lately when they want to give me their number I just put it on notepad, and just say I am getting a new phone will text you when I get it. So much better than getting the come to the club texts.
Happens all the time - 99.9% of the time the strip-club is a business environment for the dancers - them giving you their # is you basically becoming a busine$$-contact - custies go to the club to be entertained and some hope to hook up w/ a hot-chick - 99% of the time strippers go to the club w/ the sole purpose of making as much $$$ as possible, not to hook up - many of them already have a guy but still meet w/ custie$.
If you are a young-guy close to their age and reasonably good-looking and you can usually bag hot young girls, and you are into the party-scene (drinking and drugs), then you may be a match - otherwise 99% of the time a stripper's sole interest is $$$, not finding a date or a guy to flirt with (they can, and usually score that, outside the club).
You'd be surprised at how limited some of their dating options are though. It mostly has to do with the hours they work and the shit a lot of men think about strippers and especially dating them. Its hard for them to meet men who want more than sex.
As I know, what really made the difference was cell phones and caller ID.
This made women more loose about giving out phone numbers, it helped OTC to proliferate, and it then helped UHM ITC to proliferate.
SJG
I suppose they did, but I don't know that most women used them, the women who work in strip clubs.
When I started going they were an onsite visual fantasy. No way to talk to her outside.
Once you can call her outside, she is potentially your escort. That changes everything, even ITC.
SJG
Never personally seen a strip club dancer who had a pager. But they all adopted cell phones early on. Women everywhere became much freer with phone numbers. But just because you have her phone number, that does not mean that she wants to talk to you.
SJG
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