Having Too Many Favorites a Bad Thing?

And you care why? Competition is the American way !

Do they all work the same shifts? How many can you afford to play with each visit?

3 is probably workable

How about a contest? First one who curls your toes OTC gets to keep you and the rest get a thank you for playing. ;)

Okay, now all joking aside...

First and foremost, it's not your job to coddle their emotional well-being. You are there to be entertained and should spend your time with whomever you wish. They are not your friends and each probably cares more about a pimple on her ass than she does about your emotional health.

Whether there is drama depends partly on you and partly on them. You can minimize some of the drama by making it clear on each visit who you are there to see. Just have a sack. What you can't control is what they do behind the scenes. I've had potential favorites suddenly drop out of contention for no apparent reason, only to learn weeks or even months later that they were intimidated or outright threatened by another dancer. So yes, juggling multiple favorites can cause issues, especially if one of them is more of an alpha than the others. Conversely, in other places it was no problem at all.

So just do what you do and let the chips fall where they may.

You've opened yourself up to some potential drama. But, if the problem hasn't come up, then let it ride.

If it's really an issue for you, then talk to one or all of them about it. Let them know that you like variety. That's why you're at a strip club and not on Match.com.

If you treat it like high school drama, then it will become high school drama.

Another alternative is to see if you can enjoy all three at once!

Probably not going to work but it is an interesting possibility.

Good luck and let us know how it turns out.

I had four favorites in once club at once for a short time. Currently, the max is three, all on night shift. I admit the potential for drama and back biting, but it hasn’t been or problem so far.

I did have a problem once. Girl A told girl B that I belonged to A and that B shouldn’t bother anymore. Fortunately, someone else told me about it, and I told girl A that if she ever did anything like that again, she’d never see another dime of my money.

If they don’t understand that it’s my choice who I want to see that night, then they can choose not to take my money.

Another plan... strap a deli ticket dispenser to your chest. That should get the point across.

My general approach to this, is the strategy that's worked for me for the past few years in dealing with strippers in general: be transparent (rather than elusive or deceptive), be friendly and warm, and always behave with 100% confidence that you're not doing anything wrong.

So, when I have more than one girl I'm seeing: I text one to make an appointment. If she responds back and confirms, then we have an appointment and she's the girl I'll be with (this is the way I like to SC, one girl per visit). If, when I walk in, I see another fave of mine, smile, big friendly hello, "I'm here to see Kinzie today, Porsche, but thanks for saying hi, come by our table if I can buy you a drink! Looking forward to catching you next time!" and that's that.

If you want to maximize drama, the best way to do that is to behave like a little bitch. Be too scared to tell the girls what's up. Sneak around hoping that Kinzie never catches you with Porsche or vice versa. When you get to the club, be unclear as to which you're hanging out with today, because you're scared of hurting Kinzie's feelings, so each girl thinks she has a claim on you. Letting the two girls work things out amongst themselves, especially considering the amount of ego and bragging rights at stake, gives the best chance of drama among the girls and you. Being confident, firm, friendly, and direct in telling them what's what with you (and your wallet) today, will yield you the best chance of a drama-free trip (or at least, lower chance of you seeing it).

If you're a "hang out with multiple girls per trip" guy, then just change that to "Hi Kinzie, I'm hanging out with Porsche for a bit, then would love to come find you".

I agree with what Subraman wrote, but in case we have not been clear, sometimes drama will happen no matter what you do. Yes you can minimize it to by being very firm, but you don't control what they do behind the scenes in the DR, bathroom or elsewhere. I tend to have multiples favorites myself as I like variety and do not want a club wife, but it sometimes has unintended consequences.

One recent example for me is a girl who I hit it off good with and even took OTC, but then who avoided me like the plague over the next few visits. Apparently another favorite, who I also took OTC from time to time, and her cousin cornered this girl in the DR and made some nasty threats. I didn't even learn about this until weeks later.

In another example, in a club where the dancers self policed supposed customer stealing, other girls wouldn't come near me even when my favorite dancer was out. It was so bad that when I cajoled another girl to give me a LD, she did a shit job and then went to the other one and apologized for giving me the dance.

I have several other examples, but you get the point. You cannot completely control how these girls behave with each other. So by all means enjoy yourself as you want and manage it with all the firmness you can muster, but also understand that there could indeed be unintended consequences to having multiple favorites.

Good lord. I am grateful that I haven’t had to deal with fighting over a regular or even customers in general.

There was a recent SW thread that I found off-putting with its advocating violence on other dancers. stripperweb.com

My guess is that the probability of a situation like this depends on the customer turnover, or lack thereof.

But I agree that it’s on you, and you may have to reach out if some favorites “shirk away.” Probably good for negotiating OTC if that’s what you’re into.

You owe them nothing and they owe you nothing. So I don’t think it should be a problem.

But drama can always happen in a strip club and there are two kinds. The drama you created or contributed to and the drama you can’t do a damn thing about. I think Subraman gave good summary advice, as did others. I would just add that it would be good if you prepare yourself for losing one, two or all three of these girls. That’s going to happen sooner or later anyway.

Something I learned long ago in business is to be willing to walk away from a deal that goes bad. So my advice is to enjoy all three while it lasts. Don’t apologize for having three you like. Be straight forward with what you want and have good manners. But walk away from all three or the club if it becomes more trouble than it’s worth.

Regarding the pink site thread linked above, if she is closing every sale she's doing something crazy right. Especially since a lot of guys like to hang out a bit before buying dances. But I do see a decent number of PLs buy dances with the first girl who approaches even if I know she's a 6 who gives mediocre dances.

IMO, Subraman's direct approach is best - in SC-bizarro world, either you as the custy, and the one paying, is in control, or the dancer(s) is in control - reality is dancers hone their skills by being in the club multiple days per week for months and years on end, so they are better at controlling/manipulating custies than custies are at controlling the situation.

As in any sales type job, competition can often be fierce and cutthroat - a dancer being nice, polite, and understanding, may often lose out on business especially to the more cutthroat dancers - i.e. you can only control you but you doing your part as the cu$ty can often go a long way towards things running more appropriately or setting the proper tone.

Dancer manipulation of PLs is part of the SC bizarro-world - i.e. as regular, or just being a previous custy, means a dancer that knows you will often come up to you as soon as she sees you and act as if you are manna-from-heaven to where the avg PL then feels bad about sending her off or not spending any $$$ on her "b/c she's so happy to see you" - so it def takes having some sorta of gameplan as Subraman mentioned in order to navigate SC bizarro-world.

As Subra mentioned, being straightforward is the best way to go - as soon as a PL shows one bit of weakness/apprehension/lack-of-balls, it's like blood-in-the-water for the sharks.

No way a PL can please every dancer (unless he's just wealthy to where $$$ is no object, o/w it's not really feasible) - and with dancers, often times the more you give the more they will expect - i.e. trying to be "Mr Nice" or "Mr Can't Say No" will usually be an unsustainable downward spiral.

A PL should constantly remind himself, even if he has to repeat it to himself in the club, "the strip club visit is about me" - sounds selfish but it's not - it's really the only practical way o/w you end up spending all your $$$ trying to please the dancers vs enjoying your visit as you'd like.

But - it's not a bad-idea to be somewhat political - i.e. just sending her off on her way may bruise her ego in addition to being pissed about losing out on your $$$ - so buying her a drink and/or giving her a little tip as you let her know the deal does something to smooth the situation.

Dancers intimidating/bullying other dancers def seems to happen - perhaps it's more of an issue in certain types of rougher/seedier clubs - I hate that shit and at times I've had to put a bully-dancer in her place and not gotten dances w/ her b/c she's tried to bully or intimidate other dancers from getting w/ me.

Just go to the club and have fun. I’ve been in a similar situation. I honestly ate up all the drama. That shit would excite me like a little girl to have these girls fighting over me (or my money however the fuck you want to prouncounce it)

Another vote for the "Subraman Method".

I learned not to give out my phone number to dancers because of a situation getting out of control. Or at least limit who has it