What do you guys think.
Salty.Nutz
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do you guys ever get the impression that strippers try to make or they feel owed the money when they sit with you when they try to sell you a lap dance? i have been experimenting with two different techniques. 1) as soon as they approach i tell them to go to the back. they dont start dancing until a new dance starts.
2) i sit with them for a bit, we chit-chat. but as soon as we get to the back they want to start dancing even if its an old song.
with both techniques mileage is the same, but with option 1 if feel like i can stop the lappers as soon as the 1st song is over if i dont like the way she dances. However, when i do option 2 i sometimes feel obligated to buy more songs, because i take into account the songs she sat with me.
2) i sit with them for a bit, we chit-chat. but as soon as we get to the back they want to start dancing even if its an old song.
with both techniques mileage is the same, but with option 1 if feel like i can stop the lappers as soon as the 1st song is over if i dont like the way she dances. However, when i do option 2 i sometimes feel obligated to buy more songs, because i take into account the songs she sat with me.
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If they do close the deal, trying to start mid-song is a red flag. If I just intend on getting dances the one time, I'll usually stop her and ask her to wait. I've had a few object and we've called the whole thing off, still with no payment. Most acknowledge and are fine with it. If I plan on getting more dances or seeing her again, I'll let it go and see if she counts the dance. Mostly because its worth the cost of a dance to see what her tendencies are in that dept. I'm a regular stripper kinda guy, girls who try to cultivate regulars don't try to get them to pay for a ~90 second dance and I'd rather figure out that's what I've got after paying for one dance rather than spending all day and buying drinks/dances then figuring it out.
In any case, I'm more than willing to stop at once dance if I'm not enjoying it. I don't care if she sat and talked with me for an hour first. And I'm also not very tolerant of girls starting mid song. I'm not a total cheapskate about it, if we're 10s in I'm not gonna ask her to wait. But otherwise either I'll stop it before it starts or let it play out to learn something, I don't just tolerate it because that's what she wants.
One of the reasons I like to sit at the bar and have a drink with the girl is it gives both of us a chance to see if we are on the same mindset.
If so it avoids misunderstandings....if not I move on and I'm at the bar---other people are nearby so again no chance to make something out of nothing to claim I owe her.
BTW I don't care if the drink she sips is water, coffee (as one of my favorites at CH3 does) or alcohol.....
Some dancers feel entitled to payment for every service - even acting interested - and I stay away from those dancers.
I’m going to the club to relax - and not worry about running a tab for just chatting with a dancer. If the dancers at a particular club act largely like that - I will avoid the club.
As far as generally sitting and talking with a stripper, it makes some difference if she invited herself to sit down and solicit dances or if I initiated the conversation in a busy club. I don’t mind paying for time spent if I’m seeking her time but I won’t pay for it if she is the one that initiated the conversation unless I really end up enjoying the experience. I try to quickly and politely tell her “no thanks” if she approaches me I’m not interested.
Lost track of her years ago, sadly.
The time she spends trying to sell a dance doesn't mean anything either. It takes a little bit of time anyway to get a feel for a new girl and decide to bite on a dance. Usually, i can tell almost right away if i'm not interested in a girl. I won't waste her time much in that case, essentially acting as if she's not there. If she still keeps trying to sell or talk or whatever, that's on her.
If you do want to engage, give her money and get her onto your lap.
Buying dances is a chump's game. Turn on some charm and get a front room makeout session going. Then when it is time for your own pants to come down, you invite her to the back room.
SJG
" If you don't want to engage with the girl, give her something and send her on her way." is it okay if i give her herpes?