What are the most important things to you during a lap dance?
theDirkDiggler
Illinois
Friday, May 11, 2018 12:54 AM
1. Mileage, mileage, mileage! (no explanation necessary or is there?)
2. GFE/connection - usually involves a familiarity, comfort or affectionate "friendliness" but not "friendzone". Basically a lot of things you might do or have with a girlfriend but in a lap dance.
3. Sexiness/sensuality - is kind of similar to GFE/connection except many a girlfriend or SO may be neither very sexy or sensual. This might also involve her pleasure, faked or otherwise.
4. LDK - happy endings without extras for those that want them.
5. Visuals - enjoying the sight of a beautiful naked woman and all of her physical charms on your lap and includes looks and appearances.
6. Fantasy/role play - often involves more specific acts or personal kinks and includes lap dance positions.
7. Dirty talk and other conversation - more like the aural (or oral, npi) versions of visuals and also includes moaning and friendly banter.
8. Other - like i'm not sure where personality/attitude would fit, maybe 2 or 3 or even 6, or if it even needs its own category. This would include anything else.
9. I don't do/understand lap dances - for the non chump, or the give me extras or OTC or give me nothing crowd (if that is a thing).
There is definitely a lot of overlap between categories. For instance, DFK or even LFK (as rare as it is outside of San Jose, apparently) would fall in the mileage category first, but depending on the quality of it, could also fall in the GFE/connection and sexiness/sensuality categories. It could even fall a bit into the fantasy/role play and for some of the quick triggers, it might even abet in causing LDK. Also some categories (like visuals) could even be like prerequisites for the more important categories to you.
I guess i should probably limit this to VHM dances and below, because once extras get involved (UHM+), mileage becomes an entirely different animal and tends to dominate the "dance" (where it might not even really be a dance anymore), usually becoming the obvious reason for having them.
If there are any other categories that you felt i likely missed, please feel free to add them.
2. GFE/connection - usually involves a familiarity, comfort or affectionate "friendliness" but not "friendzone". Basically a lot of things you might do or have with a girlfriend but in a lap dance.
3. Sexiness/sensuality - is kind of similar to GFE/connection except many a girlfriend or SO may be neither very sexy or sensual. This might also involve her pleasure, faked or otherwise.
4. LDK - happy endings without extras for those that want them.
5. Visuals - enjoying the sight of a beautiful naked woman and all of her physical charms on your lap and includes looks and appearances.
6. Fantasy/role play - often involves more specific acts or personal kinks and includes lap dance positions.
7. Dirty talk and other conversation - more like the aural (or oral, npi) versions of visuals and also includes moaning and friendly banter.
8. Other - like i'm not sure where personality/attitude would fit, maybe 2 or 3 or even 6, or if it even needs its own category. This would include anything else.
9. I don't do/understand lap dances - for the non chump, or the give me extras or OTC or give me nothing crowd (if that is a thing).
There is definitely a lot of overlap between categories. For instance, DFK or even LFK (as rare as it is outside of San Jose, apparently) would fall in the mileage category first, but depending on the quality of it, could also fall in the GFE/connection and sexiness/sensuality categories. It could even fall a bit into the fantasy/role play and for some of the quick triggers, it might even abet in causing LDK. Also some categories (like visuals) could even be like prerequisites for the more important categories to you.
I guess i should probably limit this to VHM dances and below, because once extras get involved (UHM+), mileage becomes an entirely different animal and tends to dominate the "dance" (where it might not even really be a dance anymore), usually becoming the obvious reason for having them.
If there are any other categories that you felt i likely missed, please feel free to add them.
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Her entire goal and focus must be making me cum. It sounds very self centered - but it’s one time where I’m fully focused on my desires.
For me it's more like a porno than a romance-novel - I go to SCs to fulfill my physical-needs not to cure loneliness nor fill a void from not having an S.O. or an S.O. that does not meet my needs
I thought you would ask to add another option
#11 Huge black asses and titties.
When a girl breathes in your ear, moans a little, moves so sensual it makes the hairs on my neck stand up, it’s so much better than just staring at a pussy sitting on my lap.
I have recently been enlightened by a Strip Club savant.
He preaches to treat dancers as if they are civilians. Paying dancers for dances is a chump's game and only serves to heighten one's sexual frustration.
Treat them like civilians and they will provide a GFE in the Front Room with all the DFK you can handle. Only when you are ready for your pants to come off are you ready for 1 of 2 scenarios
1. Take her to the back room.
Or the preferred outcome
2. Chloroform her, somehow take her to your Mom's home on your Huffy bike, carry her to your bed in the basement and perform coitus while she is still unconscious.
On second thought,that guy is a wacko.
1,3,5
At the clubs you go to, if the lap dances are so "useless", probably low mileage/contact/nudity, whatever as well as heavily monitored, strict, overpriced, etc, are the VIPs really that much better? When i think of the few (or many really) crappy lap dance clubs in my area, their VIP options aren't known for extras or UHM either. Same deal, girl won't put out and/or the club won't allow it. Do any PLs get dances at those clubs or do the girls even try selling them?
Buying dances is a chump's game. Need to get your girl off script so that you can lead it. Front room makeout session, then when it is time for your own pants to come down, you invite her to the back room.
SJG
I can’t thank you enough!
i did a 2 for $40 with two different dancers of similar attractiveness. both of these girls are near or around an 8 of hotness.
the first dancer gave a dance that was noticeably robotic. it wasn't a bad dance, but it was average at best. the other dancer gave me one of the best dances i've had in a while and she just seemed like she was actually cared about giving a good dance. in other words, she didn't give me a lower quality dance----just because i got the 2 for 40 special.
its interesting how much dancers can differ in friendliness and in how much effort they put into a lap dance. obviously, dancers can't allow everything---but you would think that they would want to give a good effort during dances--that way they can draw customers to their club to see them again
i know this is totally off topic.........but ameila......can you shed some light on this? :-)
Sounds like a very hot dancer, and a hot dance too.
Not really a fan of 7 unless it's done in moderation. Some girls are good at this, most are not. When it's overdone it's so obviously fake that it actually kills my wood.
Buying dances is a chump's game because your girl does not have to open up to you, she leads it.
What you want is to get your girl off script, so that whatever further ensues is more civilian in nature. So the most important thing is to start with a front room makeout session. Then when it is time for your own pants to come down, you invite her to the back room.
SJG
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The way to change this and get her opened up and completely off script is a front room makeout session.
SJG