Dancer offers less intimacy than whats normal in the club during lapdance

I've had very few lap dances still, and almost all of them were bad. In those cases I just brace myself for it to end since I feel awkward at that point.

I pay after the dances and if I do not see any potential I move on to the next dancer that interests me.

If It's bad I usually bear it to the end of the song and stop - on rare occasion I'll stop the dance and just pay ger to go away.

I try to judge their lap dances before I'm stuck having to pay them any money in the first place. I'll typically tell them what I want and expect from them and the price I'll pay and they can either take it or leave (or keep sitting in my lap). I'll also see what I can get from her for free, such as groping her chest or genitalia, light kissing, or getting any of her clothes off; the idea being that if I can get it for free, I can definitely get it by paying for it.

Many Atlanta clubs are air-dance clubs bc of local ordinances - some clubs lie under different local ordinances that allow contact - but since air-dance clubs are so prevalent the air-dance shit sips into the few contact clubs (not counting Follies) - in ATL contact-clubs not Follies, I've had to resort to telling the dancer what kinda dance I want prior to agreeing to dances - I got tired of the high failure rate of paying for dances and rhen hoping they were worthwhile.

Buying dances is a chump's game.

Front Room Makeout Session. Not for free, with giving her money to show respect. Let things happen right where you are sitting, or right where you approach her. Treat her exactly as you would treat any other beautiful woman.

Then when it is time for your own pants to come down, you invite her to the back room. Then take her home with you and continue to see her regularly.

Don't take a girl into the back room to see how good she is. Take her into the backroom because she is already good in the front room, and because you want to be waking up with her and giving her another round, in the mornings.

SJG

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Any dancer I’m attracted to I’ll take for at least a spin. They get one dance if that shit is weak or there is drama that’s it for me.

If there is that much disparity in the type of dance being offered, it's usually because the dancer is new. I try to figure that out before I agree to a dance in a club I'm familiar with.

+1 to wallanon’s comment. And in the case of a dancer that is new, I might still get a dance if I otherwise like her.

It depends on some other factors, primarily how hot she is and what kind interaction we had before the dances. My reactions bascially run the same spectrum its just other factors come in to play. Even assuming 7+ leaves a lot of room for variance. For example, a 7 won't get nearly the slack a 9.5 will. And a 6 probably won't get anything other than dismissed, so they aren't worth considering either.

A really shitty dance but the girl is still smoking hot and charming, I probably won't stop in the middle of the song but I won't go for another or tip. A shitty dance from a girl who basically just wanna danced me I might very well cut her off in middle of the first the dance or at least like the OP said totally loose interest and start playing on my phone or whatever. Similarly, just cause the dance was good doesn't make her a favorite. She's also gotta be remarkably hot and I gotta enjoy hanging out with her for me to consider making an effort to seek her out again.

My mood also factors in, and if I'm local/traveling. On the road, personality isn't much of a consideration compared to to body and mileage. As long as she's not a raving bitch, I really don't care. Locally, personality still doesn't affect my decision as much as body but its certainly more than on the road. As far as mood, some days I'm much more tolerant than others.

I've got a slight correction to your number 4.

"4. Dancer offers way more than normal.

Added to my CF list. Stacked dances - and multiple rounds, plus tips. Specifically visit to see her in future. "

Change to:

4. Dancer offers way more than normal.

Added to my CF list. Stacked dances until I cum, plus tips. Specifically visit to see her in future.

You make it happen with her in the front room, right where you are sitting. Just like a first date. You gently bring about a front room makeout session. You treat her real well and just put her in the mood for it.

SJG

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so a chick offered you less mileage, big fucking deal.

Dancer told me long ago, "Don't use strip clubs for sexual gratification, because that's perverted".

She meant the 'extras' or LDK shops which she was used to working in.

So understanding her, what are strip clubs good for?

1. If you want to imbibe a sexual aesthetic, the dolled up hotties, the emotional and physical openness, the bohemian sense of it all. You learn at the strip club, then recreate it in our own personal life.

2. For those crazies amongst us who actually want to be walking up with strippers in the mornings.

First good step in civilianizing the interaction with the girl is a front room makeout session. Won't always happen, but you can learn how to make it likely.

SJG

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if her dance is sooo bad... it is one and done. if it is really really bad or if she was misleading in getting me to take her to vip... i may walk out. it has happened a few times in the last seven years. but it is less than 1%.

Evaluate her in the front room, right where you are sitting. Not for free, but before you take her into any booth or back room.

SJG

That's true. I don't understand why they don't just evaluate her before anything. You can easily tell what she's into or what she's about ....its common sense

By "evaluate" I mean get to know her and get a front room makeout session going. You don't take her into the back room to see how good she is, you take her into the back room because she is already good in the front room.

SJG

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@wallanon - you probs know better than anyone - strip clubs are bizzarro world - and full spectrum of attitudes can be seen in dancers. New dancers are generally eager to please. Read your reviews of Montreal clubs - I went to a few of em a couple of years ago. It's different. A city where hookers are available - a strip club returns to its roots - offering better stage shows and sensuous lap dances but generally no more than that.

@Gilfly90 Dolfan and Papi - I used to let the song end but now I end it right away.
@Muddy9 - gotta love the SouthWest - Texas, Arizona, Southern Cal !

@Liwet - fair approach - either ask first or get a feel during introduction

@IceyLoco - youre the gawd ! what the fuck are you doing here hanging out with us retards

@MisterWonderful - yeah, such shitty dancers are not common - but gotta send them a message. Recent dancer was totally handsy during the buildup & sale. When the first dance started - she started twerking, i slapped her butt, not hard. She stopped the dance to warn me and was about to proceed dancing again. I told her to leave.

@san_jose_guy - I've been your San Jose clubs. Including your go-to club Brass Rail. They suck. In a bad way. Have you EVER visited a texas club? Even once? Most patrons (admit not all) - treat dancers with respect and dignity. Customer wants youth and beauty and Dancer wants warmth and generosity (i.e., $$). It's a fair trade. A respectable trade. That's the only way texans do it. If you visit a texas club - especially central texas - you would not be writing a million lines of front room makeout; would be enjoying the clubs instead!

Yes, our local clubs suck, though they are lower cost.

Never been to Texas, except for the Dallas airport.

No, most customers treat strip club dancers like prostitutes, act as though money buys them.

No, fair trade does not get the best outcome. Money for sex is just the surface of it. These are still ordinary girls.

Buying dances is for chumps, in Texas and Central Texas just line anywhere else.

Need to civilianize.

SJG

Rogertex, you probably don't go back as far as I do. Contact strip clubs started with Lap Dancing at SF MBOT.

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All front room, basically lap sitting. No dances.

Girl just jumps onto your lap, and starts trying to get money out of you. Much more flexible.

Jim and Artie did prohibit FS and enforce with firings, but anything else okay. So FIV and even some FIA. And of course DFKing, while not universal, was very common.

And when Jim and Artie were arrested, that it was all front room, sex education, not sexual gratification, was their defense.

After that, after the legal victory, then the Mafia came in with booths and back rooms, and buying dances. And the Mafia was then followed by Deja Vu.

Our local clubs are nothing, but we have an underground, table dancing. Girl starts dancing, and tries to get money out of you. And all those girls in that circuit do as much OTC as they can. Similar to early MBOT. So you play with her and feed her money. If she wants you for OTC, though DFKing is prohibited, she will not refuse. I usually start them with open tongue kissing, more part of the show, not to mess her up.

And we have AMPs. Key to mind blowing experience is to get your girl DFKing. Always approach her like a civilian. Then she can turn it into GFA ( Girl Friend Audition ), and there is nothing better than that.

One underground club had covert front room FS, and of course those girls love to kiss, ITC, and in their home OTC sessions.


This forum is loaded up with millions of words about stupid shit like buying dances and mileage, and the idea that these women are only about money. Total waste of digital storage media. Marks bragging about how they get separated from their money!

SJG

Front Room Discussions must be totally beating the Underground Circle Jerk VIP Room, no contest.

SJG

Well I don't have the long history of strip clubs that you do.
Dancers are treated better than civilians - mostly because they are in better shape and know how to hustle.
Even your Brass Rail seemed to have good decorum for the 30 minutes I was there - but maybe you have seen it all.

Since you have such a passion for writing, but strip club experience limited to a particular region, I have a suggestion for you.
Pack your bags and start a journey across America. Visit every strip club in every city. Upscale, Dive, all of it. Report your experiences through a blog or facebook/youtube. That will partially fund your trip expenses. At the end you may be the only guy who has visited all 1000 strip clubs in America. Even more than Wallanon. 5 years down Rick's Cabaret may consult you on where and how they should open their new strip club.

Just do it

I will be traveling across the US, and through Northern Mexico, in order to expand a business. And I will be partaking of the women in strip clubs everywhere I go.

Just think about it, interacting with the girl in an unstructured manner, means most anything can happen. And you can show respect by feeding her money.

But once you agree to a particular time and money formula, then she is performing a service on you. Booths and backrooms often do not increase the mileage, they just increase the house cut of the money, while making it easier for the girl to keep strict control of the choreography.

Always in P4P venues the first thing you want to do is get your girl off script and start breaking out of the interaction box the operator has tried to provide you with.

And of the strip club women I engage with in my future travels, more often than not I'll be waking up with them in the mornings, and then they will get inducted into the organization I am building, and they will serve as my first boots and the ground for that metro.

As fun as strip clubs can be, eventually one finds out that they also have severe limitations, and so you have to use them only for what they are good for. And that is, See - Want - Get. You get to have the girl you select, dressed and painted up exactly as you first spotted her. That is indeed the Ultimate Power Trip. But that will only work at the strip club with a given girl one time. After that you have to find some other ways to make things good with her. For me that will be lingerie photo modeling sessions.

SJG

1000 clubs? That is too many. Not time to see the girls outside. And besides, I am not some sort of a thrill seeker. I have far bigger plans.

SJG