It's the season of being contacted by your past
Warrenboy75
Anywhere in the USA on any given day
It doesn't matter if the women are dancers, SB's, escorts, or civilians. If the relationship was transactional or if there was something there in terms of friendship or even more. If it was short term or long term, or if it was someone from last year or years ago.
I commented on this last year but I seem to be off and running with the ghost of past encounters/relationships this year as Thanksgiving approaches.
I'm always curious why. Obviously if something ended it did so with a reason and speaking only for myself if I ended seeing someone for whatever the reason the bottom line is I no longer thought the good outweighed the bad.
In the last 24 hours ( and we haven't hit the Christmas season yet) I 've had an ex "favorite" me on Seeking Arrangement. I have two e-mails from two different ex's checking in to see how I am doing, and a text from another woman wanting to let me know if I am ever back in her area to call her so we can get together for a drink or two.
This isn't a humble or not so humble brag. I'm honestly mystified on why this happens. In all four cases there were good reasons why the get togethers stopped. The cynic in me of course thinks it is all about the money.
Still I'd like to get a real female perspective as well as the men ( trolls can keep under the bridge if possible)
Lets face it if I wasn't good enough to hold her attention at one time what's with the attention now?
I commented on this last year but I seem to be off and running with the ghost of past encounters/relationships this year as Thanksgiving approaches.
I'm always curious why. Obviously if something ended it did so with a reason and speaking only for myself if I ended seeing someone for whatever the reason the bottom line is I no longer thought the good outweighed the bad.
In the last 24 hours ( and we haven't hit the Christmas season yet) I 've had an ex "favorite" me on Seeking Arrangement. I have two e-mails from two different ex's checking in to see how I am doing, and a text from another woman wanting to let me know if I am ever back in her area to call her so we can get together for a drink or two.
This isn't a humble or not so humble brag. I'm honestly mystified on why this happens. In all four cases there were good reasons why the get togethers stopped. The cynic in me of course thinks it is all about the money.
Still I'd like to get a real female perspective as well as the men ( trolls can keep under the bridge if possible)
Lets face it if I wasn't good enough to hold her attention at one time what's with the attention now?
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I do have a few past SBs who are out of state and hear from them now and then.
Warrenboy75 - what's the age difference with these girls? The ones I go after are roughly 20 years younger, so I really don't expect much contact after it's over. If they were closer in age it might be different. Or perhaps you just have something going on about you that I've never had.
For a past one to be contacting u money or loss of big ticket client key. Or a relationship may have ended but their being in a relationship has not been a factor in them wanting meet up. Usually I would be rotating 2 on roster.
Another reason is if they back from out of town. Katy came back from Ariz after a couple of years. Pop was offered 120 covered and 200 bb. She had She was a 5 star fuk and I was excited reconnect w her. She was working as college counselor but like most of them still played.
Whether escort, stripper, or SD site gal they are sex workers play for pay. Makes no difference.
I believe in French method - my age divided by 2 plus seven yr - optimal girl that or younger.
So one stripper otc whore yielded 2 bonus girls.
With the SA girls I tend to look at things the same way you do. You have fun and when you don't or when someone's life changes you move on. I've been on SA for nearly seven years now. One of the things you notice is how often women move these days. They disappear from the area you met them in ( and if you are like me and travel a fair amount) you suddenly see them in another part of the country.
Some are in school and finish --nurses, teachers mostly- and their life changes, along with their need for money. It's a good ending and an understandable one.
This is probably just me overthinking things which I do at times but my first impulse when I see these text or e-mails out of the blue is something went off plan with their lives or that dating people their own age doesn't measure up to what and how they recall the past.
...But apparently that’s a concept that circulated around with no hard science backing it up.
Good for you Warrenboy75. Even if they are contacting you purely for financial reasons, you should view this as a sign of success in life. My experience has been that the guys who get re-contacted the most are polite, respectful, have other redeeming qualities, and don't jerk the girl around when it's time to pay. They might remember the creepy guys for the rest of their lives, but they don't ever contact them again. There's an art to "dating" girls that much younger in the p4p world, and it sounds to me like you're doing it right.
"my first impulse when I see these text or e-mails out of the blue is something went off plan with their lives or that dating people their own age doesn't measure up to what and how they recall the past."
This is probably true. But how many guys do these girls swap contact information with? They remembered you and they contacted you? Yes, they need money, but a lot of these girls are in a position to be selective with regard to how they go about it. If you want to see any of them again, then I suggest you enjoy it for what it is.
However, the cynic in me believes it's only about the money.
Often times it's b/c the dancer finds a particular PL more manipulatable/easier-mark, than the "jerk"