Times change I guess - there was a time where it was considered bad-manners to wear a cap or hat indoors.
And there are actually many clubs that don't allow caps nor hats to be worn - IDK if that is b/c they don't want to then have to allowed hoodies, or if they just don't want to allow any type of head-wear.
It's probably mostly b/c of my age, but I find wearing hoodies indoors as annoying as young-dudes wearing pants halfway down their ass and dudes wearing sunglasses inside a dark-ass strip club.
Truth. Absolute double standard. It comes from fear. And it's sadly a lesson a smart mom needs to delicately convey to her teenage sons (white, tan, black, or eskimo) that society *may* fear you.
Part of it comes from the old knight standard of raising one's visor to another, so he can clearly see your face. To wear a hood is to fail the rules of chivalry: to raise one's visor to another passing knight.
Back to the first point: And do not get shot or incorrectly judged out of fear, a boy aged 14-25 needs to understand a few mannerisms. These are what my mom told my brother and me:
+ Don't walk with your hood up. They don't know you're not a gang member even though you're white.
+ Don't walk with your hands in your pockets. They, especially a cop, will assume you'll have a weapon. You will be shot and killed and no, it isn't fair.
+ When stopped in your car by the police ... it you're going for your wallet add registration, do it quickly and subtly *before* he gets out of the car, or *stop* once he gets up to window. Time's up!
+ Ask a police office if you can can open the glove box/armrest/ get your wallet out. He doesn't know you, doesn't know you're a good student / accepted to Ivy league or Julliard / not in a gang / not a skinhead / not going for a weapon. He will shoot you. No, it isn't fair.
+ When the officer is at your window, put your hands on the TOP (11 and 1, or 12 noon) the steering wheel Both hands. No sudden movement. ASK to get your wallet. ASK to get your registration. ASK to get your insurance card out. Then put your hands back on top of the wheel. If he's looking away, put the items on the dash where he can see them.
+ Do not *rubber neck* (look) a police office in a car as you drive by. Do not *point* to him or point him out to your passenger either. He will take it the wrong way. No it's not fair.
+ You are not a punk ass for following cops' directions, formally addressing them as "Officer," or asking him permission to do basic things. You are not "putting your hands up" or showing guilt. You're showing respect to someone who is deathly afraid you will hurt him or kill him. True story.
+ Do no consent to searches. Ask "if [you] are free to go or if [you] are being detained." This is the only time you should be stern with him. Repeat it if does not answer you clearly but do not get cocky, confrontational, explain that you pay his salary, will sue his ass, or any embellishments He's trying to trick you into giving up your Constitutional rights. He's trying to push your buttons. Be smarter than him.
+ Finally, you're a young man aged 14-25. Lots of people will be fearful or suspicious of you for that reason alone just because you're born male or you "fit the description of someone we're looking for."
Yes, it's a double standard. I doubt young girls get told the advice written above.
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Dont give me the "base ball caps is a different typw of hat in that it is for sporting events " type bull shit
And there are actually many clubs that don't allow caps nor hats to be worn - IDK if that is b/c they don't want to then have to allowed hoodies, or if they just don't want to allow any type of head-wear.
P.S.
GET OF MY LAWN - punk
Part of it comes from the old knight standard of raising one's visor to another, so he can clearly see your face. To wear a hood is to fail the rules of chivalry: to raise one's visor to another passing knight.
Back to the first point: And do not get shot or incorrectly judged out of fear, a boy aged 14-25 needs to understand a few mannerisms. These are what my mom told my brother and me:
+ Don't walk with your hood up. They don't know you're not a gang member even though you're white.
+ Don't walk with your hands in your pockets. They, especially a cop, will assume you'll have a weapon. You will be shot and killed and no, it isn't fair.
+ When stopped in your car by the police ... it you're going for your wallet add registration, do it quickly and subtly *before* he gets out of the car, or *stop* once he gets up to window. Time's up!
+ Ask a police office if you can can open the glove box/armrest/ get your wallet out. He doesn't know you, doesn't know you're a good student / accepted to Ivy league or Julliard / not in a gang / not a skinhead / not going for a weapon. He will shoot you. No, it isn't fair.
+ When the officer is at your window, put your hands on the TOP (11 and 1, or 12 noon) the steering wheel Both hands. No sudden movement. ASK to get your wallet. ASK to get your registration. ASK to get your insurance card out. Then put your hands back on top of the wheel. If he's looking away, put the items on the dash where he can see them.
+ Do not *rubber neck* (look) a police office in a car as you drive by. Do not *point* to him or point him out to your passenger either. He will take it the wrong way. No it's not fair.
+ You are not a punk ass for following cops' directions, formally addressing them as "Officer," or asking him permission to do basic things. You are not "putting your hands up" or showing guilt. You're showing respect to someone who is deathly afraid you will hurt him or kill him. True story.
+ Do no consent to searches. Ask "if [you] are free to go or if [you] are being detained." This is the only time you should be stern with him. Repeat it if does not answer you clearly but do not get cocky, confrontational, explain that you pay his salary, will sue his ass, or any embellishments He's trying to trick you into giving up your Constitutional rights. He's trying to push your buttons. Be smarter than him.
+ Finally, you're a young man aged 14-25. Lots of people will be fearful or suspicious of you for that reason alone just because you're born male or you "fit the description of someone we're looking for."
Yes, it's a double standard. I doubt young girls get told the advice written above.
No. Shurikens though. So watch out for ninjas .. or lawyers. ;)
SJG
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