Self deception? On the part of dancers?
PaulDrake
Off again on again PL
I don't think it is a controversial at all to say that guys can be self deceptive when it comes to their own experiences at the club. We tend to over exaggerate and brag.
But it seems like there is some self deception going on from the dancers as well. If you get on the "pink forum" a lot of the girls seem to describe making $500-1000 nightly (and without doing extras). But that math doesn't add up to me. Just keeping light observation one day it seems like most dancers in one club tended to average $20-30 in lap dances an hour plus $5-10 on stage.
Thoughts?
I know this is a weird topic. As someone else on here said strip clubs are bizzaro world. My personality is one where I try super hard to figure out anything that interests me and strip clubs are hard to understand.
But it seems like there is some self deception going on from the dancers as well. If you get on the "pink forum" a lot of the girls seem to describe making $500-1000 nightly (and without doing extras). But that math doesn't add up to me. Just keeping light observation one day it seems like most dancers in one club tended to average $20-30 in lap dances an hour plus $5-10 on stage.
Thoughts?
I know this is a weird topic. As someone else on here said strip clubs are bizzaro world. My personality is one where I try super hard to figure out anything that interests me and strip clubs are hard to understand.
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I don't remember any, zip, zero.
The other arguments in this discussion - regarding dancers and money - are a very different topic. Many dancers don’t maintain reasonable spending practices. They may get accustomed to having customers ready to hand them money - and that leads to them not thinking about saving money.
The difference with dancers is that their use of cash only will minimize their ability to create a credit history. The lack of credit - and the lack of a declared reasonable income - will hurt them when they stop dancing (or when their looks decline) as they won’t have the same flow of cash - and they will need credit.
It's hard to tell how much "average" strippers make (take home) at "average" clubs. I know they have considerable expenses ITC (rent, tip out, clothes) as well as OTC (transportation and sometimes lodging) so they might only net less than half of what you think they make (dances sold, VIPs and stage shows). I still think they make more than one dance an hour on average and a few dollars per stage show (although that's probably pretty accurate), but less than what the pink site would like to believe.
There are numerous reasons as to why the income a dancer talks about what she makes doesn't seem to add up at the end of the day, week, month and year.
Yes, there are exceptions---a lot less than what people even on this site think---just keep in mind SS as the term is used on here just doesn't happen between you and her--it happens between her and other girls at the club.
Tipping out depending on the club and the culture within can deliver a blow to the bottom line.
Hey I did great---but then I need to tip the management, the bartender, the DJ, the "mom", possibly pay for dinner---misc fees, etc.
Similar to Jordan--I've had conversations and heart to heart discussions with a few dancers over the years and watched their lifestyle not match their words." Denial isn't only a river in Egypt. "
okay, let's suppose for the sake of argument a dancer is making over 100K a year, you guys think that's good money, except you're not taking into account these tend to be young, immature girls with poor decision making skills, who are literally having guys throw money at them while they "party" at the club, so the usual sense of work = salary gets thrown out the door right there, for these girls it almost is as if money grows on trees...
then consider that of that 100K a girl might have to give 30K to a really damn good lawyer to deal with a pretty serious criminal issue or else her cute little toosh is gonna be behind bars for awhile,
then she spends another 30K buying a brand new car, which she then totals before the year is out,
most dancers i've known seem to have personal expenses of at least 3K per month, so 36K per year,
then throw in a couple of vacations overseas,
and by the end of that year that dancer who started out with 100K suddenly can't scrape up enough money to buy Christmas presents,
now this might be what i mean by really poor decision making, except that all of the above is completely hypothetical and made up and a work of fiction
Wednesday night I went in and there was a lesbian show on stage. The two dancers easily split 400 from that one 15 minute show. I'm not sure if this counts as extras
There are always exceptions to the rule but those generally are the girls with a plan. The truth is that many will quit dancing after less than 6 months. The reason most quoted is I don’t make much more than I would at a regular job after I figure all of my expenses. There are always new dancers and many bank for a short period of time but the lifestyle takes a major toll on both their looks and their thought process.
I wouldn’t doubt a dancers ability to make over $1k on a weekend night. That’s prime time - with guys going out - and bachelor parties. That’s also why I don’t go clubbing on weekends.
If a dancer works a few nights a week - she will probably be more energetic - and it will help with her customer interaction too. Her hustle may be much better - and fresher - and that should result in more money.
Those thoughts can be more prevalent - and much less realistic - as the money can be like a carrot in front of a rabbit’s nose.
Stripping is just like any other commission based sales job. You have to hustle. You have to build clientele. You have to master your craft. And you have "sell" yourself by knowing your audience and how to appeal to them. The strippers that do these things make the big money. Simply getting naked and shaking your tits isn't going to cut it. Sure, it'll get you a few tips on the stage and maybe a couple of regulars. But if you have to treat it like a business or a "real job" if you are going to make any money doing it.
So at the end of the night when the true hustlers tally up their earnings the stragglers want to be in that same conversation. When they've been at the bar playing video poker all night it wouldn't surprise me if they bragged about having a better night than they really did.
Conversely I doubt I share with even 5% of the population what I earn and almost always understate it if I share any financial information about my income.
Many dancers mentally tie the amount of money they make directly to their looks and sexuality. ( most sex workers do as well) Another reason why figures tend to be inflated.
Sometimes under estimating. But usually radically over estimating, extrapolating from their best night, or even their best hour.
SJG