Well, it depends on whether or not you know why you are there. If you want to imbibe a sexual aesthetic, or if you actually want to know dancers, should be fine. But also, you won't need to go very often.
But if you are there as an escape, or for sexual gratification, or cheating on and SO, then at a minimum you should feel conflicted.
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I used to but not for the reasons above. Sometimes my penis is just too tired from me jerking it off all day to go to the club. But then I say pull your shit together and give it a pep talk and then we go and have a good time. I just have to remember to not give it a pep talk at the bar. The women always act strange.
Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame,
With conquering limbs astride from land to land;
Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall stand
A mighty woman with a torch, whose flame
Is the imprisoned lightning, and her name
Mother of Exiles. From her beacon-hand
Glows world-wide welcome; her mild eyes command
The air-bridged harbor that twin cities frame.
“Keep, ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she
With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me,
I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”
I grew up in a conservative household where as a kid I went to church regularly - so conservative religious principles is what was ingrained in me and what I grew-up with - thus when I started SCing somewhat regularly in my early-30s I *was* morally conflicted about it and to a certain-level would beat myself up about it - but w/ time I came to accept that not going to strip-clubs didn't necessarily make my life better nor happier - w/ time I just accepted I enjoy strip-clubs.
The other guilt aspect is financial - I had a fair-amount of financial-insecurity growing-up where finances were often a strain on the family - thus that too affected my mindset w.r.t. $$$ growing-up and I do worry, and to some extent beat myself up, w.r.t. all the $$$ I spend/have-spent strip-clubbing - but for the most-part I have come to terms w/ it - i.e. I don't think I'd be any happier having more $$$ but not having experienced what I have experienced being a monger - there's a reason most of us SC, and that reason does not go away by not going to strip-clubs - i.e. taking strip-clubs out likely means one is just left w/ that void that initially led you to strip-clubs.
Yes it usually is financial. A lot of times it’s between the SC or SA. But I usually have great time at the club it’s all good. I’d do 2018 again although I saved very little
I only ever had bad feelings about going the first time. Sometimes I think about what others might think about me if they knew I went as often as I did. Personally, now, I don't have any negative feelings about strip clubs; I always look forward to going to just about any club and feel comfortable and at home inside them.
I think the only thing a guy should feel conflicted about and disgusted by is if he goes to strip clubs trolling for hookers, or relies on strippers as the only contact they have with women and would rather pay than work on themselves.
I think the only thing a guy should feel conflicted about and disgusted by is if he goes to strip clubs trolling for hookers, or relies on strippers as the only contact they have with women and would rather pay than work on themselves.
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