Which dancers handle rejection worse?
theDirkDiggler
Illinois
I don't think i've ever outright rejected a superhottie (9+ dancer to me) unless i had previous experiences with them that were unfavorable. When that happens, they usually know that i didn't care for it because it was one and done with no tip and general coldness between us afterwards. So they don't usually approach me again unless they forget about me later, but i don't forget them. It's still pretty rare. Contrary to what i read on TUSCL, the superhotties don't tend to be ROBs or even high GPS (for regular dances, not extras or OTC) IME, maybe a little higher than the average. I know this because this is generally the type of dancer that i seek out. So i don't spend a lot of time at all turning down those type of dancers on the very rare moments i do turn them down. Also they don't tend to be "wanna dance" types and usually wait for me to ask them to dance when they sit with me. This is usually after i have already approached them on stage to let them know my interest in them. So there isn't much "risk" for them regarding me. In general, they don't rely on high hustle, but there are a few of these types, the really clean ones, that don't really have many regulars at all, that do.
So i guess they're not really used to rejection or at least high rates of it and probably take it worse than say the true ROBs who have no choice but to try to hustle/ROB every single new customer/chump (or customer that isn't familiar with them) they see. Those girls are like the salesman that plays the numbers game until they get the hit. Then you have the likely self-aware "dogs" that probably know that most PLs aren't initially (if ever) attracted to them. But they still have a certain confidence to try to sell a dance anyway. These are the ones that are always approaching customers who are waiting for the hotties. Some of them might do the wanna dance, but usually they try to do the physical flirting or sitting on the lap or intimate handshake, generally pretty aggressive hustle tactics and don't take no for an answer right away, asking if you're sure, often trying to persuade or even "arguing" with you or asking reasons why. In mixed clubs, they have a higher tendency to be black from my experience. But i have also seen the less attractive girls that seem terribly shy like they know and expect to get rejected and i try to do my best to not engage them or create eye contact or smile at them. They often have the bad/sad body language and are usually just standing around or hiding in the back or on their phones. The few times i have rejected this type, they look almost destroyed. They don't usually last in the club.
Then you have everything in between from the girls that do the double team (stupid) but i guess the rejection is ameliorated and divided so it's not as bad for them, to the extras girls (with varying levels of attractiveness, but usually not superhot) that are willing to do the hard sell to make a sale. You also have the baby strippers who usually aren't that different from the superhotties in their approach although many of them if not most are not super hot so they usually have higher rejection or at least less closes and less customers approaching them. They also don't usually last long. Then you have the older milfs who are usually much more motivated, both in the their hustle and their dances as well as the addicts who are desperate in their own way. Still, regardless of how willing they are to put themselves out there, they are still human and even the most confident girls are affected as many of the girls tie their value or attractiveness as a dancer to how many dances they can sell along with how much they earn.
This entire dynamic does play differently on weekends vs weeknights and dayshift vs evening just because of the number of customers and dancers, so these shifts and dancers often tend to select each other based on their hustle. In a way i guess i have already answered my question(s), but i was wondering how the rest of you experienced it.
So i guess they're not really used to rejection or at least high rates of it and probably take it worse than say the true ROBs who have no choice but to try to hustle/ROB every single new customer/chump (or customer that isn't familiar with them) they see. Those girls are like the salesman that plays the numbers game until they get the hit. Then you have the likely self-aware "dogs" that probably know that most PLs aren't initially (if ever) attracted to them. But they still have a certain confidence to try to sell a dance anyway. These are the ones that are always approaching customers who are waiting for the hotties. Some of them might do the wanna dance, but usually they try to do the physical flirting or sitting on the lap or intimate handshake, generally pretty aggressive hustle tactics and don't take no for an answer right away, asking if you're sure, often trying to persuade or even "arguing" with you or asking reasons why. In mixed clubs, they have a higher tendency to be black from my experience. But i have also seen the less attractive girls that seem terribly shy like they know and expect to get rejected and i try to do my best to not engage them or create eye contact or smile at them. They often have the bad/sad body language and are usually just standing around or hiding in the back or on their phones. The few times i have rejected this type, they look almost destroyed. They don't usually last in the club.
Then you have everything in between from the girls that do the double team (stupid) but i guess the rejection is ameliorated and divided so it's not as bad for them, to the extras girls (with varying levels of attractiveness, but usually not superhot) that are willing to do the hard sell to make a sale. You also have the baby strippers who usually aren't that different from the superhotties in their approach although many of them if not most are not super hot so they usually have higher rejection or at least less closes and less customers approaching them. They also don't usually last long. Then you have the older milfs who are usually much more motivated, both in the their hustle and their dances as well as the addicts who are desperate in their own way. Still, regardless of how willing they are to put themselves out there, they are still human and even the most confident girls are affected as many of the girls tie their value or attractiveness as a dancer to how many dances they can sell along with how much they earn.
This entire dynamic does play differently on weekends vs weeknights and dayshift vs evening just because of the number of customers and dancers, so these shifts and dancers often tend to select each other based on their hustle. In a way i guess i have already answered my question(s), but i was wondering how the rest of you experienced it.
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Have also read in the past custies having issues with black dancers in mixed clubs b/c they are often not the cup of tea of many of the predominantly white custies, and these black dancers at times pulling the race-card e.g. "why because I'm black?"
How do they react if you answer, "Yes."?
We're talking about the south side of Chicago, or south suburbs, but still, every club in that area is going to be "mixed" if not majority black. Even when i drove all the way to Iowa and went to a mostly white club with a couple black dancers, sure enough it was a black dancer that gave this type of hustle and attitude when rejected.
If that doesn't work, just sniff around in the air and pretend that someone farted and you suspect it was her.
You didn't fully read my post, yet you were still able to answer the question "better" than the others, not that the others were wrong at all. Most of them seem to be stuck on the black chicks not taking no for an answer or refusing to go away quietly when you reject them. Yet that doesn't seem to stop them that day or the next day. So i don't think they really take it that badly. They seem to have no problem trying to finagle a dance from a customer/PL that has no interest in them. So in that sense they're kind of like the ROBs. I'm more curious about the dancer that just feels like crap if a customer isn't interested in her and tends to just give up.
I was looking for a regular last night but she texted me she wasn't working so I was a free agent. A black dancer seemed to like me so I took her for a spin, and wow...she ended up taking all my money. Which was well worth it...was it because she was black or because she was a hot dancer with game...?