Thankfully I am an old pro.....
skibum609
Massachusetts
It has been a long time since I broke some of my rules/habits, but a new dancer compelled me to do so. Saw her one afternoon after my atf sat, chatted and realized I had no plans to do anything for an hour or so. As per usual she said she'd talk to her other regulars and check back on me. After she disappeared I saw a "new" dancer. Total spinner and as it turns out some Japanese heritage gave her a unique look. She was busy, but so hot I actually got off my ass and tipped her at the stage. She came over after her set and to my amazement it turns out she is not only a skier, but a serious skier who knew a lot of local knowledge about area we've been out west. I then skipped my usual testing period of two topless dances and went straight to the CR. Nope. No negotiations, since I negotiate about .001% of the time. Great CR though with way more than I anticipated. Tipped her well and off I went after a pleasant 2 hours with her. Never saw my atf until I was walking out.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and I break another rule and go on a Saturday night. Awful decision. Big annoying bachelor party and the idea that some fat guy is getting hit with a belt by fake boob strippers on the main stage in this small club is borderline nauseating. I am just about ready to go after wasting 90 minutes when voila - there she is. Hi Mr. skier and she sits down. Seemed honestly glad to see me as I was to see her. Spent a lot of time chatting and having cocktails. Great affectionate time with kissing and cuddling. Off to the CR and the experience was unlike 99+% of what I have had. A true gfe, but gfe as in real life gfe. Amazing kisser. Beyond amazing. A Cr experience that most closely compared to real life enjoyment with someone you "loved". Afterwards and even though I was spent we cuddled for a long time as we watched the stage. I was the one who finally called it quits. I put this in top three lifetime experiences. The catch? It seemed really real. Not strip club real, but real life real. As I vaped some Guerilla Glue #4 on the way home I thought how glad I was that I have been doing this for a long time because it took me 40 miles to remember that she is a pro; it really wasn't real; and that I was glad I said no to her phone number offer. The best thing is it gave me an understanding of how guys can fall for a stripper, because 40 year old me would and 60 year old me would write this instead.
Final note. Saw the atf as I was leaving and it makes me wonder if I am still on her list lol.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and I break another rule and go on a Saturday night. Awful decision. Big annoying bachelor party and the idea that some fat guy is getting hit with a belt by fake boob strippers on the main stage in this small club is borderline nauseating. I am just about ready to go after wasting 90 minutes when voila - there she is. Hi Mr. skier and she sits down. Seemed honestly glad to see me as I was to see her. Spent a lot of time chatting and having cocktails. Great affectionate time with kissing and cuddling. Off to the CR and the experience was unlike 99+% of what I have had. A true gfe, but gfe as in real life gfe. Amazing kisser. Beyond amazing. A Cr experience that most closely compared to real life enjoyment with someone you "loved". Afterwards and even though I was spent we cuddled for a long time as we watched the stage. I was the one who finally called it quits. I put this in top three lifetime experiences. The catch? It seemed really real. Not strip club real, but real life real. As I vaped some Guerilla Glue #4 on the way home I thought how glad I was that I have been doing this for a long time because it took me 40 miles to remember that she is a pro; it really wasn't real; and that I was glad I said no to her phone number offer. The best thing is it gave me an understanding of how guys can fall for a stripper, because 40 year old me would and 60 year old me would write this instead.
Final note. Saw the atf as I was leaving and it makes me wonder if I am still on her list lol.
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Maybe some part of her passion was sincere. Maybe she’s looking for a solid, caring guy IRL. Maybe that guy is you.
Great to recognize when you broke a rule and take steps to avoid a greater disaster. Life guardrail, everyone needs them
I think I understand why you don't take phone numbers. You have a wife at home and wish to leave your interactions with strippers at the club and away from your "real life." In this instance, however, I might have made an exception to that rule as she seems to have some real and unique OTC potential. Assuming, of course, that you would be able to keep your head straight after an unrestrained afternoon or evening in a hotel room with this girl.
In any event, thanks for sharing.
Some of us dont have the ideal spouse situation which opens up other means to bring pleasure and balance in our lives. If I had that experience that girl would be a CF and likely in my hotel room on a regular basis.
>Translation of skibum's swinger post: "C',mon now guys. Instead just find a woman who is just ok with it. After all, that can't be too rare, right? And then you can let other guys fuck her and don't worry if she's the mother of your children or anything, because that's ok too."
Fucking brilliant skibum. But not withstanding that oh-so sage advice, I think I'll just stick to my double standard where I keep a little ass on the side while not having the mother of my children getting fucked by strange men. ;)<
Typical Ricky Boy says one thing today and tomorrow he changes his tune.
Discipline equals longevity in this hobby.
You definitely found a good stripper. It’s rare for a dancer to relax and make you feel like you are all that matters (a true GFE). It’s also good that you have the wisdom to know how to handle the experience.
if you read carefully, I think you'll see that there was nothing contradictory in my posts here and what you managed to dredge up. They were two separate topics. Yes I disagreed with his notion regarding of how to get a green light to mess around with strippers. But that is separate and distinct from developing boundaries to keep stripper fun from bleeding into real life, which is the topic of this thread.
Honestly I know as well as anybody on here that a PL is prone to becoming an RIL, but if we use that same logic it *can* also apply to strippers. Not saying a PL will find and marry one because she falls in "true" love, but I am saying there is a possibility that true chemistry exists between a PL and stripper that can be simply an enhanced part of a standard stripper-PL business relationship. It's gravy when there is some actual chemistry. So many PLs are so negative and jaded about strippers not ever really "caring" beyond the money from a PL, so instead I say "pretend" with them that want to play the GFE card and enjoy it for what it is worth...ITC. Meaning, you can enjoy good chemistry with a stripper but it still can be no different than a 'mechanical' relationship that is still about money at its core. To be jaded about every emotional interaction with a stripper simply kills the fun. Enjoy the full GFE provided and then leave it in the club when it is over for the day.
Also I too set my limits with her - no phone number exchanges and no extras and no OTC. I too am married and in love with my wife / best friend. We don't swing but she does know I go to strip clubs and get dances. She basically turns a blind eye to it because she knows my sex drive vastly outpaces hers. But it doesn't mean I have carte blanche sex with strippers.
I actually think happily married guys are more grounded and realistic about the SS GFE "trap" from a stripper. We know and hold our limits better and we already know where our true loyalties are and where we go for true emotional support.
FWIW, even though my comment looks snarky when I look back at it, it wasn’t meant that way. I was simply curious.
For *me*, the kind of thing you described could never take away from what I have with my wife (or at least, hasn’t so far), but your later elucidation helps me understand why you might not want to take that chance, especially given the likelihood that it wasn’t as real as it seemed at the time.
I’m looking forward to hearing how things go the next time you encounter this new dancer.