Revoked privelages with fav after 4 month absence?
Muddy
USA
I took a break since November. A few reasons for it but whatever that ain’t even that long. I saw what was my CF at the time last night and got some vanilla ass dances. I tried sucking titties..nope, licking and kissing her neck...nope tried feeling up down there...nope all things that made this girl my fav. Now she says to me “you just show up out of nowhere and expect shit to happen like it was?” Well that little rapport we used to have costed quite a bit of money god dammit.
Now I can’t take breaks no more? Is that some kind crime now. I was expecting to be welcomed like a conquering hero, instead I’m just some forgotten horny dude. Look I’ll be honest I’m charming as fuck if y’all knew me you be saying let this guy do what he wants. WTF kind of bullshit is that? Fuck outta here. Any of y’all have a similar experience after a long break? I kicked out of this girls VIP. And I desperately want back in :’(
Now I can’t take breaks no more? Is that some kind crime now. I was expecting to be welcomed like a conquering hero, instead I’m just some forgotten horny dude. Look I’ll be honest I’m charming as fuck if y’all knew me you be saying let this guy do what he wants. WTF kind of bullshit is that? Fuck outta here. Any of y’all have a similar experience after a long break? I kicked out of this girls VIP. And I desperately want back in :’(
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There is no need to drop her. tell her you took a break from clubbing. Life got in the way. You were disappointed in your last dance but you are willing to try another one to see if the magic is back. Remind her you tip based on how well you enjoy the dance.
Not that I think it's the key factor here, but when you took your break, ever text her to let her know?
For my former ATF, when we broke it off, I didn't see her for a year, and when I made a one time visit to see her for old times sake, she let me do even more at that time than she used to back when we were meeting up a couple times a month. Still didn't make me a regular of her's again, so the move didn't payoff. I guess it goes both ways.
Anyways, your (former?) CF has played her hand, and you should assume it was a calculated move. Your move now, but if you stay, you should probably set some better boundaries so doesn't try to power play you again if you take another break.
I wouldn't sweat it. I know going in that this is a likely outcome when I stop visiting a club for a while, for whatever reason, and now so do you. There are other fish in the sea and plenty of new "relationships" to be formed.
Next visit, she might have changed her tune. Or maybe not. If you got no other better options..... I'd give her another try.
I commonly am absent for weeks or months at a time from my few standby clubs. I've always been welcomed back with enthusiasm by my favs.
@Subra No I didn’t text her. Our texting relationship was just club meet up related so I just didn’t feel the need to hit her up.
Yeah I really should just drop her. It’s the advice I would give myself. But she’s unbelievably hot. What can I say, I just want that. It’s harder in real life to just drop it. And I still worked around it to have a good time last night just not what it used to be. I probably give it a couple more shots to see what happens, I’ll look the other way this time.
But I have to stop drinking more than 1or 2. I get too emotional when I drink. I lose my wits. 25’s right With a few more I might’ve got cleaned out. My dick takes over. I am not desperate, but my dick definitely is. I bought a ton of drinks for dancers to celebrate coming back. Maybe $60 worth. That was horseshit.
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Yes, that is the strip club as entertainment model.
The strip club for intimacy model, or the strip club for sex with some level of intimacy model, is what causes the heartburn of disappointment when YMMV from prior visits or a regular relationship changes.
In the strip club for sexual satisfaction with no attachments model, the PL simply moves on if the mileage isn't satisfactory.
You're absolutely right, it could be that. The thing is, we can't quite tell that from the story.. It is absolutely the case that she might have been having a bad night, or just irritated, or anything else, and that's how her brain works. But you are tragically underestimating them if you don't think they can be calculating and very efficiently manipulative, even if it's unconscious competence rather than following some machiavellian plan. And, in fact, it could very well be a bit of both at play.
-->"Next visit, she might have changed her tune. Or maybe not."
Absolutely agree. That happens for sure. Although having had my fill of moody and inconsistent strippers, where you never know how'll she'll treat you, I might well be annoyed enough to bail; maybe one more chance at most.
-->" I commonly am absent for weeks or months at a time from my few standby clubs. I've always been welcomed back with enthusiasm by my favs."
Yep, that's the weirdest hting about this story. So far, no other PLs have reported ever getting this treatment
I would say keep going to the same club and buy dances from another dancer. Use this advice if the previous dancer asks why you didn't buy a dance from her again. That way you're not actually burning your bridge with this dancer but you're also not showing that you will continue buying dances despite the decrease in mileage.
As some others have said, I usually see an increase in mileage after taking a break. I one time wasn't able to see a dancer for two months, I came back in and she was all over me.
Thinking any dancer isn't potentially playing a calculated game with you as is a very PL move and how you set yourself up to get ripped off.
We're called PLs for a reason. Most of an SCs clientele doesn't have the experience and foresight we have here. So I'm sticking with the manipulating stance.
With rare exceptions they only get emotional about the $$$ and possibly missing outnl on it.
Strip club bizarro world is the opposite of the real world - in SC bizarro world it's usually the PLs that misread things and get emotionally invested.
Perhaps the OP was not paying enough attention to her upon his return and interacting with other dancers and not focu$ing on her enough.
Strip clubs really are bizarro world at times. I've been going 11 years and still get surprised
Strip clubs really are bizarro world at times. I've been going 11 years and still get surprised
The difference between you and I and most everyone here is we're not ignorant (for the most part) and know how to play the game. We're the smart ones out the hobbyists. That awareness lowers the house's odds and makes it so we get what we want out of the situation. The grand majority of custies are ignorant, fall victim to the manipulation and don't get what they want...or greatly over pay for it. Again, to think these girls aren't profiting off their manipulation of men just because either don't fall for it or don't recognize it in its subtlety is beyond silly.
In the OPs situation, this dancer's cold shoulder power play is manipulating the OP into continuing to think about her more and possibly visit her more than he recently has. It might actually payoff for her too...
She'd have taken you home, rocked your world, supplied you with weed, and let you play video games all day.
And yeah, being a bad boy helps. Tell her about shit you've done, exaggerate a little, they love it. But again, seems to be the case with most women. I recently told a stripper how I beat 2 felony cases last year....just didn't say in what capacity, and it made her panties so wet she's all over me now.
If you were going that often and disappeared without texting her she probably thought you were spending money elsewhere. It may be as simple as her being mad that you took regular income away from her when she thought she was giving you extra in exchange from you paying her regularly. As I said in the other thread, be direct. If she still blocks you don’t waste energy trying to fix it. Just move on.
I refuse to believe that she missed you and is upset that you cut contact for a bit. That's bullshit
Bahahahaha, oh god that's so gay. That's the comment that did it for me. Absence from the site for a while has made my troll detector a bit rusty. Icey, you're clearly a troll or the most easily manipulated PL on here. I'll steer clear of engaging with you from now so you can mess with others instead. Happy trolling, buddy.