Is there a limit to how many times you guys try to see your ATF outside of the club? What do you guys consider too frequent? Is once every weekend a good? Or do you think it's better to space it out like every 2 weeks?
I’d say yes. Granted, it seems like you like your ATF too much so I guess as long as your budget can handle it and she doesn’t start slacking is what’s more important.
I can't imagine having the time to see her even once a week, much less more than that. Plus, I prefer quality of quantity when it comes to OTC -- with 5-hour to overnight OTCs, we've pretty much seen each other enough for a little while. It's "too much" if I haven't had enough time since our last OTC, to be crazy for her when it's time for our next OTC.
There are no lines. I first started seeing my ATF OTC about 9 years ago. I was doing pretty good financially so I’d pay her $500 an hour and see her at least twice a week, occasionally more often. We took two vacations together and text or talk almost every day.
My wife was chronically ill so I stopped work to take care of her, but would have a home health aide in at least once a week so I could see my ATF. After my wife died my ATF moved in to live in a suite upstairs for about 6 months. She threw me a few freebies for the room & board and I paid for some “dates” as well. She’s 40 years younger than I, and has maintained male friends outside our “relationship”.
Several months ago she moved over 1,000 miles away and we talk/text often. She’s got a new BF now and feels it’s getting serious.
Yesterday she sent me 4 short porn videos starring her and her BF. I’ve always been a bit of a voyeur and I personally think she’s one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever known. I have wonderful memories of our time together and of our sex together and to relive those memories watching her sucking another mans dick and licking his cum off her fingers may be a little weird or perverted to some, but is very enjoyable for me. There’s one of the videos which I can’t quite figure out - on first glance I thought she was rimming him which surprised me since she’s never been into anal stuff too much but a second look it might just be her sitting on his face.
“Are you saying that even if I'm willing to pay for more sessions an OTC stripper won't see me more than once a week?”
They probably would. But it might get to to requiring more emotional labor to maintain, so she might either start either flaking more or having a less “pleasing” attitude.
Or I guess there might be the off chance you get converted to a FWB or something.
“I'm more afraid of the slacking off part. Also I don't want to make it seem like I'm desperate for her attention.”
Hm...I think you need another fav who is also fantastic but for a completely different reason. Some variety might help you become more outcome independent.
I think I can only handle one favorite at a time; too many and I'd probably lose my mind. Ideally I'd love to spend as much time with my ATF as possible without giving off the impression that I'm too into her (even though I am).
“Also I don't want to make it seem like I'm desperate for her attention.”
I long ago gave up on maintaining an appearance of aloofness where my ATF is concerned. Of course, I think our relationship is significantly different than your situation. I’m objective enough about it, however to understand that you might not see that difference, or acknowledge it.
At the height of my patheticness with her, we would see each other two or three times per month. We fit an overnight in there occasionally as well, but mostly it was an afternoon before she went to work.
Now, it’s catch as catch can, as one or the other of us visits the other. She just recently visited here, and we spent most of the weekend together.
For other favorites, once or twice a month. The MILF is less often because of her situation, but she makes up for it.
these days, my OTC exploits have been to find a stripper my SB and I both like and get her to come join us. I have found that girls that would not do OTC with just me have readily agreed to do an OTC threesome after they have met SB.
SB and I see each other at least 3 times a month, and we'll try to add an OTC girl at least one of those times. I have found that if I don't do an OTC with a stripper at least once a month that she loses interest and stops answering texts.
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My wife was chronically ill so I stopped work to take care of her, but would have a home health aide in at least once a week so I could see my ATF. After my wife died my ATF moved in to live in a suite upstairs for about 6 months. She threw me a few freebies for the room & board and I paid for some “dates” as well. She’s 40 years younger than I, and has maintained male friends outside our “relationship”.
Several months ago she moved over 1,000 miles away and we talk/text often. She’s got a new BF now and feels it’s getting serious.
Yesterday she sent me 4 short porn videos starring her and her BF. I’ve always been a bit of a voyeur and I personally think she’s one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever known. I have wonderful memories of our time together and of our sex together and to relive those memories watching her sucking another mans dick and licking his cum off her fingers may be a little weird or perverted to some, but is very enjoyable for me. There’s one of the videos which I can’t quite figure out - on first glance I thought she was rimming him which surprised me since she’s never been into anal stuff too much but a second look it might just be her sitting on his face.
I'm more afraid of the slacking off part. Also I don't want to make it seem like I'm desperate for her attention.
They probably would. But it might get to to requiring more emotional labor to maintain, so she might either start either flaking more or having a less “pleasing” attitude.
Or I guess there might be the off chance you get converted to a FWB or something.
“I'm more afraid of the slacking off part. Also I don't want to make it seem like I'm desperate for her attention.”
Hm...I think you need another fav who is also fantastic but for a completely different reason. Some variety might help you become more outcome independent.
I think I can only handle one favorite at a time; too many and I'd probably lose my mind. Ideally I'd love to spend as much time with my ATF as possible without giving off the impression that I'm too into her (even though I am).
I long ago gave up on maintaining an appearance of aloofness where my ATF is concerned. Of course, I think our relationship is significantly different than your situation. I’m objective enough about it, however to understand that you might not see that difference, or acknowledge it.
At the height of my patheticness with her, we would see each other two or three times per month. We fit an overnight in there occasionally as well, but mostly it was an afternoon before she went to work.
Now, it’s catch as catch can, as one or the other of us visits the other. She just recently visited here, and we spent most of the weekend together.
For other favorites, once or twice a month. The MILF is less often because of her situation, but she makes up for it.
SB and I see each other at least 3 times a month, and we'll try to add an OTC girl at least one of those times. I have found that if I don't do an OTC with a stripper at least once a month that she loses interest and stops answering texts.
I don't pay for OTC and I was wondering how it usually goes for those that have to pay
So true, I find if I see one of my model-quality FWB (not P4P) hotties more than once a week they start to get clingy and possessive.
A little two_bits goes a long way, if you get my drift